To ask what your baby cut off age would be

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I had my kids at 34 & 38 and I am now 46. My lovely friend is pregnant with a much wanted first baby at 46 and it’s got me thinking if I could do it at that point- I don’t think I could to be honest. I think my cut off was 40 probably!
Aibu to ask what ideal your cut off point age wise would be for kids? I know life isn’t perfect so it’s not so simple for everyone as my friend proves

45

Women always had children up to menopause, the difference nowadays is that it's rarer to have a large family spreading across years.

From what I read, there seem to be a lot more negative judgement towards teenager and young mothers in their 20s than towards mothers in their 40s nowadays.

Menopause.

My mother was 40 when I was born and 45 when my sister was born. It was embarrassing having such an old mum so I was determined to be done by 30

Any older and limiting chance of child knowing a grandparent etc. For many it's an important relationship.

@goldenharvest

My mother was 40 when I was born and 45 when my sister was born. It was embarrassing having such an old mum so I was determined to be done by 30

My mum was 42 when she had me and I wasn’t embarrassed at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

I had my three at 24, 26 and 28. That was right for me.

I thought I would be too old to have more children after 35. Ds2 was born 4 months before my 35 birthday. I wanted another one but I stuck to my cut off point.

As everyone has said before it depends on if you have had children and at what age. I had DD1 at 25 and DD2 at 27. They’re now 7 and 4, both in school. I still occasionally get broody, but we don’t seem to produce children that understand how to sleep properly, so I really don’t think I can have a newborn and go back to sleepless nights past 35. 3 years to go!

Had all FOUR! DC by 23! DH was 22 all DC will be late teens before we hit 40 🤦🏻‍♀️ if we hadn't of had children so early I don't think we would of stopped trying until it was impossible

30 was my cut off.

My ideal cut off was 30. I met DH when I was 23 so seemed like it was achievable. However as I neared 30, I was nowhere near ready to have a baby. So I moved my cut off to 35. I had DC1 at 32 and DC2 at 35. I'm now 38 and feel I could have another, though we won't. I think if at 40 I still feel this way then we might. We'll see how life is at that point.

I think it's easy to say 30, 35, 40 and all have really good reasons, but if you have fertility difficulties, or don't meet anyone in that time, I can see why the line moves.

32, squeezed the lastin at 31 in 1997, but I felt really old.

I had DS at 29, and he’s an only child. Realistically I think that 35 was the cut off- I was very unwell and wouldn’t want to go through that when much older. Having a child has also had a big impact on my career, and taken time for me to build back up again at work.

HOWEVER, if I hadn’t had him at 29 I think we would’ve kept trying until we had him or were told it wasn’t possible, if that makes sense. So no real cut off for my first baby- but my experience with having him has coloured my view on the age at which I could ‘handle’ another pregnancy, birth, baby.

Ideally 25. Realistically 30-32

30 for me, made it by 5 months :)

35

I always said 36, no idea why! I'm 36 now and have 4. My body is done but my brain isn't. We are adopting. I'd say my cut off for adopting is 40.

35. Even that would be pushing it and an absolute maximum.

Had mine at 29 and 32. Cut off for me was 35.

y mother was 40 when I was born and 45 when my sister was born. It was embarrassing having such an old mum so I was determined to be done by 30

It's all relative, and because it's so common these days, a woman becoming a mother in her 40s no longer looks like an "older" mum.

My cut off was 29. I had mine at 21. I wanted the latter part of my life to myself and my career not sleepless nights and small kids in my 40s. It worked well for me. I'm 60 now and my son is 39.
I would not wait for a man either. It worked for me.

I had mine at 28 and 30 and said that if we were to go for a third, I wouldn't go beyond 35. As it happened, we both went off the idea and decided to stick with two and I'm very glad we did! It's funny that when I was growing up, my parents were old compared with all of my friends parents but actually they were only 36 and 40 when they had me which is completely standard now!

33 which was the age i had ds.Didnt want anymore.

I had one and only DC at 40. I'm 45 now and would quite happily have another - I feel physically and financially well equipped for another. DH has responded with a big fat NO every time I've suggested it though, so I guess we're sticking at one!

For me, my cut off was 30. Only because my family have a history of certain things past a certain age and I wouldn't have wanted to risk having my child later and not being able to care for them properly due to medical reasons (obviously this could happen anyway, but at least partly in my control with at least some things) if that wasn't a problem I think I'd have been happy to have children mid 30's - 40's health, finances and career allowing.