MIL & the nursery rug

[Sunshine1996]

I know I’m going to sound like a completely ungrateful bitch but MIL has bought a rug for the nursery and it is not to my taste at all. I adore my MIL, it is her first grandchild and she is so excited which is lovely. It’s not even something I could stash away as she comes round often. I realise this isn’t really a huge problem but I’m 36 weeks pregnant and very hormonal 😂 it clashes completely with her room, just a rant really.

Hellfire that is hideous. My eyes hurt!

YANBU. I can't stand the quotes either! You need a dog to have an accident on it or something. Or a cat to piss on it.

Rugs are dangerous with new borns. Half asleep, carry a baby, especially at night. The trip hazard is too much.
Tell her that, stash it away until toddler us exploring paint.

I would just get your husband to that her for the lovely gesture, but its not going to match the colour scheme you've picked out. My boys had yellow and green when they were babies so it wouldn't have matched at all.
Maybe she can return it or sell it?
I think it's overstepping but she probably just got overexcited lol. My mum would ask if there was anything she could buy and get me to pick it. Good luck lol

@jessycake

keep it for the garden in summer and as a playmat

Really good idea. After all, it is apparently “easy to clean and durable”.

Keep for a wee bit and maybe it can have an unfortunate 'accident' with something very staining 😁

@WildfirePonie

YANBU. I can't stand the quotes either! You need a dog to have an accident on it or something. Or a cat to piss on it.

I can loan you one of mine 😹😻

Generally I’m grateful for all gifts but I think she’s overstepped the mark buying her choice of rug which would be a permanent fixture in the room. A little outfit or you is different. I’d have to say something or you’ll probably find that wall decorations etc will join it!

We had a gorgeous nursery rug which DS was sick over. No matter what we did, we couldn’t get the smell out so sadly had to throw it away. You could tell MIL this happened to you and give it to a charity shop.

But...the chances re that MIL would replace it with the same rug.

My mother gave me a hideous Disney rug, in kit form. Not only did I have to suffer the gurning Pooh, I had to make the fucker myself!

If it's 'accidentally' stained then she might just buy a replacement.
Just say "thank you very much for the thought mil but I'd already chosen something so will have to return your rug"

YANBU it looks tacky and cheap sorry. I'd just keep it rolled up and bring it out for tummy time. If she mentions it tell her you don't want to be standing on it when baby will be lying on it.

£17? It doesn't take anything from the thought behind it, that's not what i meant, but I would have no moral issue with saving it for the garden!

Unless...you are not planning on having a home birth are you? That would be suitable and the end of the rug forever

your water could break on it still

Just say they don’t recommend rugs for tiny babies’ rooms because it’s a trip hazard. You’ll get it out when she’s older. (Like 21..)

"Just say "thank you very much for the thought mil but I'd already chosen something so will have to return your rug""

I think that if you really don't have a use for it then that's the best thing.

Most people like to buy their own furniture & furnishings!

If GC was older & it's something that they would like for their room then it's a gift for them, which is different.

Think yourself lucky. While DH and I were on honeymoon, my MIL kindly decided to redorate MY kitchen in MY new house, as a wedding present. I hated it but had to live with it for a few years until we coul legitimately redecorate.

I would put it in the nursery for now, but a couple of weeks after baby is born you discover it's a bit impractical due to tripping on the edges so use it as a playmat downstairs (only when MIL comes though!)

As someone said above, it’s hugely presumptuous to buy furnishings for someone else’s home. Hopefully this isn’t the start of her overstepping the mark buying things for dc.

I agree with previous suggestions, put it away as a trip hazard, use it as a playmate, or rug to put pram on in hallway. Or could suggest she keeps it at her house as a playmate?

@KarenMarlow3

Think yourself lucky. While DH and I were on honeymoon, my MIL kindly decided to redorate MY kitchen in MY new house, as a wedding present. I hated it but had to live with it for a few years until we coul legitimately redecorate.

wow

why do people do that!

Stick in a cupboard - roll it out a few time when MIL visits. Then roll up again and if she asks just say its gone for cleaning. Then if asked again say sadly it didn't make it through the cleaning, and you haven't replaced it as tripped a couple of times with the baby. Charity shop a long way from her home.

The easy way out is to stain it with something and unfortunately have to get rid of it.

But this doesn't solve the underlying problem... which is that she thinks it's acceptable to buy large and cringeworthy furnishings for your house. Sadly this is not likely to be a one-off, unless you knock it on the head now.

So you probably have to bite the bullet and actually tell her that you appreciate the thought, but it's not really to your taste. Give it back to her and suggest she might want to keep it at her house for your baby to hopefully vomit on play on when you visit.

Otherwise there is no end to the twee and kitschy furnishings you may end up with.

YANBU - I can empathise....MIL made DS1 an absolutely hideous patchwork quilt that she fully expected to take pride of place on his bed. I was made out of horrible clashing scraps of material with ducks and animals and had clearly taken her AGES to make. I managed to keep it folded on a chair for the first 2 years until DS moved to a full size bed after which she insisted it permanently be on the bed (instead of the beautiful white company one I had bought!!!)....luckily she lives 2 hours away so I was able to bring it out whenever she visited and then pack it away!!! Perhaps you could roll out the rug whenever you know she is visiting?

I agree with just saying thank you so much but we already had everything for the nursery sorted, no need to pretend to love it or similarly ruin it. You could maybe suggest something you wouldn't mind her getting, maybe a photo frame?

I like it.