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To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

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SnowDogFarts · 14/12/2020 19:58

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

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OohImBlindedByTheLights · 20/12/2020 09:58

@Lovemusic33 that precious tag was for you haha!!

OohImBlindedByTheLights · 20/12/2020 09:59

Previous! Jeeze, what is wrong with my today!!

akitamiss · 20/12/2020 10:29

It's not so strange, but at the time the Belfast rugby player trial was on, and covered in a lot of the English press. This guy played when younger, was a big fan of the support, but his attitude towards the case was appalling. She must have enjoyed it, wouldn't you have liked to be done by those two, etc.

FarFromTheMaddeningToddler · 20/12/2020 11:30

He told me in a message that he’d had a ‘heptic’ day at work. He was a few years younger than me too and thought walking up and down the high street was a fun first date. In the evening when everything was closed! Nope.

Maigue · 20/12/2020 12:54

@FarFromTheMaddeningToddler

He told me in a message that he’d had a ‘heptic’ day at work. He was a few years younger than me too and thought walking up and down the high street was a fun first date. In the evening when everything was closed! Nope.
But was he pacific about the type of heptic day he’d had, @FarFromTheMaddeningToddler?
WeCanBeHeroesJust · 20/12/2020 13:08

Liverpool season ticket holder that went to every game at Anfield and as many away games as possible. I know how much time that takes in a person's life, and fully respect it as their hobby/pastime/interest. He's a really nice guy, and I still see him from time to time.

FarFromTheMaddeningToddler · 20/12/2020 13:10

@Maigue he possibly did, but I couldn’t read past any further than heptic Grin he also walked like a teenager, lolloping is the best way I can describe it, it’s all coming back to me now!

madcatladyforever · 20/12/2020 13:15

He looked ok, he like cats, he held his knife like a pen. That was it for me.

Devora13 · 20/12/2020 20:48

Not about me, but an ex colleague turned down a second date 'because he had shitty coloured shoes.'

napody · 20/12/2020 21:09

Some of these are making me cry laughing.
Hospital/Hosbubble
Sniffing each forkful of food
Massive old Mercedes like something Saddam Hussein would have been driven about in.
Kept using the word 'meal' Grin

Devora13 · 20/12/2020 22:43

18:28Oliversmumsarmy

Got asked out in a pub by a really good looking guy.
He said he had a car and could drive me home.

On making our way to the car park I saw his car was the sort that only had 3 wheels.

Made my excuses to go back into the pub then jumped on a bus.

I think I hung out with this guy for a while 😂
Mind you, he had a couple of motorcycles too. He was a total legend, though dropped me at work in the 3 wheeler once and I made him drop me in the next street so my colleagues wouldn't see!

Labobo · 21/12/2020 09:06

I went out a few times with a really stunning Danish man. He was a model and stopped traffic. But he insisted on taking me to anything he could get for free, so we sat through some dire concerts by bands neither of us liked while he talked all the way through about how wonderful it was that he hadn't had to pay for the tickets. And after about three dates he lost his temper - proper toddler tantrum - that I wouldn't sleep with him. He shouted, 'What's wrong with English women? Danish women sleep with me if I just ask. My friends sleep with me just for fun after a night chatting but in England even after a few dates, you say no.'
How could I resist? Hmm

Selfraising · 21/12/2020 10:03

The man who had said he was 36 (I was 28) but during the date started with "go on then, how old are you really".
"What...? I'm 28..... why would I lie... wait, how old are you really??"
Turns out he was 45.

Same guy - we were bowling (ha!) And I made some joke about bringing my own bowling shoes, wiggling my 4" heels around. He just... he didn't get it. Kept saying "i've never seen bowling shoes like that" and "i guess they must be a women's version". I thought he was trying to draw the joke out maybe, but no. Just thick af.

momtoboys · 21/12/2020 15:27

In my late 20's a coworker set me up with her brother who lived about 1/2 hour away. We were going to dinner and he was going to pick me up. He pulled up to my flat in a school bus. Yep, you read that right. A SCHOOL BUS! Apparently school bus driver was one of his many jobs.

I was so stunned that he expected me to get in the bus that I actually did. However we had to go to a chain restaurant called "Dennys" here in the States because that was the ONLY place the bus would be able to park. OMG. My face is bright red and hot even thinking about it all these years later!

cheesecrackersandcorona · 21/12/2020 15:33

@momtoboys did you have to sit behind the line and not talk to him? Did he drop you home afterwards?

momtoboys · 21/12/2020 15:41

[quote cheesecrackersandcorona]@momtoboys did you have to sit behind the line and not talk to him? Did he drop you home afterwards?[/quote]
I was a cooperative rider and sat in the seat behind him. LOL He did drive me home. My neighbors laughed about it for years!

cheesecrackersandcorona · 21/12/2020 17:20

That's so funny. I am picturing the awkwardness of the screen where you normally pay. Although maybe not on a school bus in America.

Thankyou for sharing Grin

Gibbsbasement · 21/12/2020 18:19

He was late 40's and on first date used lickle instead of little as a descriptor of a number of things he was talking about (often).

It irked me and I just couldn't listen to it again so no second date.

ikltownofboothlehem · 21/12/2020 19:19

@momtoboys - now I have an image of you dating Otto from The Simpsons! Grin

belle40 · 21/12/2020 20:42

I was told that I wasn't very clever as a real academic would work at Oxbridge. When I asked where he had graduated from I was told, 'university is pointless.I got all the education I need at the university of life.'

I left before the final course. No second date.

SarahAndQuack · 21/12/2020 20:44

@momtoboys

In my late 20's a coworker set me up with her brother who lived about 1/2 hour away. We were going to dinner and he was going to pick me up. He pulled up to my flat in a school bus. Yep, you read that right. A SCHOOL BUS! Apparently school bus driver was one of his many jobs. I was so stunned that he expected me to get in the bus that I actually did. However we had to go to a chain restaurant called "Dennys" here in the States because that was the ONLY place the bus would be able to park. OMG. My face is bright red and hot even thinking about it all these years later!
I don't get the issue? I'd find that slightly cute, even. Why is someone driving a bus embarrassing?
ikltownofboothlehem · 21/12/2020 21:07

@SarahAndQuack - sorry but being driven around on a school bus then being taken to a fairly big standard chain restaurant and dropped off home on the school bus again wouldn't be my idea of a great first date either. It's not cute. And he probably wasn't supposed to be driving the bus round after his shift anyway. It'd be like a London bus driver turning up in his double decker to pick you up.

SarahAndQuack · 21/12/2020 21:24

But people rent out London buses as fancy transport for weddings, right?

I agree the chain restaurant wouldn't be my dream date either. But I'd file the bus thing away under 'quirky' rather than 'OMG the shame'.

momtoboys · 21/12/2020 21:40

[quote ikltownofboothlehem]@momtoboys - now I have an image of you dating Otto from The Simpsons! Grin[/quote]
LOL! Yes!

catfeets · 21/12/2020 23:46

His name was Ralph, but he constantly referred to himself as Ralphie. Not sure why but it made me feel queasy (and still does years later when it crosses my mind).

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