But you can’t get pregnant with the coil ffs. That’s the whole point.

[TeddyIsaHe]

This is truly not happening. I have literally just split up with a horrendously abusive man.

Horrid cramps. Feeling sick. Peeing all the time and now I have a positive test.

Tell me this is not happening.

Sorry op. I’ve fallen pregnant with the coil too. You need a scan ASAP to check where the pregnancy is (can be higher chance of ectopic) and if the coil is still in place. Good luck.

I got pregnant on the coil in September. Also with an abuser. Ended up as a miscarriage.

@Soubriquet

You need to see a gp quite soon as a lot of women who get pregnant on the coil end up with it being an ectopic.

I agree with what the others have said though. Just because it’s positive, doesn’t mean it has to end in a baby.

You are more than within your right to terminate

This!

I had a pregnancy with a coil that resulted in an ectopic. I ended up loosing one Fallopian tube as was quite a few weeks along by the time it was detected.

I agree with everyone else, do whatever is right for you.

Do you have someone trusted in real life who can support you whatever path you choose to take?

Good luck

I'm sorry this happened, but you can and will get through it. As a father, I agree with previous posters that whatever you decide to do is your choice.

If the father were a random one night stand, there would be no reason to feel you had to tell him. As he is a known abuser there is good reason to actively choose not to tell him.

OP, what a shock.

You must do what is right for you.

But in an effort to remove any shame or guilt attaching to the termination option, if I were in your situation, having just escaped an abusive relationship, I would personally have an abortion. So no judgement from me if you decide that's what's best for him.

If you decide you want to keep the baby, do not tell him, and be prepared to lie to his face if you bump into him 9 months from now with a baby in a sling, and tell him it was the result of a ONS after you split.

Sending love OP. Do whatever YOU want and need, and give yourself some time to decide. Getting pregnant with a coil you are slightly higher risk of an ectopic pregnancy so I would contact your local early pregnancy unit or GP for advice. 💐

I second all those saying you don’t need to tell him but you do need to speak to your GP.

I have a Mirena and an ok relationship but he is well aware that I have no intention of raising another child (despite loving the one I have). An unexpected coil pregnancy would mean an immediate abortion appointment for me with zero shame.

I’ll give my GP a call this morning and see what they say re scan etc with the coil in.

I absolutely cannot have another baby. It’s not the right time, and I do not want to be tied to him in any way.

It just feels like this year is never ending with the shite.

You should absolutely not tell him. You say you're in no position to have the baby, so there's your decision. Get yourself seen as the risk of an ectopic is increased, and then deal with the situation in whatever way you see fit. Good luck.

I absolutely cannot have another baby. It’s not the right time, and I do not want to be tied to him in any way.

You don't have to. It's absolutely ok to choose a termination if that is better for the quality of your life/your existing childrens lives.

None of this is your fault OP.
You were taking sensible precautions and the device let you down.
This can be dealt with swiftly, and before long you will be well on the way to your new abuse free life

You don't have to have it if you don't want, but please speak to your GP as a priority- I had an ectopic with the copper coil and it was quite nasty. X

Wow, that's a pretty clear positive. Sorry you're having a shitty year OP. Providing it's a normal pregnancy, BPAS will be able to help you and they are excellent.

There seem to be a lot of women here who have gotten pregnant with a coil in. I guess there is no way of knowing if it's moved?

@TeddyIsaHe - Nothing to add but wishing you well today xx.

I had a positive pregnancy test when I had a coil. It was confirmed by a blood test the following day. There is an increased risk of ectopic pregnancy so I was sent to A&E (not an a&E problem but related to byrocrasy) to get the pregnancy hormone levels and an internal ultra sound. They determined that it is likely a chemical pregnancy and that the coil was in working order.

I understand that it is stressful, but I would take it one step at a time.

Sorry OP. That's shit luck, no doubt about it.

Jeepers this thread is not a good advert for the coil! Good luck OP, I hope you find a kind medical professional to help you ASAP.

You dont have to go ahead with the pregnancy, the abortion pill is very effective. Might not be what anyone on here wants to read but you have more than one choice.

Good luck with the GP. So sorry you are having a shitty year.

Im sorry youve got this stress to handle right now op. I hope the GP appointment/ referral gets sorted quickly. I have a brother who was a coil fail, I'm aware it can happen. It looks as though all of the could be have been covered. Best to know what's happening with YOU so you know where your at. Best wishes op

OH what bad luck op, but whatever you decide (and either option is perfectly fine) do what you feel is right for you.
Do not ever tell him, or anyone linked to him, or anyone you cannot trust 100%

Best of luck sweetheart. Women really do get the majority of shit in life. If I were you I’d be in the phone to the GP this morning asking for a termination & getting the position of that coil checked. Hugs x

Unfortunately no contraceptive is 100%.

Definitely dont tell him. Whether you terminate or not you dont have to be tied to an abusive man.

I'm so sorry op! Unfortunately there's a very slim chance you can fall pregnant on the coil.
No matter what you decide, you're best speaking to a gp asap because falling pregnant with the coil in can cause you some issues! Sending you love