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AIBU to get so annoyed when I've invested weeks/months in a thread with genuine concern for the poster only to go back for an update and the thread has been deleted?

What happened with the kid who was given sugar at nursery?
The mum to be who wanted to go to uni when baby was 2-3 weeks old?
The husband who was spending lots of time with a female co worker, working away?

When I'm reading a thread and offering advice I need to know the outcome 😂
I want to know if you left your husband, if your husbands crazy ex got arrested or what happened when you confronted your cheating partner 🤦🏼‍♀️

Don't tease me like this!!

[quote Sargass0]@Marshmallow91
omg no birdie friend is one thread that should bloody well have been deleted. Load of shite![/quote]
What's birdie friend??? Or who???

@ClearingSpaceOnTheTrophyShelf
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/3798666-My-child-has-a-badge-that-sees-ghosts?pg=1

It's about a badge that sees ghosts owned by a 4 year old

@GinandGingerBeer, @cheesecrack, I posted on AIBU a while back. Big mistake. It invited all of the harridans waiting around to have a go at me: there were some supportive posters, but the majority of them seemed to exist to try to nit-pick and pull me down.
Luckily, I'm resilient enough to shrug it off, but some posters aren't.

Not to mention all the delivery drivers with such terrible eyesight grin asking the fifty year old woman who answers the door, 'is your mum home?'

Agree- how I wish that those posters who have an elderly relative with them, would bring their 97 year old mother to the door . . .

Is this a safe place to ask where the post went, about the reviewed sentence for a rapist? I won't go into more detail- it was a volatile thread to be honest.

I think it's a good rule of thumb that if an op sounds unbelievable it probably is!

@BeSureToDrinkYourOvaltine

I think I've done this before. Annoyed invested people I mean. There was a situation in the summer with a woman who had been a girlfriend of my DH for about two months 20 years ago, and she stalked him online and then me. Then because he told her where to go, she messaged me telling me he was asking to meet her for sex. That was removed for being identifying and it was because I said which field she worked in and that she was able to access sensitive data of practically anybody she wanted to and that I was going to follow posters advice of reporting her to her work. And because she was a fucking stalker, if she was on here she'd have known instantly that it was her.

If anyone remembers that- I did report her, she did get suspended and I have no idea what happened as a result, but I do know she's messaged my DH from fake accounts tried to add me on Instagram and that she's an absolute fantasist..... the job she said she did she does not do at all. Think something like her claiming she was a lawyer and she's actually a receptionist in a solicitors office. Still on alert for this weirdo. She was reported to the police as well, but they just told me to keep a log of her behaviour.

I remember that! Why a horrendous woman

@TheSilentStars

That's not quite right either, MNHQ admitted in this thread that they now thought they'd made a terrible mistake with the OBEM poster and were going to contact her to apologise.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/2267478-The-lady-whose-waters-broke-at-18-weeks?pg=7

I don't remember the other example you have but it happening twice in a short period would explain a lot in terms of MNHQ becoming more careful about declaring troll after that.

This reminded me of the 'David and Caroline Karman' thread.

Very long story short, Davids 'wife's Caroline had terminal cancer. However it turned out Caroline wasn't his wife, although the illness was real. He was some creepy friend of the family pretenting to be her DH, putting up pics of her in hospital, sending weird messages to people. He sucked pretty much all of MN in.

Naturally typical of MN those that questioned him got flamed. The thread went on for months.

The thread suddenly got deleted. It took a bit of digging to find out he had been exposed as a complete fraudster

[quote Sickofbroccoli]@TheSilentStars

That's not quite right either, MNHQ admitted in this thread that they now thought they'd made a terrible mistake with the OBEM poster and were going to contact her to apologise.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/2267478-The-lady-whose-waters-broke-at-18-weeks?pg=7

I don't remember the other example you have but it happening twice in a short period would explain a lot in terms of MNHQ becoming more careful about declaring troll after that.[/quote]
No, the other person wasn't a troll but despite her story being absolutely verified, she continued to be called one. It was before the OBEM one.

