To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

[SnowDogFarts]

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

We met after work for dinner once and he was in a suit that was too big for him and he was wearing one of those shoes you would get for your grandad from Clark's (the non-stylish ones). He also had a blue tooth ear piece on 🤨. I really thought I was being shallow and gave him another chance and I was desperate for this to work out as my friend set me up. We met up again on a weekend for a second date and he turned up in a shirt T-shirt tucked into his chino shorts with pockets with white Reebok trainers and black socks halfway up to his calves. He also spoke really loudly on the phone where I felt really uncomfortable. He had a lot money because of the profession he was doing but I just felt like I really can't date someone that dresses up like my dad. Towards the end of the date, he tried to kiss me on my lips and I just moved my face so he could aim for the cheeks and that breath was absolutely disgusting. There was no third date.

@MindThatTree

He told me on the first date he’d confessed to the murder of Milly Dowler. (Off to name change now)

Are you shitting me?!

@ladamanera

I was a student and he was a flash record producer. Took me to a restaurant and I kept an eye on the prices and reckoned I could defs afford half. What I didnt realise was that he’d dropped £550 on a bottle of Wine. Soon found that out though, when the bill came and he said sarcastically “you’ll get this wont you?” And Then Got Up and HID IN THE LOO. My pride at the suggestion I “wouldnt” get it and was somE sort of golddigger meant I tried to pay and never see him again- but my card was declined. I had to call my dad and get him to read card number down phone. Dad furious at both man and me for paying.

Man comes out of loo as I was walking out of restaurant and told me I’d passed the golddigfer tesr and could be his girlfriend if I wanted. He told everyone we knew that I was an incomprehensible, fussy, frigid bitch when I said no.

I occasionally see him at parties with glamorous but faintly trapped looking young women and wonder whether he made them pass the “golddigger test” too

I mean it wouldve been tempting to take him up on his offer for a month and take the absolute piss on further dates before dumping him but I'm guessing the gold digger test doesnt stop there

@TweeterandtheMonkeyman

I feel bad about this really but this guy handed me his phone number on a napkin while I was working in a bar - he seemed quite cute so I texted him and arranged a date. Turned up to nice casual dinner date , he still seemed cute, chatting away - well we’d never actually exchanged our first names When he told me his I was just like flat out - well I just couldn’t envision ever having a boyfriend/ partner long term with this name If I’d REALLY fancied him I would have had to get past it though Maybe would have come up with a nickname !!

On second date, I thought I really should know more about "James" Like what his surname was... "It's James, everyone calls me by my surname" Id made the reasonable assumption that he was James xxx xxx. No, he was xxxxx James.

Sorry, but I just couldn't go out with a Maurice.

His hands, teeny tiny delicate little hands with the softest skin imaginable. Mine felt like a six ft bricklayer’s hands in comparison and I’m only 5 ft 3”! When he put his hands in mine I actually shuddered it was like holding the hands of a small child! [not envy]. I jumped up quick when he tried to touch my boob! It ended there and then.

He wore beige socks that made him look like he had dead feet.

He looked vaguely like my ex. Another one told me not to bother shaving my armpit hair.

This pool of spit kept catching in the corner of his mouth when he spoke. Was weirdly fascinating waiting to see if it would actually turn into a proper dribble, there were a few close calls that were sucked back in. Gave me the ick.

Saw him walking towards me with his jacket hooked on his finger over his shoulder

Exact same thing. My instincts told me to run. It’s the idiotic swagger of someone who doesn’t realise that they are being uncool. Terrible.

On another date:

Turned up wearing a polo neck. That was the end for me. I note that other posters have had similar experiences with cowboy boots.

Yet another terrible date (thank God I met DH soon after):

Kept using the word ‘meal’. Put my teeth on edge. “This is a lovely meal”, “Which is your favourite place to go out for a meal?” etc. Unbearable.

These were three different men by the way. Nobody could recover from a ‘jacket slung over the shoulder’ faux pas.

It was said at the end of our slightly dullish but okay date. He said he was looking forward to seeing my and the girls (my breasts) again soon. I had no idea what he was talking about and he then made a few more suggestive remarks.

I blocked him after he sent me links to his erotic fiction site and a shaved dick pic.

@BitOfFun I think he was very mentally unwell. Or he had been. I think he still was.

@Newmumatlast unfortunately not. He was a very strange (slightly scary) man. Thankfully he had no idea where I lived. I did kiss him before I left as I judged that was the safest thing to do (before ask for Angela). I did the whole, it’s me, not you. I’m just not ready to date.

Name change fail 😂

@thenightsky

A tremor so bad he couldn't get the food to his mouth in a tidy manner and his drink shook out of the glass. I asked if he was ill or something, but he said no, it only happened on dates.

Omg I had a date with tremor guy too! We went out for a meal and had something with rice - cue bits of rice flying everywhere around the table, in my drink, on my lap! Grim!

@raspberryk

He licked his knife!

😂😂😂 this made me laugh.

@IndieTara sculpt you 🤣
I can’t imagine anyone wanting to draw me now!

Vaguely knew him from work, went on a date, turned out he was like a younger version of my dad and it totally killed the mood. I very nearly threw up when I realised.

@Londoncatshed he was an artist but I didn't want to be his muse!

Country walk along a river bank. I pointed out a frog sitting under a leaf. He kicked it as hard as he could. Then apologised when I was shocked and angry and said he just hates frogs....

Bought me a behaviour chart in date 3. Not even joking.

I wonder if any MNetters are recognising these first dates as their current partners?

He didn't use his indicator while turning. Repeatedly. (I saw him driving round our little town so got a good view of these misdemeanors).

Was chatting to someone online for a few months, we had loads in common, turns out I knew his best friend and we grew up in the same area, everything going well, then he came to my house and took his shoes of and the smell was awful! That was that! We are still friends though 😂

@UncleBunclesHouse

Weird hunched over position when driving. No second date 😂

omg yes 😂😂😂

He approached the table wearing what I assumed to be a nose ring. On closer inspection it turned out to be a hair curled back on itself!