But you can’t get pregnant with the coil ffs. That’s the whole point.

[TeddyIsaHe]

This is truly not happening. I have literally just split up with a horrendously abusive man.

Horrid cramps. Feeling sick. Peeing all the time and now I have a positive test.

Tell me this is not happening.

Oh so sorry this has been such a shot year for you OP. You have done amazing to leave your abusive relationship. One more hurdle and you will have him out of your life completely

I don’t want to out myself so I won’t go into detail. I fell pregnant whilst on a different form of contraception, my partner was abusive and unfit to be a partner let alone a father. Not a chance was I going to allow him to be a permanent part of my life or potential babies life. I had a termination in secret and it was the best decision I ever made.
I am not with him now either.

This isn’t easy I understand, but what ever decision you make is for you xx

Hope you are ok OP, thinking of you

My mum had the coil fitted but still fell pregnant with me.
If he is abusive there is no way I would be telling him.

There is a much higher risk of mc with a coil in. Figures suggest 40-50%. I was 16-18 weeks when I mc with the coil. There's a risk of an ectopic pregnancy too. It's really not worth telling the abusive ex as your chances of a healthy full term pregnancy aren't great. I know pp on here have been coil babies, but you do need to get a scan as it's not likely to end in a baby. My experience was relief because my ex was also abusive, but then I was surprisingly sad.

Hope you're okay op. The early pregnancy unit are great generally.

@TeddyIsaHe

We didn’t live together and we have no ties at all so I’m heading towards not telling him.

I feel gross for even saying that, but I can’t picture any situation in which me having to make contact about this will end well.

If he was abusive then absolutely don't tell him

Hope your appointment went well. There’s a pregnancy choices board on here that you might want to visit

Hope you're okay, OP

thinking of you. hope the app went ok

Ok so approx 6.1 weeks pregnant. Thank god, was having visions of being 8 months or something insane.

I’ve been referred to the Marie Stopes Center in my city, so should have the initial appointment before the end of the week. They will take out the coil there as well which is super handy. And then I’ll take the tablets with 48 hours in between I believe.

Then back after 6 weeks for another coil fitting. And then I’m never having sex again so won’t worry about this happening again!

@TeddyIsaHe

Ok so approx 6.1 weeks pregnant. Thank god, was having visions of being 8 months or something insane.

I’ve been referred to the Marie Stopes Center in my city, so should have the initial appointment before the end of the week. They will take out the coil there as well which is super handy. And then I’ll take the tablets with 48 hours in between I believe.

Then back after 6 weeks for another coil fitting. And then I’m never having sex again so won’t worry about this happening again!

So no eptopic pregnancy? Thats good news.

Well done OP for handing things so brilliantly in such a horribly stressful situation.

It might make you feel better to know I've also had a termination with Marie Stopes at around 6-8 weeks and they were brilliant and everything I needed at that time. They also sorted birth control for after that. The pills made me a bit nauseous but its really just a case of spending the day watching some Netflix in PJs and then its done

So happy your appointment was a positive one op. It sounds like it will all go smoothly.

I’m so glad it went well and that you have a plan set in motion.

It happened to me. And the first two babies were the pill. Have a think, be kind to yourself and know whichever way to choose to go YOU CAN DO IT. I raised my first two for 3 years alone whilst fleeing awful domestic abuse and navigating the court system. Sending hugs OP XX

So glad you have been seen and are getting this sorted, I’m sure the next days/weeks won’t be easy but just remember that you never have to have anything to do with this abusive man again and you will be free xx

Feeling so much better now I have a plan of action. I was abolsutely shitting myself when I posted this, thinking I’d have to tell him and be stuck with him etc etc

It was very reassuring to read I actually don’t.

I mean this isn’t the nicest thing to go through, and I tried to prevent it happening, but I’d so much rather this than having a child with him. It would be utterly awful.

Good luck and take care.

And tbh if I can survive him and the horrendous relationship I can do quite literally anything.

I mean this isn’t the nicest thing to go through, and I tried to prevent it happening, but I’d so much rather this than having a child with him. It would be utterly awful.

I agree, and I don't think you'll have any regrets at all. You're doing the right thing.

@MarinPrime
When my son was born, the midwife found my coil embedded in my placenta.

Were you in GRH 23 years ago?

Good luck to you OP and I hope it goes as smoothly as possible. You're making a sensible decision.

I haven’t told anyone in rl because I’m so worried about it getting back to him so this has been so helpful and calming.

I KNOW I’m doing the right thing but I’m starting to feel bonkers tonight and really sad. I’m so sad that I have to go through this when he gets to juat swan about not caring about anyone apart from himself. Fucking men.

I think you’re doing the right thing. You need to keep yourself safe from him.