My reformed alcoholic partner doesn't want me to drink

[Ultrarunner]

She's 30 years sober and I totally respect this.
We met online 2 years ago
I moved 300 miles to her from rural Yorkshire to SE England 15 months ago (I'm a teacher, can work anywhere, spent today on an online conference where I was nominated for a national award - not boasting, just clarifying)
I bought a bottle of wine to celebrate with the intention of having a glass - she has shunned the dinner I prepared and gone to bed which I get BUT - I feel like I'm compromising me. I'm not going to neck vats of wine but I want to unwind without feeling like - well, like shit
I get that she is struggling but AIBU to feel controlled?

I’m not a big drinker so personally I could abide by not having a drink in the house if I was dating someone who had issues with alcohol previous. Anybody with an addiction could slip back into old ways so it does make sense not to tempt fate.

I think if you wanted to have a drink in the pub with a friend that’s totally fine not at home though.

Ahh I think I know whats happened. I reckon they ops partner is absolutely distraught and devastated that after all her hard work and 30years sobriety she's discovered that she's just moved in with a still active alcoholic....

Our compromise is that, and I have never asked him not to do this but he worked it out, he will not drink the particular drinks I craved when I was drinking. So, he wont drink wine or gin or vodka in front of me, but will drink 4.5% beer for example - something I ever touched (far too weak!)
This may sound daft ,but it works for us

@Savourysenorita

Ahh I think I know whats happened. I reckon they ops partner is absolutely distraught and devastated that after all her hard work and 30years sobriety she's discovered that she's just moved in with a still active alcoholic....

Yup. Or the OP's dependence on alcohol has increased since they moved in.

This is something that should have been discussed and planned before moving in. It isn’t about control. There should be a mutually agreed upon set of rules with significant weight given to the needs of the alcoholic partner. If those rules are too demanding for the other person, then it isn’t a viable relationship.

I bought a bottle of wine to celebrate with the intention of having a glass - she has shunned the dinner I prepared

It is extremely irresponsible to drink with your ex-alcoholic spouse. Did you even ask her permission for intending to buy wine for a meal to celebrate? It doesn't sound like you did, else you would have said in your OP.

I think the OP wont be back

Wonder if the partner is a mumsnet user and thats why OP posted.

Nah, they probably sobered up and felt like an idiot. Hopefully.

I feel sorry for the DP.