She's so beautiful

[Goldenhind]

Sitting watching Strictly tonight & when Amy comes on my husband says "she's so beautiful"
I appreciate she is beautiful but what really pisses me off is that he very, very rarely gives me verbal compliments.
I said nothing but thought "why do you need to say that"? I see many gorgeous men when we are watching TV but I might think a guy is lovely but don't say it out loud out of respect for my husband...I'm quite distracted & irrationally upset now.
I've got a feeling I'm being a bit ridiculous here but would be interested to hear others thoughts...

@AddisonM

Lol at the people saying she’s not beautiful. Who the hell are you? Probably all sitting there looking like the Trunchbull

This! Not that it's really the point of the thread but she's clearly a lovely looking woman. Would love to see all the people who are calling her average.

She is pretty though. Why don’t you say the same about the next male dancer?

I dont think all thoughts need to be shared. Of course I find other men attractive. That doesn't mean when they come on the telly I bang on about how hot they are. I just think it. It's nice in a relationship to keep that to yourself I think

I would really hate it if my DP said that. We all find other people attractive but I think it’s respectful in a relationship to keep those sorts of thoughts to yourself. My DP started off in our relationship complimenting other women all the time. I eventually told him to stop as i didn’t like it and he was quite surprised as he said his previous gf always discussed who was attractive with him and never got insecure about it. Goes to show we all have different boundaries we deem acceptable in relationships

It wouldn't bother me. My OH and I will sometimes comment on the attractiveness of celebrities. I told him Bill Bailey was living the dream and he scoffed a bit. I pointed out that he does spend all day with one of the world's most beautiful women, at which point I think he saw what I was getting at.

But then I know through my OH's actions that he finds me attractive and wants to be with me. I also know he would often find commenting directly on my appearance a bit awkward, although he does notice if I've had my hair cut or otherwise changed my appearance. We also have an unwritten and largely unspoken rule that commenting on famous people on the TV is one thing, noticing people IRL is another.

So I think if it is bothering you OP it's because there is some insecurity somewhere in your relationship. Whether or not that is justified is another question.

We have been watching Community recently. I have a massive crush on Joel McHale. I make this face a lot: 🤤

DH either rolls his eyes or makes a joke about my taste. Is this not a fairly normal thing to do?

Actions speak louder than words.

He’s affectionate to you, he randomly bought you flowers and chocolates yesterday just because. He tells you he loves you. But you’re fixating on one comment? You must have been very lucky in relationships to not be able to appreciate that it’s how someone treats you day to day that counts. Not flowery words that can mean nothing anyway.

All the insecurity on this thread about appearance is tiresome. It’s not “bitchy” to evaluate a description in the context of someone having found it hurtful.

One poster commented on Gleb being goodlooking. He didn’t do anything for me personally but I think Aljaz is very goodlooking. Is that bitchy? Or do people just have different taste?

@AddisonM

I don't think anything is normal or abnormal but I do think it makes you sound about 13. I think if I were your DH I would find it a massive turn off for you to be banging on about some random dude on the telly all the time.

Next week pick a guy on the show use words like "sexy - hot - his body gives you vulva gallops - say imagine his hot lips on my neck- I'd lick his toned stomach.

VULVA GALLOPS?????! What. The. Actual. Fuck??!

🤣🤣😭

Vulva gallops 😂😂😂

Not good and very insensitive.

i don't think anything is normal or abnormal but I do think it makes you sound about 13. I think if I were your DH I would find it a massive turn off for you to be banging on about some random dude on the telly all the time

Oh unclench. It’s light hearted chat. He knows I’m (probably) not going to leave him for Joel McHale 🙄

Yes to Gleb. Absolutely gorgeous. Best looking male dancer the show has had. Wonder why he left.😞

@ShirleyPhallus

Next week pick a guy on the show use words like "sexy - hot - his body gives you vulva gallops - say imagine his hot lips on my neck- I'd lick his toned stomach.

VULVA GALLOPS?????! What. The. Actual. Fuck??!

Vulva is my most hated word of all time. I don't care if it's anatomically correct, it's awful.

Regretsandregrets, I've checked her pictures again. I'd say she is quite pretty worth very little or no make up but heavy make up does nothing to her. With lots of make up she looks ok, with less make up she looks pretty or beautiful.

Oh unclench

worth = with

After your update I think YABU. He shows you lots of affection and shows you love in other ways. You need to grow up.

I had to Google her too, I was expecting an Angelina Jolie lookalike. I was surprised, she’s pretty, but not what I would call beautiful.
But it’s your husband’s judgement I suppose.

Saying that, I watched ‘Taking Lives’ last night with DH and it starred Angelina Jolie, and she had some nudity scenes. DH didn’t bat an eyelid nor pass comment. He just wouldn’t. But everyday he calls me pretty face or tells me I look beautiful.

It’s more about how he’s making you feel and clearly it’s not good enough, so you are not being unreasonable.

He tells me he loves me, is affectionate and randomly bought me flowers and chocolates yesterday. Thing is I get lots of compliments from others on my appearance

So he's an attentive and thoughtful partner. What are you complaining about? It sounds as though you're very aware of your own looks and expect to get complimented on them all the time.

Most of us don't "get lots of compliments on (our) appearance from others". Maybe just be glad that you do, and happy that you have an affectionate partner who loves you?

Well, my husband might pass comment on someone he thinks gorgeous but he tells me how lovely he thinks I am all the time.

I would say the same when Hugh Jackman appears on screen.

It depends on the dynamics of your relationship and if it’s salacious or disrespectful in tone.

I had to look her up. I think she's just pretty girl in the street, not beautiful.

Anyway, I'd be pissed if too OP.

@MacDuffsMuff

This. She’s pretty enough but nowhere near as stunning and attractive as some of the other female pros.

But it's subjective isn't it. I think she's beautiful and seems such a lovely woman which adds to that. But I also think Oti is completely spectacular but DH doesn't. We all have different ideas of beauty don't we.

Very subjective. I would love to look like Amy. Aliona was stunning. Of the current crop, Amy and Diane are the stunners. The rest are all make up.