Things not to say to a pregnant woman

[UnicornAndSparkles]

"If you think you're exhausted now..."

"Gosh you look shattered!"

"Sleep deprivation isn't real in pregnancy, it's after the baby is here that you'll feel awful!"

Helpful?! No! And yes, I remember the sleep deprivation and exhaustion post-baby very well, as my "baby" is only 3. But pregnancy + HG + a toddler is exhausting!

What happened to "if you dont have anything nice to say don't say anything?!"

The one that really annoyed me was 'oh, so are you happy or...?' WTFFFFF

My football teammate: "I KNEW you were pregnant cos you played shit in that last game and you looked knackered - I told everyone 'bet she's preggers!'"

On my last day in work at 38 weeks, I told a colleague I would hand over a piece of work for her to my maternity replacement. Her response was "Oh my god are you PREGNANT?!?! I thought you'd just let yourself go!"

About a dozen people told me I was definitely having a girl because of my bump shape - various comments about being 'wide', carrying 'all round your hips' etc. DS proved them wrong.

When I was pregnant i remember my neighbour saying

You're got that duck like walk

Pregnant women always seem to wobble

Thanks!!!!

Oh yes, the ‘it’s definitely a boy because you’re all in the front’ and then the next person ‘clearly a girl because your hips have changed’

When the hyperemesis was manageable and I made it into work and my boss said ‘well, you wanted to get pregnant, it’s self inflicted isn’t it’ like I asked to be hospitalised regularly for the fun of it.

@Diddumz jeeeez some people. You literally cannot win. I'm sorry that's how it went down. How are you doing now?

@1FootInTheRave raaaaaaaaaaaaaage. Except I've got no energy to rage, because I can barely crawl to the toilet to puke, but if I wasn't so ill, prepare to die.

It's 7 years since I was pregnant. I'm clearly hanging on to some shit.

Mashing - much better thanks 😊

“Wooooh your HUGE! Are you sure it’s just one in there?“

In Bunnings from a random person.

“Your definitely having a girl cause your arse is fat.”
(My arse was fat before hand so that’s for that but yes it’s was a girl)

I did feel a bit spooked and like I’d met someone from The Witches. A lady I’d never met before came up to me and asked if I was due soon. I told her it was ages yet and she wandered off. Why ask such a random question????

When I was pregnant with DD a lady from church asked how I was doing. I replied fine, just hoped everything was going to be alright with us both.

She replied, “I WON’T tell you what happened to my neighbour and her baby then.” As if that helped! I wondered about this poor lady and her baby and her neighbour gossiping about her.

After I had DD she told me her neighbour had a premature baby who was in hospital a while but they were both fine now.

I’m carrying twins this time around, can’t wait for double pregnancy bingo!

I'm currently pregnant with my 5th. And frequently told that I am mad, crazy and off my head

Am actually extremely happy. So is my Dh .

When you have horrendous morning sickness:

“Have you tried ginger biscuits”

Or “oh I never seemed to have any sickness”

Being told to eat lots and lots of liver because of my anaemia.

Also to eat lots of ginger because of being hospitalised for my HG. Lot of fuss over a bt of puke.

Both told to me by a colleague at work in the tones of ” I know better than you because I'm older” (and male)

Customer at work said to me ”Crikey you're fat” at 37 weeks. I had had enough by then and snapped back ”no, there's a baby in there. What's your excuse?”

My mum drove me mad when I was pregnant. I don't think she meant to sound smug, but I was very intolerant due to pregnancy hormones. She would say:

• No-one could tell I was pregnant. 'I'll believe there's a baby in there when I see it" they said apparently.
• I was never sick. Never even felt sick.
• I never shouted out during labour. That doesn't happen.
• I was up a ladder cleaning my windows at 8 months pregnant.

Righty ho mum.

I wanted to slap her, or at least be sick on her shoes.

Oh and I had people say

Oooooi was ripped back to front

I have now had 2 births and proud to say never had one stitch

The midwife said just breath when I say and push when I say and you will be fine

@Riv12345

Oh and I had people say

Oooooi was ripped back to front

I have now had 2 births and proud to say never had one stitch

The midwife said just breath when I say and push when I say and you will be fine

Smug!

@Riv12345 yeah..... unless they're round the wrong way

Amazingly cathartic threat, thank you ladies!

Agree with every single one of you.

The amount of times I've had the "rest now whilst you can ha ha ha"...I have a 3yo. Would you like to look after her whilst I rest?

The ginger recommendations too. Dear God no more ginger please!

And my absolute favourite "just you wait..." anything that comes after those three words is uncalled for!

Another thing, which might be unreasonable of me is that my mum now starts every whatsapp with 'how are you feeling?'

I just respond fine each time because there's nothing she can do either way! but I really want to reply with 'I hope you are not going to ask me this every day for the next 6 months'

Yep, totally unreasonable of me...!

I was due in November and everyday from about the beginning of October my mum kept asking if there was any sign yet lol.

People asking if there are 'any signs of baby yet' or 'any twinges'. The sign of the baby coming is labour and if you have to ask then we're not close enough for me to tell you when I'm in labour 🙄

I’ve had:

DP’s uncle doing a horrible impression of his ex-wife giving birth.

Does pregnancy make you really horny? (Asked by someone I definitely wouldn’t discuss my sex life with)

Was it an accident?

I think you are going to have a REALLY big baby.

Wouldn’t it be exciting if you went into labour at my house? (It definitely wouldn’t have been)

A whispered conversation- they didn’t want me to hear- about tearing during childbirth.

Now that you are pregnant will you get married?

Yes i was sick too. Hve you tried ginger tea?

Urghg I have HG and spent 3 weeks hospitalised with a PICC line. Not the same thing.