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Satsuma2019 · 2020-12-02T10:39:58+00:00

Hey, so we are currently trying to make Xmas plans and have decided to host Xmas dinner at our house (within the permitted COVID rules). One family member has a dog... AIBU to say this family member is not to bring their pet when attending. We don’t have pets and the dogs are known to wee and poo on the floor at a whim. Plus our house isn’t overly big and I just feel that there won’t be a lot of space for my DC to play with their new toys and we are going to have to constantly watch the dog all day to ensure they dont chew on the toys or wee on the floor. Just seems very stressful ...

luckylavender · 02/12/2020 15:42

No chance I'd allow any animal into my house & we used to have a dog.

VinylDetective · 02/12/2020 15:45

It’s a perfectly valid comparison in this context. You can’t go out and leave children or a dog on their own for prolonged periods of time. If a dog’s part of your family you don’t want to spend Christmas Day without them - just like your children. Is it really so difficult to get your head round?

blackkitty1234 · 02/12/2020 15:45

@41weekswithno2

Because if you don't like children they are as much of a pain as dogs are to non-dog people.

What if you don't like old people or disabled people?
Dogs aren't children and children aren't dogs I don't know why there are constant comparisons.
Of course there are people that have no time for children but the comparison to dogs I find weird.

Because us doggy people don’t see a difference. I know non doggy people see it differently, but to us animal lovers dogs are just like our children. All part of the family and all loved unconditionally 😊

BarryWhiteIsMyBrother · 02/12/2020 15:58

@41weekswithno2 @blackkitty1234 just like children people think that kids doing stuff like asking questions while the adults are talking, asking to show you something, playing loudly, making car noises, touching stuff at other people's places, climbing on the sofa, etc. is just kids being kids. To non-kid people, that's annoying. Just like dogs being dogs is annoying to non-dog people.

emilyfrost · 02/12/2020 16:00

Because us doggy people don’t see a difference. I know non doggy people see it differently, but to us animal lovers dogs are just like our children. All part of the family and all loved unconditionally

blackkitty1234 That’s where you’re going wrong. They’re animals, and they should be treated and trained as such.

Love them, yes, but understand they’re animals. They’re not your child, they’re not your family, they’re a pet.

Whatafustercluck · 02/12/2020 16:02

Yanbu. Just be prepared for said family member to stay for a few hours and then have to get back to Mutley. That might suit you. Or it might inconvenience you if you want a more 'go with the flow' Christmas and end up feeling rushed to do dinner at a certain time to accommodate the dog's needs. Most dogs don't do well being left home alone all day and I expect your family member will say so.

Whatafustercluck · 02/12/2020 16:04

And I love dogs, grew up with one. But I now have cats and it wouldn't be fair on them to kick them outside on Christmas Day to avoid the inevitable chaos of a dog charging around the place after them

BarryWhiteIsMyBrother · 02/12/2020 16:07

@emilyfrost that's how you see it. Many/most dog lovers would disagree.

41weekswithno2 · 02/12/2020 16:09

Because us doggy people don’t see a difference. I know non doggy people see it differently

I am a 'doggy person' but humans and dogs aren't the same and tbh it's bizarre to think they are, people that think that don't actually understand dogs as well as they think they do.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 02/12/2020 16:11

My Auntie brought her dog to ours a few Christmases ago, without asking. She hasn't been invited since

blackkitty1234 · 02/12/2020 16:13

@emilyfrost

Because us doggy people don’t see a difference. I know non doggy people see it differently, but to us animal lovers dogs are just like our children. All part of the family and all loved unconditionally

blackkitty1234 That’s where you’re going wrong. They’re animals, and they should be treated and trained as such.

Love them, yes, but understand they’re animals. They’re not your child, they’re not your family, they’re a pet.

You do understand that we, humans included, are all animals?

Who the hell are you to tell me that my dog or cat is not a part of MY family? I think I have the right to make that judgement for myself.

I remember you from other doggy threads and it is clear to me that you are not an animal lover. That’s fine, you don’t have to love animals if you don’t want to, but don’t dictate to us animal lovers how we should treat, train or perceive our furry family members.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 02/12/2020 16:17

To be fair, one of my cats despises dogs. We tried shutting her in one room while the dog was there but she was getting distressed. In the end, we had to tell them the dog either needed to go in the garden or car as the cat was the priority.

VinylDetective · 02/12/2020 16:18

Yup emilyfrost is a well known animal hater round these parts.

blackkitty1234 · 02/12/2020 16:18

@41weekswithno2

Because us doggy people don’t see a difference. I know non doggy people see it differently

I am a 'doggy person' but humans and dogs aren't the same and tbh it's bizarre to think they are, people that think that don't actually understand dogs as well as they think they do.

