But you can’t get pregnant with the coil ffs. That’s the whole point.

[TeddyIsaHe]

This is truly not happening. I have literally just split up with a horrendously abusive man.

Horrid cramps. Feeling sick. Peeing all the time and now I have a positive test.

Tell me this is not happening.

Hi OP, what a horrible shock for you. Please get yourself checked to make sure it's not an ectopic pregnancy.

I hope you’re ok. 💐

Hope you get that scan OP, I'm so sorry that this has happened to you!

Best of luck at the doctors, no contraceptive is 100% except abstinence, but you've literally had the tiniest percent go wrong for you, I'm so sorry foryou, it sounds like very difficult situation, sending you strength and resilience, although you sound like you are doing amazing with it!

Just posting to say well done for getting rid of an abusive man and that I hope it all works out for you.
When I was rock bottom after a relationship break up and a termination, I felt very low for a period, but things started to steadily improve soon afterwards and life is amazing now, so I hope yours improves soon too.

When I was little my mum said I used to say I was a coin baby; what I actually had heard was that, I had been conceived whilst mum had a coil. I’m sure they are about 97% reliable but someone will probably have more knowledge than me.

Find out for sure, think about your situation and look after yourself. Sounds like you are having a pretty rough time

@TeddyIsaHe no need to feel gross for not wanting to tell him. Keeping away from an abusive person is always a good thing

Hi @TeddyIsaHe

Firstly, please book to see your doctor ASAP as falling pregnant with a coil can cause an ectopic pregnancy (another sign is cramping!) I fell pregnant with a coil over 5 years ago now, found out at nearly 8 weeks, suspected ectopic but it was where the coil was situated that was causing pain/cramps, I had it removed during the pregnancy, I was told it would most likely result in a miscarriage but if the pregnancy did happen to continue then to consider my options, I had the coil removed at 9 weeks and the pregnancy continued. I remember the feeling of total shock, it came at the worst time and we already had two children and didn’t plan on having anymore. I knew an abortion wasn’t right for me, so we continued with the pregnancy. Please discuss with your doctor and confide in somebody close to you, it really helps!

@yelyah22

I'm so sorry, what a horrible shock for you. ❤️ Have you got someone you can ring and rage at about it, and support for the after effects of the abuse?

Also, you don't have to make any decisions right now but know that whatever decision you make is yours and yours alone.

That.

The coil isn't that safe, I've known people become pregnant with it.

Good luck.

Know 5 people on the coil and 3 have got pregnant on it! You dont have to make any decisions yet but definitely make a GP appointment to see if there is any health risk with the coil and pregnancy

Agree with others here, don't tell him. If he's abusive he will find a way to twist this situation into a means to abuse you further. Keep him well out of it, whether you terminate or not.

My sister got pregnant on the coil and because she was on the coil she did not realize she was pregnant for 4 months. She gave birth to a baby boy at 7 months and coil came out attached to afterbirth. She said it gave the midwife a giggle. It had apparently moved after working perfectly well for 8 months before she got pregnant. You need to think what is best for you. Don't tell abusive ex as he will only start making demand's. Ring your GP urgently and get counseling to help and support your choice. I hoping you have family and friends support too. Well done for escaping an abuser. I know it must be so hard for you right now.

This happened to me a just over 2 years ago. I had a termination at 7 weeks. Best thing I ever did, the idea of being forever linked to that man is horrific. He would have ruined my (and my other precious kids') lives.
It's was a copper coil.

It's not 100% safe.

Unfortunately you can, no contraception is 100%. Go and speak to you Dr ASAP.

It’s perfectly possible to fall pregnant with a coil, you may not remain pregnant with it in though as it’s designed to dislodge an early pregnancy. If you have an undiagnosed bicornuate uterus then pregnancy is very possible. I’m sorry for the stress you are going through. If you decide to keep the baby, then you don’t have to tell the father. The baby is separate from the father and won’t be like him. I hope you have some support around you who you can talk to.

It happened to me, with a copper coil. Please speak to your GP - mine examined me to see where the coil was, and I got a very quick referral to early pregnancy where they removed it. They also asked about whether I wanted to proceed with the pregnancy.

Mine had slipped down slightly.

Be kind to yourself you've had a massive shock x

You will be ok.

Don't even think of telling him for a moment - your private medical business is nothign to do with him, and that goes triple for the kind of arsehole who forfeited every right to your time and your confidence the moment he acted abusively.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Remember that whatever choice you make is yours alone.

If you choose to terminate, nobody would judge you considering your circumstances (heck, nobody should judge any woman making that choice anyway).

If you choose to keep the baby, you may come to see it as the light that came out of a very dark relationship.

You're in shock at the moment, but the best thing to do is get a scan to find out how far along you are, find out all of your options, and then imagine yourself taking each choice and turn and think about how life might be like afterwards.

Unless you're already a few months gone, you will have a little time to make your decision, possibly a few weeks at least, so you don't have to make a decision today, or even tomorrow.

I hope you're okay, and that what you decide brings you peace and happiness.

And entirely inaccurate.

@HollyandIvyandallthingsYule

And entirely inaccurate.

You changed your username to write it, so clearly you knew it was a shitty thing to say.