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To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

522 replies

SnowDogFarts · 14/12/2020 19:58

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

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Funkyfriends · 14/12/2020 20:36

@dontmesswiththeGC oh no, yeah maybe best not to tell her about him 🤣🤣

Derelictwreck · 14/12/2020 20:37

He started explaining my job to me.

SpaceRaiders · 14/12/2020 20:37

This guy seemed a bit shifty every time we arranged to meet somewhere. He didn’t seem to be able to do a date at notice. After a few weeks we arrange a third date unbeknownst to me, he takes two buses, it takes him two and a half hours door to door for what should be an easy 50min journey. When it came to leaving, he couldn’t just up an leave. He had to time it right to get the next bus and connection. Longest 1.5 hrs of my life! I ended up making an excuse to take the dog out for a walk just to escape. I swore never again to date a guy who doesn’t have the means to get himself around.

MrsExpo · 14/12/2020 20:38

Many years ago, I went on a date with a guy I met through mutual friends. He took me for a meal at a nice restaurant .... all good, until the food was served and he sniffed at each fork full before putting it in his mouth. Just no ......

Frankola · 14/12/2020 20:39

I went on a date with a bloke who was very handsome, had a great job etc etc

He was lovely throughout the date and I was giving myself a mental pat on the back when he started talking about how he wanted his partner to give up work when they had his kids because it was her place to be at home.

When I dug a bit deeper i realised he actually meant he wanted his tea on the table when he got home from work , and wanted to live in a sparkling show home which was cleaned by his partner every day while his kids were at school.

It was nothing about being a mum at all. He wanted a bloody slave at home!

BIRDSbirds · 14/12/2020 20:39

He talked about Margaret Thatcher rather a lot.

MrsHugsxx · 14/12/2020 20:40

Had weird breath when he gave me a kiss on the cheek.

HotSince63 · 14/12/2020 20:43

A guy I dated had this gap in his teeth and when we ate, food got lodged in there and it was visible and noticeable. He never seemed to notice it himself and there's this lump of whatever just stuck there.

During our second date it disgusted me so much I had to stop myself from heaving. There were no more dates after that.

isthismylifenow · 14/12/2020 20:44

He blew his nose on a cloth napkin in a very nice restaurant.

lemonsquashie · 14/12/2020 20:46

Some of these are hilarious

madaboutrunning · 14/12/2020 20:50
  1. Met online, went for a drink and decided to have something to eat afterwards. Spent ages walking up and down deciding which restaurant to go to and agreed on a nice Thai. He then ordered plain rice and asked for some ketchup to put on it! I wanted to escape before I had to watch him eat it - I thought of climbing through the toilet window but it was too small so I had to sit there trying not to see.
  1. We'd been chatting online and on the phone for a while and got on really well. Met for coffee and cake on a weekend morning. He'd clearly been gardening beforehand and hadn't washed his hands at all. Underneath his nails was a grim mix of mud and moss - just grim. I made my excuses and left.
Hollyhocksarenotmessy · 14/12/2020 20:53

Grey slip on shoes

Skyla2005 · 14/12/2020 20:54

Laces pulled tight in trainers
Drinking milk on its own !

Nellsbells173 · 14/12/2020 20:57

I was 17 and set up with a friend of my friends boyfriend. After seeing each other a few times with our mutual friends, I ended up getting the bus to his house for the day where his whole family were waiting and extremely excited to meet me! The highlight was having photos taken of me and the boy sat together in the garden, then his dad hooking the camera up to the tv so we could all look through them together.
I never went back!

Dillo10 · 14/12/2020 20:58

We went for pizza and his gums were bleeding while he ate. I couldn't face seeing him again

OhLittleBoreOfWhabylon · 14/12/2020 21:00

Lovely bloke but he turned up on the second date wearing a Starsky and Hutch cardigan.

There was no third date.

For those Mumsnetters too young to remember the 1970s detective series, please see pic.

To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?
abstractzebra · 14/12/2020 21:00

He told me that he was sleeping on the floor at his brother's house as his wife had kicked him out some time ago and he was looking for a woman with her own place so he could move straight in! Confused

mistermagpie · 14/12/2020 21:00

Mine was into the Second World War. Like, really into it. I don't know if he was some sort of Nazi sympathiser but there was a vibe about his interest in the subject that was unsettling.

I feigned a headache and left as quickly as I could!

Mintjulia · 14/12/2020 21:02

Someone invited me over for supper. We had an ok evening but he mentioned that he only ate what we had to eat. I thought he meant he only ate fish, rather than meat. But no, he meant he only ate that specific meal. Every day.....!

I really like food. All sorts of food. I love trying new recipes and new restaurants. I just couldn't imagine being so limited so I made my excuses

whereiwanttobe · 14/12/2020 21:04

He wore a truly horrible brown striped jumper.
He had weird teeth - like a child's teeth in an adult mouth.
He said he was a 'social smoker' (which I was already a bit meh about), but reeked of cigarette smoke.
He wanted to come with me to to a conference I was going to the next week, because there was apparently a really good stamp shop there that he wanted to visit (and could stay in my hotel for free).
He owned a Spanish holiday home and went there several times a year. Great - except he hated Spain!

And then I met my lovely husband Smile

SpaceRaiders · 14/12/2020 21:06

I once went on a date with a guy who was between jobs and still living with his ex girlfriend “we’re not sleeping in the same bed though”. Needless to say I made a swift exit and declined a second date.

MindThatTree · 14/12/2020 21:09

He told me on the first date he’d confessed to the murder of Milly Dowler. (Off to name change now)

Hodgeheg92 · 14/12/2020 21:12

One guy ate with his mouth open.

Another, after a one night stand, as I was letting him out of the house, had the most awful shoes. He was keen to see me again, I wasn't so keen.

FastFood · 14/12/2020 21:14

He had a french canadian accent.

Spanielmadness · 14/12/2020 21:15

Dreadful man-bag on the second date. It was like a black leather purse.

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