WTF do you want from this?
Some kind of 'proof' that if you talk yourself round in absolute circles to the extent you disappear up your own backside, you'll be able to convince yourself that the sulky, aggressive, gaslighting, unpleasant fuckwit you already separated from because he is a total prick is actually a great guy worth spending your one precious life with?
IF HE WAS A DECENT MAN HE WOULD NEVER HAVE BEEN IN THERE.
The fact that he was supposed to be proving to you how worthwhile he actually is just makes it worse.
The fact that he's now spent more energy than he's probably ever spent on making you feel loved, respected and reassured, on trying every trick in the book to make this ok on insulting stupid 'technicalities' makes it so much worse.
He's a scumbag. He'll be a scumbag when all this is over, if you convince yourself you can somehow make this ok and still stay with him. You'll carry on feeling like this no matter what lies you tell yourself, and when he carries on smugly insulting and shitting all over you, as he seems to do every single day in every single way, you'll feel even worse.
I cannot see one positive aspect to discussing this with this man any more. You know exactly who he is, he has shown you time and time again. It's not even like this is some one-off out of character thing... it's absolutely what you learn to eventually expect from a nasty, using, lying, emotionally abusive creep just like the one you wisely separated from.
You are simply wasting time.