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AIBU to get so annoyed when I've invested weeks/months in a thread with genuine concern for the poster only to go back for an update and the thread has been deleted?

What happened with the kid who was given sugar at nursery?
The mum to be who wanted to go to uni when baby was 2-3 weeks old?
The husband who was spending lots of time with a female co worker, working away?

When I'm reading a thread and offering advice I need to know the outcome 😂
I want to know if you left your husband, if your husbands crazy ex got arrested or what happened when you confronted your cheating partner 🤦🏼‍♀️

Don't tease me like this!!

I don't care if many of the most interesting threads are utter fabrications or made up by "trolls". They're good fun to read and I don't see them doing any harm, they're just fiction. Though I can't believe there seem to be so many people who have so much time to waste making up these stories and posting consistent regular follow-ups!

The poster who's BIL and SIL nicked the computer prize did an update after she confronted them. They told her that the new laptop turned out to be second hand and a bit knackered so they decided not to mention it, because it was embarrassing, or something like that.....

I have an experience in my life that I would love to post about because I can't tell anyone in real life and would like some affirmation about the insanity of the person involved and support with the emotional toll it has taken on me but alas cannot post as would be deleted like a shot. It is absolutely true but no one would ever believe it as it is so outside of your average person's experience, a subject matter most would find abhorrent in truth.

It's not me personally but someone close and I got caught up in it, think collateral damage.
Here are some clues and I will not elaborate further:
Adoption
Reunited
Genetic sexual attraction (yeah, it's a thing)
Stalking

I was very glad that MNHQ deleted the thread about the former bully. They have no way of knowing if the OP was genuine, for one thing. It could easily have been someone with a grudge against a completely innocent person. And even if the facts were exactly as laid out, when a thread starts to spill over into real life (harassing someone on Facebook, inventing false information as someone on that thread planned to do, etc.), it is definitely time for MNHQ to step in.

TBF when I was new I had no idea that people would post any old cobblers on here or even make things up.
Go totally invested in a thread titled 'Dan Snow Boss'. OP was asked out on a date by the boss, and they treated us to helping them choose a dress. Live updates on the date including make of car, then they got back to his very swish apartment where the OP was updating us all from the bathroom.
Then all of a sudden-deleted! A troll. I could not believe it. I felt cheated.

If that thread popped up today 9 years later I would be and think 'well that's a load of crap'.

They were right to do so *sooty.

I do not always agree with their decisions but I am wholly behind that one.

@Sparklingbrook yes! I remember ones like that. I didn't even know what a troll was when I first joined.

The one I clearly remember was someone posting from a London station in the toilet cubicle as they had - er - soiled their skirt.

A mner bought a skirt and took it to her. Obviously there was no one there.

I think the skirt was returned and no harm done.

Nobody would do that nowadays I don't think? We'd all just looking and think 'there's the poo troll'

[quote cheesecrack]@Sparklingbrook yes! I remember ones like that. I didn't even know what a troll was when I first joined.

The one I clearly remember was someone posting from a London station in the toilet cubicle as they had - er - soiled their skirt.

A mner bought a skirt and took it to her. Obviously there was no one there.

I think the skirt was returned and no harm done.

Nobody would do that nowadays I don't think? We'd all just looking and think 'there's the poo troll'[/quote]
I remember the skirt at the station one and the poster rushing to the rescue. I remember it seeming plausible for a bit. But now I agree I would get as far as 'I have soiled myself in a station toilet' and would be 'yeah right'.

Sorry no. You give advice freely and no-one's under any obligation to report back to you. No-one's under any obligation to be telling the truth either I'm afraid. Or even give good advice. It's all totally unregulated. People cite opinions based on absolutely nothing, no professional knowledge whatsoever. Just look at any Brexit thread. Biggest pile of nonsense ever but it entertains some people who have nothing to do. Let them get on with it but don't bother to feel short changed - your expectations have to be set very low.

@Iusedtobeslimmerthanthis well they weren't actually. Everything stated about his actions was true, and nobody in the thread was encouraged to contact him via social media. One poster on the thread wondered what he liked like, so was privately messaged details of his open, public Facebook profile. I think it's safe to say, if he didn't want people viewing it, ( including his admiration for the now defunct BNP), then it would have been set to private. The poster didn't, ( and wasn't encouraged to) contact him. In anyway. Bizarrely, more people on the thread called the poster who looked him up evil than the man who assaulted disabled children as an adult

But MN just say things like "we're checking behind the scenes". How can they even do that. Do they start phoning people up and asking them why they posted and if they're a troll? I know they can use IP addresses to find previously banned posters, but even so

I think you answered your own question...

