Drink Driving

[Kit0069]

I have just reported my wife, whom I love very much, for drink driving. I am broken hearted. Understandable she hates for what I have done as she will lose her job and faces a prison sentence. Was I right to do this and destroy my life with her.

I'm sorry this has happened, but you absolutely did the right thing. My sister was killed by a drink driver. I have nothing but contempt for people who drive after drinking.

So sorry to hear about all this. Does she acknowledge her alcoholism at all? How does she justify continuing to drink drive?

Hey, I haven't read all of this because going bed after a long night shift.

My 28 year old Brother (who i looked up too and adored because our Mother was an alcoholic when we were growing up, he did everything for me) was killed by a female drink driver. He left behind a 2 year old and a 4 year old when he was killed.

I really wish someone had reported her, it was a couple of years ago, I have so much hate for her. I cannot forgive her for killing my brother and leaving my beautiful Nieces without their Daddy.

Please keep reporting her.

I had to do this to my dad once. It was awful. They didn't catch him in the act though so there weren't any consequences from it, legally. Fucked us up as a family though.

Oof, this is hard @Kit0069 and I can see your thread has been going for a long time.

Solidarity and support for you, I would do the same for any member of my family who did this. Well done for having the courage.

Good luck for the coming months.

I’m sorry you are struggling so much but you know you have done the right thing. Depending on what she blew she may go to prison and if that’s what it takes to stop her then it is worth it. Keep strong. They won’t let her out until she has sobered up enough to be interviewed and charged. You need to let go and move on xxc

Oh fuck off @Nothingyet

You absolutely have done the right thing OP.

I think you did the right thing.

That she was allowed to keep her license & carry on doing it is shocking-especially in the circumstances it was surely almost a given that she would carry on.

@nothing yet

read what I wrote and tell me he was wrong, its only about 5 messages up so your tiny narrow minded brain should cope

I'm so sorry you've had to cope with all this. You have absolutely done the right thing. Keep reporting her if she is allowed to remain free. She needs to see consequences to the choices she makes.

I hope you will find the strength to end this marriage, get some counselling and move forward - you deserve to find happiness.

The guilt you feel now, is nothing against the guilt you would have felt if she killed herself or someone else.

I hope she gets the support she needs to fight the beast that is alcoholism.

Be kind to yourself, I know it hurts, but you did the right thing.

@Nothingyet don't talk shite. He's begged her to stop and she won't. What else do you suggest?

@Kit0069 thank you for doing the right thing. My heart goes out to you as I know this feels like an impossible situation.

Such a tough decision but if the first court appearance didn't stop her then it shows you were right to report the second and first.

Not one person will tell her she was right and you were wrong. You're very strong to take this action.

I know a lot of people are saying if it's her first offence then she won't get a custodial, but it's ok if it's not her first offense and she does get a custodial. Because, clearly she can't control herself.

Well done.

Hang on in there - you have done nothing wrong.

OP. You had no choice. You had to do it.

She wasn’t going to stop anytime soon. I see there’s a number of posters on here who have very sadly lost a family member due to drunk driving. You would have felt so much more guilt had you had to face a hear broken family member in court when your wife killed someone.

I'm new to this thread. I wanted to add my voice to those saying that you've done the right thing.
It must have taken such courage to make the calls.

Are you getting support for how you feel and what you're going through?

It must be hard but you have done the right thing.

@Kit0069

You have all been so helpful and kind. Case goes to court tomorrow. As she was 4x the limit she may go to prison. If she does I swear I think I will die of guilt.

Fuck guilt.

She deliberately went and put herself in charge of a tonne of lethal weapon. Not because of you being mean to her, because of her feelings of pathetic entitlement to murder anybody unfortunate enough to be in her way as she came back, all due to her wanting the feeling of being pissed.

You haven't caused upset. You shouldn't be the one feeling guilt.

Your wife has done all this. I am/was an alcoholic, and decided to stop. It's in her hands.

You haven't done anything wrong, but you know your wife has. Thank you for reporting her, you may have saved other people's lives by doing so.

Many people have been affected by people unnecessarily driving while drunk, me included. A lovely friend of mine (she made my wedding cake) was killed by a drunk driver when she was in her early 20's, her fiance was also on the motorbike they were riding when they were hit and he was badly injured. Two families and many friends suffered because of one person driving while drunk.

My mum's husband was hit by a drunk driver and had massive injuries, dying twice and having to be shocked back to life. He had unrepairable injuries to his back and legs and lost part of his brain etc. 35 years later he is having to use a wheelchair while still in his 60s as a direct result of the accident.

I am sorry for the repercussions you and your wife have to go through because of her actions and I hope you both get the help you need, but thank you for reporting her. Any negative consequences are because of her actions, not yours.