MIL & the nursery rug

[Sunshine1996]

I know I’m going to sound like a completely ungrateful bitch but MIL has bought a rug for the nursery and it is not to my taste at all. I adore my MIL, it is her first grandchild and she is so excited which is lovely. It’s not even something I could stash away as she comes round often. I realise this isn’t really a huge problem but I’m 36 weeks pregnant and very hormonal 😂 it clashes completely with her room, just a rant really.

How about setting up a downstairs changing station using the rug? Might save your carpet

Thank her for being generous, but be honest and tell her you want to exchange it.

This is the rug if anyone is interested, if anyone actually does have this in their nursery I don’t mean to offend it just isn’t to my taste

I kind of want to laugh in relief that someone else has experienced this problem; my pil have done this for my DSs room and I really dislike the rug. My DH put it in there and think it’s looks sweet but I resent it to be honest as I wanted the nursery done how I wanted. Now that I’m writing about it I wonder about saying something has been dropped on it so that I can remove it.

Hmmm. I think it’s the materials isn’t it? It’s that classic synthetic type of mat whereas you would probably choose a natural fabric

I don’t know what to suggest. I wouldn’t want it in the nursery due to the chemicals. But how you would explain that to your MIL without offending her god only knows. I’d have that rug in the utility instead 😬

Put the cot on top of it to protect the carpet?

Well baby won’t be in their own room for at least 6 months. Plenty of time to spill something on it (paint/ irn bru whatever).

Jeez yanbu. That rug is HIDEOUS. and the little quotes. Vom.

You need to tell her. Sorry!

Let the baby have some nappy free time on the rug and hope for a stain as an excuse to get rid

I don't think I'd want a rug in the nursery at all, I trip over my own feet enough anyway!

Who takes it upon themselves to buy home items such as rugs without asking the householder a) if they would like a rug and b) what rug would they like? My first grandchild is 3 weeks old and I wouldn't have dreamed to have presumed to buy furnishings for the nursery. It's just rude if you ask me. Please be honest with her and say it doesn't go with the nursery so would she mind changing it or getting a refund.

“It’s a lovely thought MIL but I don’t trust myself not to trip over a rug, especially in the middle of the night”

If you don’t feel like honesty... (or more likely, your DH, his mother after all) and you don’t feel like just not using it...

I would make sure that it gets poo in, one way or another, purely by accident, in the first few weeks. Maybe by rubbing a nappy into it.

How often is MIL likely to be in the kids’ room? Can’t remember my parents or in laws ever up there really, maybe my mum a couple of times. See what you mean about the rug though!!

Fruggalo, I'm sure most babies would manage that by their own accord😁

Ok I don’t mind the rug that much myself! I wouldn’t choose one with those quotes (which are a bit much!) but at the same time the colours are ok and neutral.

However, you don’t like it, so I’d probably say to MIL “thanks for the thought, but I wanted to get xyz” and then see if it could be exchanged or get a refund.

YANBU its horrible

It was obviously meant kindly.

You could keep it rolled up downstairs and put it down as a play mat/for tummy time when needed? It will protect the carpet/floor from drool and wooden play blocks being thumped on it.

That is a very ugly rug.

Get DH to spill a glass of red wine on it.

Gah - that's pretty gri. Still, all sorts of horrible things tend to happen to carpets in babies' rooms ...

It doesn’t matter if it’s nice or not, really, the point is that it’s overstepping boundaries. What next?

Oh dear, that doesn’t bode well for future gifts. You might be better off explaining that you are unusually picky and much as you love her for her generosity perhaps you could exchange it? Otherwise expect a tidal wave of grim sloganed clothing for the foreseeable.

Grim ffs ...

Deliberately ruining something because you don’t like it seems very petty and vindictive.

Either say it’s no good and ask for it to be changed, use it, or give it to a charity shop. Just because it’s not to your taste doesn’t mean it’s no good for someone else

Its just a rug, so don't complain about it. Your forthcoming child might like to sit on it at a later date, and be amused with the patterns on it. It's like a little educational rug !