TRIGGER police told my attacker my address

[whatthefliphelp]

Trigger warning

Sorry bit rambly but I had a date this weekend. About fourth or fifth id seen him. He raped me.

I freaked out. It's brought back previous trauma. When I left he rang the police to check on me. They came and then left as I was ok when I got home and felt safer.

But it turns out they told him my address. He rang me today and says he knows where I live. I've just had the police confirm that yes they told him. They were just stupid and said yes the police are at xxx address. So now he knows where I live.

I'm veering from angry to scared. I don't know what to do. I told the police woman who rang me and now she said you need to report this. I'm not in a great place. I can't handle this.

What the hell do I do?

for you op, you're doing so well just keep going and take one step at a time.
Echoing other posters I would ask the police to install a panic button.
He might not turn up but it will give you some peace of mind.
Its not easy to go somewhere else or have people staying with kids in the house and you shouldn't have to.
Its the least they can do to make you safe after that monumental fuck up.

Thank you. I'm okay.
The dc are with their dad for the next few nights so on my own and feeling it.
He rang again yesterday. I didn't answer.

The police brought round a kit to make me feel safer, a door jammer, window sensors and alarm. They've said that if I ring 999 from my mobile they'll know it's me and urgent - not sure how that works but guess they've put some sort of marker on me.

If anyone needs it they also gave me an all called Bright Sky. It's designed to look like a weather app in case people don't feel safe having it on their phone. It has some useful info on there. I'd never heard of it but thought I'd pass it on. Hopefully it will help someone.

That's all good updates. How are you feeling? You are bloody amazing x

Sorry, i missed the bit where you said you're really aware of being on your own. Have you got/do you need any distractions from us or elsewhere? x

(Also oops i namechanged mid posts)

@whatthefliphelp If he keeps trying to contact you please report him for harassment the police can arrest him for that and warn him to back off from you although he's not behaving very smart considering he's trying to make you out to be unstable repeatedly contacting you contradicts his calculating lie that he dumped you. Stay strong and if you need support I think I speak for everyone here that we're all here to support you and give you a hand hold through this awful experience, if you're worried being alone is there a friend you can contact to come stay and give you some support?

Thinking of you, OP xx