Is this rude?

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So my sister has a boyfriend and they are expecting a child together, due in May 2021. I haven't met the boyfriend yet ( they don't live close).

My sister, myself and my partner share a WhatsApp group with my mother where we exchange photos of our children and discuss daily matters.

Two days ago I added this boyfriend to our WhatsApp group in order to "welcome him to the family" before we get to meet in real life.

He thanked me for adding him to the group and I asked him if he was looking forward to being a dad and he said very much so.

Yesterday I discussed something with my mother in the group. It wasn't a lot of messages, maybe ten and they all occurred within an hour.

Later on there was a notification that my sister's boyfriend left the group.

AIBU to think this is rude? He could have muted the group.

I asked my sister why he left the group. She said she didn't know, but perhaps the messaging was too much for him.

This is hard to believe for me, because when my sister visited me, she was on her phone all the time WhatsApping with him.

It’s a bit strange you added him, but I wouldn’t have left if I was him.

Perhaps he doesn't want a shitload of pointless messages?

Just a thought.

Definition of social media: websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking.
Whatsapp group chat = social media.

My husband has had to leave lots of family groups because his phone is constantly pinging when he is trying to work and also he finds it annoying. I've left a few myself

Nice to include him in the WhatsApp but I’m not surprised he left if you and your mum exchanged 10 messages between you in an hour! You should’ve taken your personal chat offline. I hate it when people do that on a group chat.

Why didn't you message your mum about this personally? He didn't ask to be added to a mum and sisters group chat - me, my mum and sister have one of these and if my OH was in it he'd go crazy!

I think it’s rude to use a group chat to have a side conversation.

Just to echo that it is incredibly rude to use a group chat to have a one to one conversation with one person . And ten messages in an hour is an extensive chat.

Why did you think that he would to see your chat with your mum?

And if you didn’t think everyone else on the group would want to be involved why didn’t you send messages to her direct