But you can’t get pregnant with the coil ffs. That’s the whole point.

[TeddyIsaHe]

This is truly not happening. I have literally just split up with a horrendously abusive man.

Horrid cramps. Feeling sick. Peeing all the time and now I have a positive test.

Tell me this is not happening.

Its not 100%

But sorry this has happened.

I'm so sorry, what a horrible shock for you. ❤️ Have you got someone you can ring and rage at about it, and support for the after effects of the abuse?

Also, you don't have to make any decisions right now but know that whatever decision you make is yours and yours alone.

Op I'm sorry.
As you have the coil I think you need to speak to the GP sooner rather than later. And you have choices. Those choices are there so you can do what's right for you and your life. That's all, no one else's opinions matter

You can, I’ve heard of several people getting pregnant whilst having a coil and having to have a termination, NO contraception is 100%

Looks like it's happening. Doesn't have to result in a baby though. Ask your GP for a scan asap to see where you're at. If you can afford it I'd go for a private one. Can you do that? Marie Stopes are utterly brilliant. If you want to terminate give them a call and they will give you all your options once you know how many weeks you are. Lots of support here whatever you decide.

What an awful situation to be in. Make an appointment with your GP to go through all available options to you. Your body, your choice. You're stronger than you think and will get through this.

Oh God, I'm so sorry! I agree with PP, you need to see your GP ASAP. The sooner you know for sure how far along you are the sooner you'll know what options are open to you.

Other posters can flame me if they will, but remember that you don't have to tell him a damn thing if you don't want to. You can handle this on your own no matter how you decide to handle it. If he is indeed horribly abusive, it'd actually probably be easier if that way.

@AcrossthePond55

Oh God, I'm so sorry! I agree with PP, you need to see your GP ASAP. The sooner you know for sure how far along you are the sooner you'll know what options are open to you.

Other posters can flame me if they will, but remember that you don't have to tell him a damn thing if you don't want to. You can handle this on your own no matter how you decide to handle it. If he is indeed horribly abusive, it'd actually probably be easier if that way.

No flaming from me! I was going to say exactly the same thing - you do not have to tell him anything. In fact I strongly suggest you don’t.

Whatever you decide to do, there will be plenty of support here for you.

So sorry this is happening

Congrats on escaping your abusive relationship though, that takes some serious guts! Whatever you chose to do I think you will be ok as it seems you are strong. It’s your body and your choice on what you want to do.

My friend had an ectopic pregnancy with a coil. I’m really sorry for your situation but please speak to your GP ASAP.

I did, with a copper coil. Is yours copper or mirena? Either way you need it checked ASAP. It might have moved. And you need to discuss what to do next, get support, etc.

It happened to me, the coil had moved and wasn’t working. Im really sorry this is happening to you OP. You need to get seen ASAP, not to compound your worry but a coil pregnancy has a higher risk of being ectopic so you need a scan as soon as possible. ♥️

I am sorry, but yes it is happening so you need to do two things.

First see your GP to make sure its in the right place, as PP have said, it could be ectopic and that is a threat to you.

Then you need to decide what you want to do about the pregnancy. If you want to terminate then I have been there and it isnt as bad as you think. It really isnt. If its what you want then its a relief and the pain (especially if you have a medical termination) is no worse than a period.

If you want to keep it then there is support for you out there (and on here).

Take care. Been there but you will come out the other side as many thousands of us have done.

We didn’t live together and we have no ties at all so I’m heading towards not telling him.

I feel gross for even saying that, but I can’t picture any situation in which me having to make contact about this will end well.

I got pregnant on the coil because my uterus is a funny shape. We didn't know until a year or so in but it had fallen out of place.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Do talk to your doctor about all of your options.

Whatever happens with your pregnancy, you'll be better off without that man in your life. And so will your baby if you have one. Three decades ago, I was that baby.

I know several women who got pregnant with a coil in. Prior to this, i would have said it must never happen!

OP, please make sure that you are only thinking of yourself right now. You must do what feels right for you.

Good luck.

Have an abortion if you want to, OP.

@TeddyIsaHe

We didn’t live together and we have no ties at all so I’m heading towards not telling him.

I feel gross for even saying that, but I can’t picture any situation in which me having to make contact about this will end well.

You don't have anything to feel guilty about. If you'd be safer, healthier and happier without this man in your life then you don't owe him a thing.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but you've already proven in freeing yourself of your ex that you're tremendously strong. You can face this

@TeddyIsaHe

We didn’t live together and we have no ties at all so I’m heading towards not telling him.

I feel gross for even saying that, but I can’t picture any situation in which me having to make contact about this will end well.

As someone who escaped an abuser, I agree. There is NOTHING in this situation that justifies you contacting him in anyway. Whatever you do he will use against you, and if you continue with the pregnancy he will use the child against you and do untold damage to that child in the process.

Whatever you do, do it for yourself and by yourself, FFS dont let him find out.

I fell pregnant with a coil. She’s now 16!
Op, I know it is a huge shock. But you do not have to tell him anything, whatever you decide to do!
Talk to a health professional about what your next step is. Maybe counselling? Just to Clift things in your head.

Clifit? Clarify?

I’m so sorry OP, what a shock for you.

Please remember that you have options, and an absolute right to exercise any one of them without guilt or judgment. Whatever you want to do going forward, you’re absolutely entitled to do. I hope you’re ok and that you have the support of friends and family around you

You need to see a gp quite soon as a lot of women who get pregnant on the coil end up with it being an ectopic.

I agree with what the others have said though. Just because it’s positive, doesn’t mean it has to end in a baby.

You are more than within your right to terminate

Don't tell him! He doesn't deserve to be a part of this decision or its aftermath. So sorry OP. You didn't need this after what you have been through :'-(