To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

[SnowDogFarts]

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

On another first date he told me that he was not after marriage or children.
“Oh... well I’m not prepared to give up on either just yet” said I.

Anyway 8 months later we were married and now 20 months later I’m pregnant! I might add he’s deliriously happy about both.

Turned out he had a bunch of flowers for me in his car that he had forgotten to give me so insisted he "must, must" see me the following day to give them to me. Big fat no.

I bet that was some 'tip' he'd read online for getting a guaranteed 2nd date.

Oh I’m remembering so many doozies now!

One guy was so nice ... it seemed to have potential. Until he told me that he lived on his brother’s sofa and the last job he’d gone for was over a decade previously.

Bye bye.

Generally, making clear they view me as a blow up doll is the most common reason. Followed by being married, lying about their age/appearance/job etc. In fact, I don’t remember the last time I met a decent, honest, friendly man with a connection and enjoyed a date. I slightly dread dating now thanks to the above

First date with a gorgeous punk who was going through some sort of religious thing, who arrived with a cult member chaperone so he wouldn't be lead astray by a sexy woman. I was a very horny teen at the time so this was especially frustrating. We met a 2nd time and I manged to get him alone somehow. During a rather steamy fumble I realised I couldn't get his trousers off...because they were secured by a padlock! I didn't see him again. I sometimes wonder what happened to him.

His mannerisms really reminded me of my (female) weight watchers leader. I just couldn't get past it!

First date, I picked him up and we had planned to go on a walk.
We had been chatting for a few weeks prior to this and I thought I liked him.
He had been in the car for about 3 minutes and told a sexist joke. Put me off straight away. It just made him look stupid and I cringed for him.

Several decades ago I met someone whilst visiting a friend at the other end of the country. For context we were both late 20s. We exchanged numbers and spoke on the phone quite a few times. He seemed really nice so I agreed to meet up with him again (plan was for me to stay with the same friend and meet him for the evening). As soon as I agreed to that he went really strange. 1) Telling me he was meeting his mum, gran and sisters in their spanish holiday home in a few weeks time and would I know him well enough to go with him if we spoke every night before then 2) Telling me he called his gran after every call we had to tell her what we'd been talking about so she would know me too 3) Putting on a weird girly giggly voice, making utterly unfunny comments, then snorting- one of which was about eating hummous but pronounced as 'hommers' [homophobic reference to gay men at the time in my area].

I cancelled the date but always wondered whether if I'd gone along I would have found out that he was either actually about 15 (I doubt it as he was a friend of a friend) or trying to act all family focussed but actually trying to lure me away to be murdered. No idea what the snorting an homophobia was about.

Met in a pub for lunch. He was gorgeous and we had so much in common. We were both single parents and his DS and my DD were close in age. We arranged our next meeting at my house as we both had childcare problems. He seemed even more lovely and his DS was so sweet. Then he mentioned his divorce. His XW had divorced him because he had an affair with his work colleague. I couldn't get him out of the door fast enough! He then phoned to tell me he had booked a holiday in the south of France for us and our DC. It was so tempting as there was no way I could afford a holiday, but I made a feeble excuse about a family crisis and never heard from him again.

As he excused himself to go to the bathroom, he wiped his mouth on his napkin and casually draped it across the top of the water jug.

I was very young and naive and there were several glaring red flags that I should have spotted but it was the napkin that did it. Lucky escape.

@Cakeonthefloor

Country walk along a river bank. I pointed out a frog sitting under a leaf. He kicked it as hard as he could. Then apologised when I was shocked and angry and said he just hates frogs....

What a psycho! I'd have been really upset and quite scared.

I had one who kissed me and my neck (fine) but then used his tongue really aggressively. Practically licking my tonsils and pushing it quite hard into my neck. Horrible feeling! For a week I kept remembering and then being able to 'feel' it on my neck until I rubbed the feeling away. Instant ick and scrammed out of there as quickly as poss.

Held his knife like a pen.

Doomed.

I didn’t like the name he’d given his son much.

Doomed.

He let me buy the first round, ordered a shot of Courvoisier and nursed it for ninety minutes.

Doomed.

He made a noise like a whale when he came.

Doomed.

🐳

All different guys, tbf. And all entirely justified.

He wouldn’t eat any fruit or vegetables at all, and chose a pub restaurant where he knew he could get burger and chips.

Doomed.

I've got a list, I was on dating sites for a long time, decided that I'm too picky so came off them but several first dates ended because:
He got rat arsed while I drove
He had a horrible loud laugh
He smoked when he'd told me he didn't
Lived with his ex
Bad hygiene
Very short, like a good 6" shorter than me
Expected me to do all the driving and paying
Tried to touch me up in the cinema, when I said no he took the huff
the list is endless, I've been told I should write a book on crappy dates

I met up on a proper date with a guy from a speed-dating night out. He was lovely but he had a very exaggerated blink where his whole face scrunched up every couple minutes. It was driving me nuts by the time we paid the bill and put paid to a second date.

Incidentally, it was the same speed-dating night out where I met DH.

@LividLaughingLove

He made a noise like a whale when he came.

Doomed.

🐳

On a first date? wow

He was obsessed with his hobby, judo.

He kept asking me if I had any “hobbies”. I didn’t have anything suitably hobbyish to match it (working 60-70 hour weeks).

Doomed.

Turned up in a pale linen suit like the Man From Del Monte.

Doomed.

Met up in pub and I said 'Craig?' (it was a blind date ) He replied 'Yes but my name isn't Craig I changed it in case you were someone from where I work checking up on me' - we had been chatting for a couple of weeks. He was obviously either paranoid or had delusions about how desperate his 'mates' were to out him as an OLD.

He was a grown adult professional man living in a house share like a student and proud of his damp en suite shower room (NOT in London)

Doomed.

His teeth looked really sharp and as though they would injure me if kissing!