To ask DH to ask his mum to stop?

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Firstly I want to start by saying I love my MIL, this really isn't intended to be a MIL bashing thread. She is a nice person, I just don't think she realises that she's upsetting me. In fact I know she doesn't, because she wouldn't want to.

But equally I don't know if I'm just being a bloody baby and need to get over it!!

Anyway, me and DH are having a baby very soon. He recently told his mum the name we had chosen, I'd have preferred him not to but he wanted to so fine.

Anyway, ever since then every single time we speak to her she tells us we 'must change that name', 'you can't do that', 'noooo, you can't call them that' etc... Like relentlessly.

The name is very very normal, it is not out there or strange or uncommon. But apparently together with our surname it sounds like something funny... (It doesn't).

Honestly, if we genuinely thought it did sound like this I'd agree but it doesn't, it's a stretch to even get it to sound like what she's implying.

I ended up telling my mum and my aunt who hands down would honestly tell me the truth if they agreed but they were just as confused as me and said they never would have thought it sounded like that.

AIBU to mention it to DH and ask him to ask his mum to drop it now? It's always said in a jokey way but it's starting to bug me.

I know a Wayne Anker who gets a lot of grief. Don’t do it op.

One of my teachers at school used to call the register saying 'Miss Smith?' and 'Master Jones?' instead of our first names, which he stopped doing after one of the boys in my class had the surname Bateman. I genuinely don't remember his first name now, just always remember him as Master Bateman! But that's a bit different to your situation

Yes I would ask DH to tell his DM to kindly stop it, that's baby's name and that's that.

I met a Nick Hunt once.

If it's related to swearing or rude words then MIL won't be the only one to see it. Pupils at school will see it too. Do you think your DH told MIL on purpose because he didn't want to be the one to tell you?
I know you think people don't get referred to as A.Surname but names are often written like that and if it makes a word, then people do talk about it. Presumably your name doesn't make a word so it's never remarked upon. I speak from experience, as my initials spell a word. Not a rude word but people still notice it and comment on it.

Her observation sounds pretty juvenile tbh.

I once knew a Frances Packer.

When we were at Primary she was known as Fanny until we were about 7.

After that she insisted on being known as Frances.

Can’t think why...

Come to think of it, if I’d taken DH’s surname when we married, my initials would have been TAT!

Baby should send her a christmas card

Dear Granny,

I can hear what you're saying about my name and you're making me WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

See you when I get out

Babyname Bloggs

I honestly would think a man that could not keep a request like keeping the name until the baby is born quiet, a real twit.

It's as old as the hills, but 'Isaac Hunt' still never fails to raise a smile!

Yes I do know I'm childish

I was at school with a girl called A.Pratt. Unfortunate one that. My daughter recently had her first child (our first grandchild). My mother (child's great grandmother) really took against the name for some reason, and won't stop going on about it. It's Matilda, a perfectly normal name. My mother keeps saying she should be called Rosalind!

Stand your ground politely but firmly. My ex's mother named my first dc and vetoed everything I picked for second dc. I've always regretted it. I stood by because I was just grateful for being blessed with children. Don't make the same mistake this is your dc.