I wish MN would come back to the “checking behind the scenes” ones and either say yes it’s a troll or probably not a troll but we’re taking it down anyway because xyx”

In fact, I couldn't help wondering if some of the naysayers on the thread were bullies themselves, as they seemed very concernedfor the feelings of a 28 year old man who , at 28, refers to people as disabled c. Also , despite the fact I dont assault disabled children/support the BNP/ drive people to suicide attempts by one poster I was as pleasant as he was

I bet the poster who rushed to the station, clutching a new skirt for the poo troll, felt a bit silly afterwards.

The threads I roll my eyes at are the supposedly skint and starving who just need a couple of quid to see them through, and the woman who posted her Amazon wish list because she couldn't afford to buy her child anything for Christmas and wanted us to help her out.

I don't care if many of the most interesting threads are utter fabrications or made up by "trolls". They're good fun to read and I don't see them doing any harm, they're just fiction.

It’s not necessarily true that fictitious threads do no harm. Some are playing a (short-term or long-term) begging game, some are bereavement/medical trauma vampires, some are stealth perverts (often with a very niche and/or child-centric fetish), some are fake pictures of someone the OP pretends is them posted to humiliate the person in the pic, and so on.

That said, I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised if some of the more dramatically escalating, multi-thread sagas are known to be bollocks but are allowed to continue for a while due to generating a very pleasing click rate

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@Meepmeeep is right. rainypuddles (not muddypuddles) posted a catalogue of fiction. She gave herself away when she accidentally posted under another username.

This isn't correct. I contacted MNHQ to find out what happened and they confirmed she wasn't a troll but the thread had got totally derailed by troll hunters plus it was trolled relentlessly on Reddit so in the end it was pulled.

I hope rainypuddles is doing ok.

I often wonder as well if some posters who I remember from years ago were genuine or not as they seemed to bounce from disaster to disaster and needed mn as a crutch
Or maybe none of it was true who knows one had lots of kids and was in temp accommodation and had a lot of bad luck the other again a large family and all the dc with disabilities neither seemed like trolls tbh but both seemed to just disappear off mn and I wonder if they are ok

@Sootyandsweep2019 - how on earth did that poster find the bully's profile?? I remember your thread but dont remember you posting anything identifying!
They must be a modern day (and real) Sherlock Holmes as well as a bit of a saddo to go hunting for him

I keep wondering what happened to the woman who has adamant that she was pregnant despite negative urine and blood tests...I went back for an update and whoosh.. gone!

@OhSoScared I remember that one too !

Everything stated about his actions was true

But you understand that MNHQ have only got your word for that, and you could be absolutely anyone and saying absolutely anything. 🤷‍♀️

If there was enough personal information provided to allow internet strangers to work out who this person was and contact them, on the basis of unverifiable allegations from an anonymous person on a forum, that cannot be allowed to stand.

It’s like the ‘name & shame’ Facebook posts that people so gleefully share, despite having no proof that the person in the picture actually did the things they’re being held accountable for.

@DolphinsAndNemesis

I was very glad that MNHQ deleted the thread about the former bully. They have no way of knowing if the OP was genuine, for one thing. It could easily have been someone with a grudge against a completely innocent person. And even if the facts were exactly as laid out, when a thread starts to spill over into real life (harassing someone on Facebook, inventing false information as someone on that thread planned to do, etc.), it is definitely time for MNHQ to step in.

Completely agree with this. It’s just one person’s word about someone and it’s very unfair to out anyone IRL.

sooty you need to contact MNHQ if you’re this upset about it.

I keep wondering what happened to the woman who has adamant that she was pregnant despite negative urine and blood tests...I went back for an update and whoosh.. gone!

Now, why do you think that might have been deleted? 🤔

@MaelyssQ

I bet the poster who rushed to the station, clutching a new skirt for the poo troll, felt a bit silly afterwards.

The threads I roll my eyes at are the supposedly skint and starving who just need a couple of quid to see them through, and the woman who posted her Amazon wish list because she couldn't afford to buy her child anything for Christmas and wanted us to help her out.

Someone actually went to a train station with a new skirt for a poo troll?! WHHHYYYYYY????