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Not to buy gift for rude godson! Who wld u blame

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Highfivemum · 07/12/2020 08:46

It was my Godson birthday two weeks ago. I bought him a lovely jacket from Next. It was the type I see him wear. I bought him age 11 as even though he isn’t a big child for his age Next in my mind is small fitting and rather bigger than smaller. I ordered online and then wrapped and messaged his mum to say his gift was their porch. I didn’t hear anything. Then this morning I received a card from him. It said “ thank you for the present that didn’t Fit ! I am 10 not 11 OK!!!!!! “
That was it. I was shocked to be honest. Must have read the card over and over again.
His mum has not said anything to me. I could have exchanged it.
His mum must have sent the card though surely. ?? whether she knew wot was written I don’t know.
I have said to my DH I am not buying a Christmas gift. DH said he is a child and not to get wound up. WWYD?

OP posts:
LittleMissLockdown · 07/12/2020 10:27

Text from mum to say she apologizes that his card upset me.

AKA sorry your feelings got hurt but it's your fault for being so sensitive, not we are sorry we hurt your feelings because the comment was so inexcusably rude.

I sincerely hope you don't get them anything else ever again, they obviously don't have any respect for you and only see you as a cash machine. Sad

LEELULUMPKIN · 07/12/2020 10:27

What a little twat.

Send him a lump of coal.

I would be so ashamed if my DS did that!

Chickychickydodah · 07/12/2020 10:27

Take a photo. Send it his Mum with the message "I could have swapped it if you'd told me".

Leave it. Unless you get an apology dont send anymore gifts.

This !!!!

Original poster
Highfivemum · 07/12/2020 10:27

She meant I had made a genuine mistake not her. !!!

OP posts:
SquirtleSquad · 07/12/2020 10:27

Happy Christmas you little shit

Not to buy gift for rude godson! Who wld u blame
ProudAuntie76 · 07/12/2020 10:28

@Knittedfairies

After that last text from his mum, if I bought him anything at all, it would be a gift voucher. 'A genuine mistake'? Yeah... right.
I read it that she was saying the OP had made a genuine mistake in her choice of gift but not to worry about getting it wrong rather than her son making a mistake.
NiceGerbil · 07/12/2020 10:29

Total aside but if her ex was your DH best mate and that's why you're godparents (guessing he must be as that was the relationship) then really be should have been the one to be doing all this stuff.

LEELULUMPKIN · 07/12/2020 10:29

Just read your update. She is worse than him as she is the adult.

This takes rude CFery to a whole new level.

nanbread · 07/12/2020 10:30

Wow awful. She clearly wants nothing to do with you.

But as an aside I don't find next sizes small, quite the opposite. My child is wearing next clothes some of which are two years below his age (he's on the smaller size). When I buy clothes there I have to size down.

ProudAuntie76 · 07/12/2020 10:30

This is one thread I hope ends up in the Daily Mail so she can read for herself how rude her child is and how awful she is too - she should be ashamed of herself treating you like that. I’m appalled for you @Highfivemum

BloggersBlog · 07/12/2020 10:31

@SquirtleSquad

Happy Christmas you little shit
Grin Grin Grin
HappyDays10101 · 07/12/2020 10:32

WTF? Just say, 'No, don't worry about it, I won't be needing a list'.

DreadingSeason2020sFinale · 07/12/2020 10:32

@SquirtleSquad perfect.

Though can I just add that you need to find one for the mother too. "A guide to etiquette" type of book.

sashh · 07/12/2020 10:33

Make his Xmas gift a book on manners.

2me2u2u2me · 07/12/2020 10:35

@GabriellaMontez

Take a photo. Send it his Mum with the message "I could have swapped it if you'd told me".

Leave it. Unless you get an apology dont send anymore gifts.

100% this, the little shit, I don't agree that he's too young to understand that what he wrote is rude.
mycatlovesmenotyou · 07/12/2020 10:35

How sad that she is raising such a rude entitled child who will only wear brand names.....

ContessaDiPulpo · 07/12/2020 10:36

@HappyDays10101

WTF? Just say, 'No, don't worry about it, I won't be needing a list'.
That would be funny Grin I'd send £20 on a gift card for Nike and leave it at that tbh.
MiniCooperLover · 07/12/2020 10:36

So you'd reward him with a £20 gift card for a brand he wants? Sod that ... no chance!

GlummyMcGlummerson · 07/12/2020 10:36

"Forget" to buy him a present. He is the way he is for a reason

OnTheBenchOfDoom · 07/12/2020 10:37

I would have said leave it in the porch and I will collect it and then I would return it, pocket the money and not buy him anything else.

Cheeky fucker. But yes, I think buying the book Squirtle linked is a great idea for Christmas.

I would just stop buying for him altogether.

steppemum · 07/12/2020 10:37

Well, I would text back.

I am shocked that you allowed him to send such a rude card.
Convention says that you say thank you whatever you receive. Adults need to teach kids to be polite and grateful.
No problem politely asking for receipt to exchange. Big problem sending a rude text to someone that you have just received an expensive present from.
Obviously you prefer to raise him to be a materialistic brat.

I will not be helping with that, so don;t bother sending me his Christmas list.

billy1966 · 07/12/2020 10:37

What can you expect from a child reared like that.

I would collect the jacket, return it and donate the money to a children's charity on his behalf.

It would be an empty card from now on.
In fact as your husband is the connection I would hand it over to him.

SuitedandBooted · 07/12/2020 10:38

Rude parent and rude child. Glad to see you won't be sending a gift again. I'm sure his list is going to be all branded stuff too, as you are clearly the cash-machine .....

Send the PP text:

"No, don't worry about it, I won't be needing a list"

lazylump72 · 07/12/2020 10:38

Afte rthat last update OP I would suggest keeping your purse closed. The mother of this boy is astounding in her ineptitude to see how wrong she is...she is dispicable.
A card and a selection box will suffice with a fiver if you feel you must do something going forward.
But yes if you do carry this on and by doing so you are enforcing their behaviour is normal and an acceptable way to treat people then sadly you will have mug written all over you.
You owe them nothing...

Cavagirl · 07/12/2020 10:38

"I'm sorry you feel he was rude"

Is his mum Priti Patel?