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To think London commute towns are no better than Edinburgh for raising a family?

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JenXG · 10/12/2020 09:38

So basically DH and I are having a debate on whether to leave Edinburgh and move to a commute town outside London. (we have to stick with Edinburgh / London as working in financial sector but both of us would avoid London because of traffic/pollution/crowded streets).

The main reason for DH favouring those commute towns is that they seem to have loads of good schools for DS (4mo) to choose from compared to Edinburgh where there are only a few (or hardly any if his standard). He has high hope for DS. Also the A-level system is widely recognised across different countries (so potential for studying overseas) but the same cant be said for the Scotland system.

My worry is that we are giving up preferred lifestyle for a very small difference in schooling. I grew up in a big city and always need busy streets nearby. I understand some places such as Guildford will have its own town centre but there are still fewer things going on compared to Edinburgh. For example, there are a wide range of fine restuarants, several theatres & cinemas, pubs, etc in Edinburgh but living in Guildford we'd still have to go to London for a night out? I'd assume activities for young kids are more available in Edinburgh than in Guildford? E.g. Edinburgh has a zoo, lots of museums, and a coastline where you can do kayaking. Also Guildford is one of the busier towns as I understand. Some other commute towns are even quieter. So we'd highly likely end up travelling to London a lot which is not fun (I'm far more used to walking or driving a little bit to favourite places than hours of trains/tubes).

What do people think? I haven't been to many places in the southern area. Maybe I have misunderstood what life would be like there? Would you relocate if you were us?

OP posts:
ChochoCrazyCat · 14/12/2020 15:41

@speakout That's Scotland in general...lots of people I know (including me) came for a little bit and never left, married Scottish men/women and settled here.
I've lived all over the UK and IMO Scotland offers by far the best quality of life - friendly people, affordable housing, cities, beaches, forests and mountains all within an hour's drive from pretty much anywhere. Why would you want to leave?? For a commuter town near London? Nooo!

LilMidge01 · 14/12/2020 16:38

I would always want to live/grow up in Edinburgh over Guildford!!

Also, if you Dh has high hopes for son's academic career, then I don't think Scottish A Levels will make a difference- if you're really focussed on academics and want to go on to higher study one day then GCSE's and A levels are just stepping stones rather than the end goal. If your son wants to go to uni, potentially study abroad, maybe even do postgrad, it really won't matter about his A levels....

LilMidge01 · 14/12/2020 16:47

OMG also just read your son is only 4 months old?! What if he isn't academically inclined? What if his passion is music and he becomes a world class player in the philharmonic? Or he is into wildlife conservation and wants to study whales off the coast of Scotland? Or he is really good with his hands and fixing things and wants to be a mechanic? An amazingly gifted athlete?... I could go on, the possibilities are endless for his future and where his talents might lie, right now. And your husband is worried about the A-levels currently being less internationally recognised?

Don't leave Edinburgh for that!!!! Scotland has a much better quality of life than commuter belt London

Janegrey333 · 14/12/2020 17:25

OMG also just read your son is only 4 months old?! What if he isn't academically inclined?

That is the $94,000 dollar question. 🤭

CheetasOnFajitas · 14/12/2020 17:28

Oh, has Brexit caused inflation in idioms recently @Janegrey333? It was only $64k last time I used that one..

Janegrey333 · 14/12/2020 23:33

Oops! Clearly inflation. Wink

user1471519931 · 08/08/2021 21:36

Hi OP, was just wondering how it's all going and whether you made any decision yet?

OakPine · 08/08/2021 22:06

LTB
Really if he is this much hard work when the baby is only 4 months old!
Poor child!

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