To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

[SnowDogFarts]

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

Lovely guy that I got to know over a period of time working in the same building (holding lift, offering umbrella, etc.). I asked him out!

Nice weekend lunch date, and walk, then to the pub for a few drinks. All is going well except he jokingly mentions that has the biggest penis in his rugby club. I ask "are you serious", he said yes he really is B.I.G. I'd had experience of that with my ex. Sometimes it was great of course, but not was spontaneous and overall it was a handful (and mouthful!!) to manage. So it was not for me. Now a few years later, he's dating good friend/colleague

The littering would have been a red flag for me too, OP.

Not a first date story, but I once broke up with a man after about 5 dates because he was so unspeakably rude to his mother (for no reason I could fathom) that it immediately set off alarm bells in my head. Still count that as a lucky escape.

Was set up with a blind date with a lovely woman, we were both mid 20s had a really nice date, just as I was dropping her off home she informed me her ex husband was in prison for GBH, he couldn’t accept her moving on and had put her last boyfriend in hospital with a hammer......

He had a tattoo of his deceased grandfather on his arm. Actually, it was bigger than a normal tattoo. A sleeve, I think they call it. Very tacky anyway. And the same guy looked older than in his photos.

He had some sort of superhero belt on also as he went to the bar to get another drink I noticed his socks matched his belt . Some sort of Batman thing going on 🤣 just no way I could get past that

Bad breath 🤢

@Wineisrequired

That was his lucky belt.

Could have been worse. Imagine if he was a Transformers fan.

Had a date with a guy I'd been chatting to on line. I told him I was going on a weekend away soon with a few friends. He replied that that would be ok as I had already booked it, but he wouldn't like me going away with out him after that! He asked for a second date, I declined.

Went on a coffee date with a PT. We got on ok although I didn’t really fancy him. He offered to do some training with me as I’d recently taken up running.

He explained that he’d be coming from his day job in a suit so would have to come into my house and take his clothes off to get changed.

I realised maybe the training wasn’t offered 100% in good faith

My flatmate many moons ago went out on a third date for dinner and drinks and the pair of them rolled in pissed late on and dissappeared into the bedroom. I woke up the next day and found what can only be described as a dirty protest in the kitchen, as in there is was smeared shit all over the floor and skirting board. Turns out said date had got up during the night to go to the toilet and had evidently got lost in the flat. In fairness we were living in minimilist apartment where all the doors were flush with the walls with no obvious doorknobs. She found the kitchen and unfortunately needed a number two and ended up shitting on the floor and then tried cleaning it up with some cardboard from the bin. In her embarrassment she fled the scene during the night leaving myself and my flatmate to piece together CSI style the feacial crime scene.

There was not a fourth date

I have a few. I was texting a guy after our first date and he never used my name, he continuously called me 'trouble' 😐 "Hey there Trouble" "Call you later trouble", never had a second date! Another was a guy who asked if I'd scratch his forearm, it came out of nowhere and he gave me instructions on how to scratch properly! The following day I told him I couldn't answer the phone cause I was busy making Sunday roast for me and the DC he tried inviting himself over, blocked his number afterwards. 3rd guy gave me the thumbs up after our date ended, no hug, wave or a goodnight, just a thumbs up. The other 2 I found out after first dates that they were still involved with their exes.

@LadyfromtheBelleEpoque-he was a really nice man but I just couldn’t get past the belt and the socks. Also he worked on a farm and talked about tractors a lot😅

He talked about tail recursion in algorithm design all evening.

@InvisibleDragon

That was to impress you.

Date 1: was late, had a beer then said he had to leave to go and pick his mate's up a crate of beer before the shop shut, but then was as keen as anything for another date

Date 2: sat and sniffed the whole time and kept sitting on his phone and checking football updates. Later found out by a mutual friend he was a massive coke head so explained the sniffing and i declined ant further date's

I'd chatted to a guy I'd met in a pub on a few occasions. A number of friends knew him. I really liked him a lot!

One night we got on really well and he offered to drive me home. We got out to his car and it was literally COVERED in stickers (like a teenager would put on a skateboard)!

• I also had a first date going cycling - I'm a keen cyclist and so was the chap (online dating). We met in the pre-arranged spot, he didn't say much and off we went. We covered about 2 miles, not much chat with him in the lead, came to a very long steep hill and he disappeared into the distance, never to be seen again. Didn't wait for me or look back. I quite enjoyed the rest of the ride at my own speed. He never got in touch again.

I didn't really like him much in the flesh but I felt quite upset at his rudeness. A couple of months later, he started turning up everywhere I was, looking at me coyly but not speaking. Eventually, a mutual male friend informed me that he was "interested" in me. I just ignored him and eventually he went away.*

Best one yet! 😂😂😂

@lilfoxfur

We went to the cinema on our first date. Great meal, conversation flowing, bit of hand touching over the table. Went to the cinema, and a black person was starring in it. "Oh, it's a n**r film" he said. I got up there and then and walked out. Never saw him again. What a cunt

Well done!

“I couldn’t take a barmaid home, but you could be my secret sex kitten.”

We were 19- he lived with his very posh parents. I also had a day job, but didn’t live with my parents, so needed the money.

I declined.

@Tobebythesea

One guy was a lot shorter than he said he was on his profile.

One went kept on going back and forth outside to smoke. Like 3/4 times per hour. He was a paramedic.

One didn’t say thank you for the drinks I got him.

One knew my mobile number off by heart (on the first date!). I freaked out.

One still lived with his parents.

One didn’t eat any fruit or vegetables. No allergies etc. I asked him in a joking way to try some of the pepper on my pizza and it made him gag. He didn’t like the textures. That ruled out a lot of meals/socialising. I couldn’t be arsed with that.

I've had 2 potential partners who "didn't like curry or Indian food" which, as I was mad keen on the latter - as were many of my friends, was going to be a problem.

One of them told me it was because "Indians don't clean their food properly", which was a "NO" from me, instantly.

I think it was when we realised he was my DDs RE teacher. somehow the magic faded.......