Not to buy gift for rude godson! Who wld u blame

[Highfivemum]

It was my Godson birthday two weeks ago. I bought him a lovely jacket from Next. It was the type I see him wear. I bought him age 11 as even though he isn’t a big child for his age Next in my mind is small fitting and rather bigger than smaller. I ordered online and then wrapped and messaged his mum to say his gift was their porch. I didn’t hear anything. Then this morning I received a card from him. It said “ thank you for the present that didn’t Fit ! I am 10 not 11 OK!!!!!! “
That was it. I was shocked to be honest. Must have read the card over and over again.
His mum has not said anything to me. I could have exchanged it.
His mum must have sent the card though surely. ?? whether she knew wot was written I don’t know.
I have said to my DH I am not buying a Christmas gift. DH said he is a child and not to get wound up. WWYD?

I think it's not really his fault that he is a rude child. I'm Asian, so I am not familiar with what godson means, but doesn't that give you the responsibility to guide him if his parents are not teaching him manners?

Wow, my DS has autism and I remember one year him opening a gift from my sister and announcing thank you but I don't like it. He was about 6 at the time. The next year we'd done loads of social story's, worked on what he was to say/ do etc. He's never done it again. If you want to buy a present from now in just a bar of chocolate - can't believe how entitled they both are.

Send the receipt then wash your hands of them. Very rude, considering he is only a god son and you are still buying him presents.

Just a card going forward, the brat doesnt deserve anything else. If you get quizzed by the mum just say that as he was so bloody rude about this last gift you are not bothering anymore.

The DM is telling you very clearly that she doesn't want to continue the godparent/child relationship.
As your basically friends of the DF why not send any cards or gifts to his address?

Oh crikey, I missed the update about the mum’s response!! I take it back, they are CF’s!!!! No more presents. I wouldn’t send the receipt or any more gifts.

If your husband is best friends with the boy's dad then he needs to show him the card and have a word about how his son is behaving. His dad needs to know how rude his kid is turning out, even though it happens under the mother's watch.

Oh no don’t give them the receipt. Get the jacket back to exchange, for something you’d like for yourself!

That's terrible.

Definitely some sort of charity gift for XMAS. It looks like you tried, someone who needs and appreciates what they get will benefit and you avoid buying a gift for a family of rude gits.

As his Godmother, I think you have a moral responsibility to make sure he and his mum know that the card was rude and ungrateful.

So I'd buy him a charity gift for Christmas. Tell the boy that the card showed ingratitude and that you're gifting a family something they need and will appreciate in lieu of a Christmas gift this year. He still means a lot to you, and you won't let this episode spoil your relationship.

Perhaps engineer a way to hand the gift over when he's with his DF?

Honestly I’d be inclined to ask for it back. Something along the lines of ‘well if it isn’t appreciated I’ll have it back so I can return it and keep my money’.

The Mum is the worst person in this scenario, being the adult and all. She’s ridiculously rude and entitled, there’s no way I’d even dream of letting my child send a note like that let alone complaining about the brand! The son has obviously learnt from the best. Don’t buy him a gift ever again.

@Arosadra

Yes, it’s rude. Very rude. But at ten years old it could very well be misjudged humour. A lot of books aimed at children of that age have humour like that, that they try to mimic and is hard to pitch right. I remember getting something like that very wrong in a school assignment at 11.

‘So, we’ve been asked to write about children’s rights! Well, the first right so want to see is the right not to be writing rubbish like this!!!!’

😱😱😱🙈🙈🙈😂😂😂

Obviously it didn’t go down well but I was a real goody two shoes child trying to pull off that down with the kids humour and failing miserably! I was embarrassed when I got a bollocking and didn’t do it again.

So yes, let his parents know but don’t assume he’s a brat.

See, I think that's amazing, and your teacher totally wrong.

I love adolescents and their crazy, creative minds.

Don't send any more presents! The child and DM are CF of the highest order. It's downright weird that the mother doesn't seem to realise that her son was exceptionally rude.

Text from mum to say she apologizes that his card upset me. Maybe I should ask her what he wants to avoid it happening again !!! But I am not to worry as it was a genuine mistake !!!
She finished by saying she will send me some things on his Christmas list!!
Yes I think some of you are right. I have Mug stamped on my head !!!

I'd pick it up to return it and then not replace it to be honest.

I’ve got god children we buy for that we don’t even know if the present ever gets received unless we ask let alone a Thankyou in a text from a parent let alone a child. I would have said you’d collect the present to return and then just wait until they asked for it back.

When I first started reading the thread I thought cut him some slack, he’s a kid, he should know better but he got it wrong.

The fact that his mother knew about it and let him send it definitely changes things though - if anything, she’s the one who needs to learn a lesson here. Rudeness means no gifts.

FWIW I always size up when buying for children!

Wow. I would not go racing out to buy more things on this kids list 😯

OMG... I would go off like a frog in a sock at my friend for insulting me via their child. She actually KNEW!!!

@TheKeatingFive

He’s only 10. Obviously he didn’t handle it as well as you would have expected an adult to, but I think you should cut him some slack.

Don't agree with this. Our 10 year old would never in a million years write something like this following a gift.

He may tell us he's not happy with it but he'd never be as rude as to say it to the person gifting.

10 year olds are not tiny children, they are capable of understanding what is rude and what is polite.

After that last text from his mum, if I bought him anything at all, it would be a gift voucher. 'A genuine mistake'? Yeah... right.

She knew??

Nope he'd not be getting anything else from me.

Yeah, she doesn't really understand that you think her son is a rude shit - she thinks he's justified in his comment. I think you need to decide what you want to do next based on that revelation, basically.

Or get him a size 5 if that's how he wants to behave.

I would collect the jacket saying you are going to exchange it but I'd actually get a refund and either not sending him anything in replacement or buy a goat in his name for charity or something. His mum is extremely rude and needs to learn to be grateful for gifts!

@Highfivemum

Text from mum to say she apologizes that his card upset me. Maybe I should ask her what he wants to avoid it happening again !!! But I am not to worry as it was a genuine mistake !!! She finished by saying she will send me some things on his Christmas list!! Yes I think some of you are right. I have Mug stamped on my head !!!

Is she for real?! The cheek of it!

No more presents OP. That’s it done now. I thought she was excusing the behaviour before. Now I think she is actively ENCOURAGING it. Nasty piece of work.