But you can’t get pregnant with the coil ffs. That’s the whole point.

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This is truly not happening. I have literally just split up with a horrendously abusive man.

Horrid cramps. Feeling sick. Peeing all the time and now I have a positive test.

Tell me this is not happening.

Don’t tell him your decision but don’t ruin your life with a baby you don’t want very early days see Gp and discuss options. Hugs.

You are absolutely doing the right thing, OP. Take care of yourself.

You are absolutely doing the right thing. In no scenario would you plan to have a baby with this man, and while it's harder to see clearly when there's a tough decision to be made, do make that decision with all the clarity you can muster.

Best of luck with everything, and I hope you have a happy, fulfilled and free future

Just read your update, absolutely the right thing to do, take care, and be kind to yourself over the next few months, you've been through a lot.

You're completely doing the right thing. I hope it all goes well - take time to recover from this horrible relationship and spend some time being happily single. You deserve it.

@TeddyIsaHe

And tbh if I can survive him and the horrendous relationship I can do quite literally anything.

Yes you can! Good luck OP.

I'm glad you have medical care in place and are safe out of the relationship. It sounds like it is emotional for you so you might want to consider finding someone very trustworthy and supportive or a professional counsellor that you can talk out loud to safely if you need to at any point, online only goes so far. Such a difficult situation can generate a lot of sadness, anger or all sorts of feelings and it's nice to have somewhere safe to take it all, you don't have to carry all that stuff silently yourself. I'm sorry you're having to go through all this.

So glad that you have a plan and are feeling calmer. Good luck OP

Glad you're getting sorted OP.

I had a very unexpected pregnancy a few weeks ago at 45. Various reasons mean I absolutely couldn't continue with the pregnancy and definitely didn't want another child. It was still really tough mentally, and a combination of the stress, headmess and hormones made everything feel very hard and upsetting and that still hasn't entirely settled down. Don't beat yourself up at all, be kind to yourself. It would be good if you had someone to talk to, or to watch movies with and to be kind to you during the process. Message me if you need anyone to talk to thats recently been through this x

💐💐💐💐💐💐💐well Done just think soon this will be all over your doing the right thing, after this spoil yourself for Christmas with me treat, hugs lots of them.

I have my initial appointment tomorrow, where I’ll have the coil removed and the first lots of medication. I’m then taking the second lot at home.

Thankfully Dd is at her dad’s this weekend, and he’s dropping her to nursery on Monday, so I have a clear 48 hours or so to recover.

I’m going to properly baby myself, and I have a good friend coming over so I’m not on my own. I’m so looking forward to this chapter of my life being over now and picking myself up and finishing the year happy

Thank you for all your continued support and kindness

Hugs and more hugs now plenty of rest and favourite treat meals, as little cooking as possible and be very kind to yourself.

All the best.

Glad you've not given up on a future coil even if you've given up on sex.

I've had mine in for 4 years and get pregnant at the drop of a hat (first month of trying both times) and it's worked fine for me touch wood. I do check the threads each week though. Sadly nothing is 100%

Take care

Virtual hug from me, take care of yourself.

I'm glad you have a friend coming over. Good luck.

I’m glad you have your friend and some recovery time, best wishes.

Hope you are ok, sending love

Thinking of you this weekend, hope you’re doing ok and being looked after by your friend x

You have been in my prayers all weekend I hope your ok💐💐💐💐hugs.

Big unmumsnetty pre covid hugs , absolutely do not tell him, I hope you're ok (as you can be in the circumstances) and being looked after well. Well done for escaping the bastard xxxx