Delivery guy told DS he’d get fat.

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Hi all, had a food delivery this afternoon. Not in bags so all in the crates. DS spotted the chocolate I had bought him for a treat and grabbed it out when I was bringing it all in (he should have waited admittedly) but it’s been a poop day and he seen the chocolate.

DS asked if he could have it now. Driver said you’ll get really fat if you eat too much of that.

Driver is not wrong that if you eat too much chocolate you’ll get fat ^ but was it his place to say?

To clarify DS is pretty slim, very active. Doesn’t really have any other sugar other than a chocolate treat - he doesn’t like sweets or fizzy drinks. Even if he did. Surely a treat is a treat right?

So DS then said he didn’t want it as he’d get fat. I am sure the driver had no ill intentions and meant it in a nice way but just find it a bit annoying tbh

He then went onto say at least you haven’t ordered any fizzy drink with it and proceeded to say that the amount of dizzy drinks some people
Order in one shop is crazy.

Is it his place to judge though? I get my shopping delivered every week and they are all lovely usually...

Aibu to think it really wasn’t needed?

He was just trying to make conversation.

And the stuff about fizzy drinks was just digging himself a hole because he was embarrassed and trying to make your DS feel better about eating the chocolate.

Just move on from it.

@HollyCarrot

Surely the rest of the world needs to learn about autism as much as an autistic child needs to learn how to live with everyone else? We surely aren't saying that kids with autism just need to cop on and figure it out? People just need to be more mindful of their language, it's not that big of an ask imo.

I think people are learning about autism. And if they come across someone they know to be autistic, then we should expect an element of sensitivity from them.

But we can't expect everyone in the country to treat everyone else as though they might be autistic. Surely you can see that? And as every autistic person is different, just which type of autistic person should I assume that the next stranger I speak to, is? Or should I just not speak to anyone?

Of course. But I think people do need to be more mindful of what they're saying. Some people think it's snowflakey or whatever but if this kind of stuff keeps getting excused and dismissed it'll never go away.

I think responses would have been far different if this was said to a girl or a woman OP. If your DS is bothered by it you could have a quick chat with him about it.

Saw this Daily Mash “article” and though of this thread (sorry, OP, just lighthearted!)

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/lifestyle/middle-class-woman-refusing-to-give-ocado-driver-five-stars-because-he-said-aint-20201204203231?fbclid=IwAR03h3QdnUw3aUEU5DZo_oIysFBvb33yWBbwwGbz_GBlu4QK98Z4mt-eddA

I wonder if we have the same delivery driver. Mine said "that's am awful lot of fizzy juice." I laughed it off but it seriously pissed me off!

I don’t know what’s happened to people.

Oh fgs. Where does all this shit end? Nobody ever speaking to each other in case the other person is offended

Exactly this. Our society is rapidly becoming a politically correct minefield, where people are calling out innocent conversations so that they can be offended.