Does anyone remember that thread in which the OP suspected that her ILs had bugged her house, because they knew things that she’d never mentioned in front of them?

Don't tease me like this!! Don't get so invested! It's an interesting story to you, but somebody's real life! They don't owe you a sad or happy ending as if they were being published, sad face and all, in That's Life or similar!

That and, as others have sid, you have no idea if any of it is true or not...

@BayandBlonde yes! And the others, poorly kids, stuck abroad etc etc. Sickening!

@BayandBlonde

This reminded me of the 'David and Caroline Karman' thread.

Very long story short, Davids 'wife's Caroline had terminal cancer. However it turned out Caroline wasn't his wife, although the illness was real. He was some creepy friend of the family pretenting to be her DH, putting up pics of her in hospital, sending weird messages to people. He sucked pretty much all of MN in.

Naturally typical of MN those that questioned him got flamed. The thread went on for months.

The thread suddenly got deleted. It took a bit of digging to find out he had been exposed as a complete fraudster

Apparently he was sending questionable PMs to posters requesting sexual favours as well as setting up a Just Giving page to rake in cash off the gullible people. Using a tragedy like that, for his own ends, is quite simply repulsive.

I always wanted to know what happened to the friend who believed her partner was a spy!! The woman who posted was her friend and was trying to prove the guy was lying. Always ponder on that for some reason!

The other thing about trolls is that they do make it worse for everyone else in a kind of "you've let the rest of the class down" way as people in difficult situations aren't believed, because we are all cynical as fuck now.

Eg PP said if it sounds unbelievable then it probably is - which is true in a lot (the majority probably) of cases. But lots of us have or have had situations that seem unbelievable - a run of very bad luck or extraordinary coincidences or a family like a fucking soap opera etc - but you know if you post about it people will be yeah right like this happened.

Even for those of us who can say we are NCers and reference old MN things eg "I know this is very but I promise I'm not Lavendeerrr" etc, we know there are people who would have a quick look at classics and quote a couple, so even long term genuine MNers would be doubted. And MN newbies have no chance of being believed if they post something that is very even if it's true.

And that's even before we get onto Christmas threads for people on budgets...

And it's hard not to take things personally when you post a genuine problem and MN magically appear with the "we've taken a look behind the scenes and have no reason to be suspicious but be careful" as you know lots of people are thinking chinny reckon and have reported you...

That thing of posting 'naice ham' and suchlike to prove the poster is a longterm poster is nonsense, imo. What on earth is it supposed to prove.

The damage that trolls do, imo, is that other genuine posters share often very distressing experiences from their own lives, and I hate to think how they must feel if and when they discover that someone they thought had been through something similar is on a wind up.

That thing of posting 'naice ham' and suchlike to prove the poster is a longterm poster is nonsense, imo. What on earth is it supposed to prove.

Nonsense and pointless as any new poster who reads this once could simply copy it!

The damage that trolls do, imo, is that other genuine posters share often very distressing experiences from their own lives, and I hate to think how they must feel if and when they discover that someone they thought had been through something similar is on a wind up.

That and the threads where trolls have clearly been looking for ways to make their next fake story more believable by cannibalising other people's traumatic stories.

It's just getting ridiculous now, another thread I was reading 'shamed for calling the police' has just been deleted. It's something like the sixth or seventh one I've read that's been deleted in the past week

One I was on was closed for further comments, rather than deleted, so I think MNHQ are listening!

There are stories and there is fiction.

Me and my big mouth.....just said to the OP of the CopyCat wedding thread that I was impressed she hadnt had it deleted now the DM have got hold of it....she asked how to do that (I didnt say), now it's gone

I found this thread by searching for rainy puddles. I miss those threads. And Alphabet street was one of my faves. Is it fact that they were both the same poster? If that's the case they should be writing fiction because I believed them both! There were diagrams!!