You are misunderstanding. No one is saying dogs and children are the same. Comparing isn’t equating.

Dogs and children are different, but to some of us, they are all of equal importance.

BarryWhiteIsMyBrother · 02/12/2020 16:20

@HunterHearstHelmsley very fair - it's the kitty's home and the dog was a guest. At the pup's home, the kitty wouldn't be welcome. 100% fair.

blackkitty1234 · 02/12/2020 16:21

@HunterHearstHelmsley

To be fair, one of my cats despises dogs. We tried shutting her in one room while the dog was there but she was getting distressed. In the end, we had to tell them the dog either needed to go in the garden or car as the cat was the priority.

Yeah. That’s fair enough. I would totally understand that your cat is your priority.

steppemum · 02/12/2020 16:27

well, we have a dog.
The dog doesn't knwo it is Christmas, so won't differentiate between a few hours on his own on Christmas day or any other day.

having said that, we have taken our dog to my parents and my brothers at Christmas. We always ask, and one year didn't take him as borther said no. That year we didn't stay over, and my lovely friend who lives roudn the corner, came in and spent some time with him, let him out for a wee etc, so we coudl be out for longer.

Butwhen we take him, he has a long tiring walk before we go. He is kept on a lead and under my feet or dh feet all day. So, not allowed to impact the host or anyone else's day.

He comes to my parents often and is now really calm there, so not a problem.
I would not take a dog who was not under control to someone else's house, I would not take a dog who wasn't properly house trained either.

loveyouradvice · 02/12/2020 16:27

I am bemused

Do they have a car? I recognise if using public transport or a taxi, its a problem.

But we have a car and a dog who is very happy in it.

Totally reasonable not to want a dog in your house - totally unreasonable to expect them not to bring their dog. As others have said you can't just leave a dog for 12 hours at home.

We take our dog ... give him a good walk and stretch and then he happily curls up on the backseat, sometimes with a bone, sometimes without and snoozes.... He loves the company on the way there and the way back, seeing people outside, etc... and really snoozing is what he would be doing the rest of the time. What's the big deal?

Yes, he's warmly wrapped in a wee coat at this time of year and has an extra blanket to snuggle into but not a deal if we're going somewhere where he's not allowed inside....

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 02/12/2020 16:35

Steppemum maybe your ddog doesn't...

steppemum · 02/12/2020 16:43

@loveyouradvice

I am bemused

Do they have a car? I recognise if using public transport or a taxi, its a problem.

But we have a car and a dog who is very happy in it.

Totally reasonable not to want a dog in your house - totally unreasonable to expect them not to bring their dog. As others have said you can't just leave a dog for 12 hours at home.

We take our dog ... give him a good walk and stretch and then he happily curls up on the backseat, sometimes with a bone, sometimes without and snoozes.... He loves the company on the way there and the way back, seeing people outside, etc... and really snoozing is what he would be doing the rest of the time. What's the big deal?

Yes, he's warmly wrapped in a wee coat at this time of year and has an extra blanket to snuggle into but not a deal if we're going somewhere where he's not allowed inside....

lovely if your dog can be left in the car.

My dog would be stressed to pieces.
He is fine travelling in the car, but not fine to be left in it for hours.

Cold too I would imagine.

VinylDetective · 02/12/2020 16:45

I too am bemused.

How could anyone think shutting a dog in a cold car on its own for hours on end is acceptable?

AryaStarkWolf · 02/12/2020 16:46

YANBU, this seems to be a new thing where people expect to be allowed bring their dogs everywhere

Baboutheocelot · 02/12/2020 16:52

How old is the dog? Some in laws brought their dog over last Christmas, I think she was about 6 months old. I’m sure she’s a lovely dog but it was stressful because she chewed everything. Every time I turned around she had shredded wrapping paper and scattered it all over, or she had one of the kids toys in her mouth.

Noshowlomo · 02/12/2020 16:53

@emilyfrost oh we did. We said the dog couldn’t come in so we’d see them another time and that was it.
Our cats are our angels. They are my furry sons and it’s their house! Not a strange (to theme) dogs house!!
If we didn’t have cats I wouldn’t have an issue with a dog coming in but my cats come first.

ClickandForget · 02/12/2020 16:55

My husband's cousin has a dog that he takes literally everywhere he goes. He didn't come to my daughter's wedding because we told him he couldn't bring the dog. There were a sprinkling of babies and children though. Wonder if he thought it unfair? Some would, apparently.