Is anyone taking lockdown seriously anymore?

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My mother is meant to come over for Christmas but my aunt has just let slip that she has been away this weekend staying with some friends. This is against the rules as she’s not meant to mixing households - like everyone.

My husband and I are following the rules strictly and restricting our lives massively. We have a new baby and I am now extremely pissed off she would be so selfish and irresponsible and put us at risk.

Am I being mean to say she’s uninvited now for Christmas? She always says she’s being careful and following the rules and I constantly hear from family members it’s all lies. She isn’t in the vulnerable category and is just bored I think and wants company. But so do we all, and it’s just not fair.

What should I do?

Am I being mean to say she’s uninvited now for Christmas?

No words.

DP and I are self quarantining now until we go to my parents for Xmas. I know quite a few who are doing the same.

Is she single? Could the people she's gone away with be her support bubble?

I don't think it would be unreasonable,
but...
... it might cause a massive family argument.

We need everyone to do their bit to get through this.

Now you’re a mum you need to put your baby’s well-being at the forefront at all times. So, for Christmas that means you, DH and baby.

I am /was. None of my bloody family are (not my household). I say I 'was' as my parents randomly turned up at my house a few days ago for a catch up! Haven't seen them in absolute months. I let them in but was thinking WTF. It was lovely though.

I'm sticking to it rigidly but I've a feeling a lot of people aren't.

Could you ask your mum to get a test before she comes?

Dh and I were planning on inviting my parents, and his Dad and partner but we've since found out FIL and partner have been carrying on their usual weekly routine of visiting his sister one day and his neighbours' the next and has been visiting BIL and SIL (seperately). They've been uninvited even though none of us are particularly at risk. It's not worth it for one day of the year. Plan to see your Aunt another day when she's actually being respectful of the people around her. I really don't see why people are making such a fuss about offending someone when they're putting you and your family in danger.

If you arent vulnerable yourselves that's is unreal...SHE IS YOUR MUM

I mean - we are sticking to it and so are in Laws until they come to us 24th.

tootired I don't think Covid knows who is related to who when it spreads.
Most of the country is tier 2 or 3. Rates are going up in various places. Visiting others houses isn't allowed...

You don't say I didn't realise that at all....your Mum will still be around when Covid is a distant memory but hers will remember you excluding her at Xmas. If she was putting you at risk due to you being vulnerable then fine. If she is a good Mum then its heartless to exclude her due to your virtue signalling to some mumsnet strangers.

I am but only coz of my 91 year old mother in law.

If you are in the UK, you aren't in lockdown.

I would revoke the offer, I hate liars.

@tootiredtospeak they have a new baby, so one ofthem is vulnerable

@tootiredtospeak

If you arent vulnerable yourselves that's is unreal...SHE IS YOUR MUM

You're not immune from the virus just because SHE IS YOUR MUM. You do know that being genetically related to someone doesn't mean you can't pass the virus between yourselves, right?

Actually, forget that. They're family! They have a RIGHT to kill each other!

What a ridiculous thing to say.

I’m totally confused with the zones and ‘Christmas amnesty’. My two children are coming back for Christmas (one’s working and one’s at uni) I haven’t worked out if we are ok or breaking regs. Can the uni one come before 23rd and how long can they stay? Do they both have to leave on 27th? 😫🥴

Sticking to rules here, however I'm not planning on seeing anyone over Christmas. Grandparenta in 70s, health conditions, recent hip ops and eye ops. Tbf they have said they don't want to risk seeing kids as they at school ....

I don’t mean this is a snarky way, but I honestly don’t think that people in relationships can possibly understand how hard lockdown/isolation is for people who are single. In much the same way that you just can’t explain what it’s like to have children to those who don’t have them.

The anxiety and sense of responsibility for running the whole household in very stressful circumstances (in my case for three children) with no help at all is crushing.

I’ve stuck to the rules, because of the kids. It’s been so, so hard. I can’t bring myself to criticise any single person who hasn’t.

In my experience, no - people aren’t taking it seriously. It’s gone on for so long now with no huge improvements in infection or death rates that justify people not being able to see their loved ones - and so people just aren’t doing it anymore. They’ve had enough.

This is not my opinion by the way, just my perceived opinion from how others act and things they say.

@Bourbonbiccy that is exactly my issue. I hate liars. It is not fair to pretend to be at home and then I find out she’s been staying the weekend with friends somewhere. It’s just stupid to risk it. The country is not in lockdown but it’s been clearly stated not to mix households.

I am fed up with some people following rules and others total disregard

I'm definitely not taking lockdown seriously enough to ban my mum from Christmas because she saw her mates 2 weeks before, no.

Sticking to the rules here too. I’d have no hesitation in rescinding the invite if she’s mixing with others. There’s no way I’d risk a new baby getting it.

I’m sticking to them, but I went shopping briefly yesterday and was astounded by the amount of people that clearly aren’t. People shopping with friends, eating out in groups, bottomless brunches full of late teens all socialising, groups in wetherspoons eating and drinking, families with grandparents and aunties and uncles - the majority of people seem to clearly not be following anything.