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AIBU to get so annoyed when I've invested weeks/months in a thread with genuine concern for the poster only to go back for an update and the thread has been deleted?

What happened with the kid who was given sugar at nursery?
The mum to be who wanted to go to uni when baby was 2-3 weeks old?
The husband who was spending lots of time with a female co worker, working away?

When I'm reading a thread and offering advice I need to know the outcome 😂
I want to know if you left your husband, if your husbands crazy ex got arrested or what happened when you confronted your cheating partner 🤦🏼‍♀️

Don't tease me like this!!

I also would like to know the outcome of the wood fenced in by the neighbors.

The Twittlebee Wood thread - yes - I got very interested in that one.

I've just read JimandPam's very sad post about that on age 5. What a heartbreaking account. Very,very sad.

This is why I always try to provide closure when I start a thread

@JimandPam that is a sad update on the woods lady.
I hope the blanket lets her know she is in people’s thoughts, that was a lovely gesture.

maybe they should make MN subs only. Would sort the wheat from the chaff

@Sparklingbrook

Maybe a box set or...

"ROMPING"

LOL!

I had a thread deleted once. I was innocently asking about dreams, specified I didn't mean sex dreams, but all dreams, which of course included sex dreams. It got taken down with the generic 'looking behind the scenes' message. I was gutted because when MNHQ looked they must have found no evidence of trolling but didn't reinstate my thread.

@burritofan

I was gutted a recent “fish finger sandwich, cat and CF texts” thread turned out to be a troll. It was so cosy

The OP came back on under another account on the Fish Finger one. Said she'd been on mumsnet years and hadn't ever been previously banned. TBF did recognise her username and someone posted the history to show she'd been around forever.

I've often wondered if threads ever get reinstated snooker.

And now I know.

I think MNHQ have been much more wary about declaring people trolls since the time they really messed it up.

They declared an OP posting about her lost baby a “not genuine poster”, but she was and her story later appeared on One Born Every Minute.

Below ref my earlier post on woods

I hope that lovely Twittlebee won't mind (I don't want to tag her in this sort of thread) but here is the blanket that was made for her son, Roy.

They have now had a little brother for Roy who was born in the Summer.

Link to the woolly hugs page.

Sometimes MN really is fantastic

www.woollyhugs.org/2020/06/22/the-blanket-for-twittlebee/

@JimandPam that blanket is just beautiful

@Sickofbroccoli

I think MNHQ have been much more wary about declaring people trolls since the time they really messed it up.

They declared an OP posting about her lost baby a “not genuine poster”, but she was and her story later appeared on One Born Every Minute.

One thread put of the many thousands that get posted. That example gets quoted every single time this comes up but I have never seen another.

It seemed to me to be when they changed their attitude to it @Sparklingbrook which is probably why it often gets quoted. There will have been thousands of correctly identified troll threads (and probably a good few hundred that they’d fucked up also but weren’t proved in that way) but that was when MNHQ seemed to change to not declaring troll and instead start the “We’re looking into it” lines.

@JimandPam

Below ref my earlier post on woods

I hope that lovely Twittlebee won't mind (I don't want to tag her in this sort of thread) but here is the blanket that was made for her son, Roy.

They have now had a little brother for Roy who was born in the Summer.

Link to the woolly hugs page.

Sometimes MN really is fantastic

www.woollyhugs.org/2020/06/22/the-blanket-for-twittlebee/

What a lovely blanket! I've had a look at another one, too - what a beautiful thought these blankets are. There are some very talented (and kind) people about.

And what a beautiful baby - such lovely red hair. I'm so glad they have another baby. And that they have this lovely blanket to remind them how much people felt for them in their loss.

@Sickofbroccoli

It seemed to me to be when they changed their attitude to it *@Sparklingbrook* which is probably why it often gets quoted. There will have been thousands of correctly identified troll threads (and probably a good few hundred that they’d fucked up also but weren’t proved in that way) but that was when MNHQ seemed to change to not declaring troll and instead start the “We’re looking into it” lines.

It must have been years ago , it always gets quoted to prove MNHQ get it wrong. Plus short of driving round to poster's houses to check on them MNHQ have to make a call and it's up to them really.

I was wondering about the fish finger sandwich thread.

There's one going at the moment where I'm sure it's a troll. It's onto thread 2 and I'm hoping it's legit, but I can't help but think...

There have been poorly baby and bereavement trolls on parenting forums from the very beginning. Emma Bowyer was one of the first (not on Mumsnet) with her husband and best friend posting on her behalf when she was unable to update the thread. Pregnancy complications, pregnancy loss, surprise twins - she set the bar. She wasn't even a mother, had never been pregnant, just enjoyed having a dramatic and traumatic life online. I often wonder if she is still around.

I wonder what happened to the trolls. The woman who was always aged 22 with a 4mo baby and gazillions of pounds, and would turn up every week or so with a crisis like “help, we have hired the function suite of the Ritz for DS’s baby group, but I don’t know where the mugs are kept, should I ask someone?” What’s she doing in real life now? Is she happier and older and doesn’t need the escapism any more?

Or the people who invented children with tragic medical conditions. Have they given up? Or got help for whatever is wrong with their heads? Or are they off trolling some other community?

Also wonder what happened to some people who weren’t exactly trolls but would post regularly about the same situation, fudge the backstory, get called out, leave the thread, and eventually get deleted by MN for doing the same thing every week. The poster whose awful fiancé was an absolute pig to her son(s) and her and they always had a fight about this on Friday night ‘while watching a movie’, but she wouldn’t dream of leaving him. The poster who would come on to ask about her useless husband, but not mention the backstory where she didn’t let him do a thing with the kids, had them actually spy on him and report back to her, had let their pets die to prove her point, was very deeply fucked up. Hopefully the kids and husband are long gone, maybe taking the kids of the other woman along on their escape...

I always go back for updates to find threads have disappeared!
I always wondered what happened to the couple where one partner suddenly decided to stop working and start living off the other's money. She even went to the bank and tried to withdraw £1000 or something!

I thought I was alone with wondering about the outcome of threads so often. The one that sticks in my mind was the Mum who accused her cleaner of drinking her alcohol. Almost all the responses told her it was her teenage son but she was having none of it. From memory she to complained to the cleaning agency and demanded a new cleaner.

There was a poster on here years ago called Happylandspaceman. She posted some desperate posts over quite a long period during which she was going through some horrific DV, and she had run away with her 2 small children. It was very distressing and I think a number of posters were messaging mnhq desperately hoping they could help. In the end a poster managed to get in touch IRL to offer support, but sadly posted later on that she had taken her life. I was devestated. It would have been very hard not to be invested in that situation. Everything was then deleted by MNHQ as it was felt it would be too distressing for the family to read.

Sometimes I really hope all of that was a troll - just so someone wasn’t actually going through that. But it certainly didn’t feel like it.

Does anyone else remember Happy?

Catlady. I really hope things worked out well for her and ‘mini.’ She was having such a hard time then just vanished.

@JimandPam the blanket is beautiful

@CharlottaCarlotta

I thought I was alone with wondering about the outcome of threads so often. The one that sticks in my mind was the Mum who accused her cleaner of drinking her alcohol. Almost all the responses told her it was her teenage son but she was having none of it. From memory she to complained to the cleaning agency and demanded a new cleaner.

Not the same thing but I was thinking today about a woman who was going to confront her cleaner about stealing advent calendar chocolates. Not her 7yo son.

I want to know about the raffle computer too!