To not be appreciative of mil getting baby Christmas day pj's?

[alesha123445]

Okay so this is my babies first Christmas and I've been so excited to pick her Christmas day outfit and pj's. The mil has told me shes giving her some pjs on Christmas eve for her to wake up in and wear through the day.
If the mil got them to be worn for through out December id be very appreciative, some family members already have done that and i LOVE that.
But the fact she's got it for Christmas day feels more like a baby steal, I don't feel appreciative. Album?

I always washed new clothes before putting them on my babies, so they wouldn't be ready for christmas day

Seriously though just because she's bought them doesnt mean you have to put the child in them. You plan your childs clothes and dress them that day.

@EmeraldShamrock

To add I very much doubt MIL expected DC to wear them all day.

Yep. I think there's been a bit of embroidery there. No-one who's ever been a mum would expect a kid to wear something he's slept in for the whole of the next day.

Just put baby in them for a bit? Babies need multiple outfit changes, get pj’s for baby yourself too?

Do people really worry about Christmas day outfits?

It wouldn't have occurred to me in a million years, when DC were children that they wore anything different from their everyday clothes on Xmas Day anyway. I had never heard of Xmas PJs until I came on MN (when they were grown up anyway).

If anybody had wanted to buy them Xmas PJs, I would have been only too glad that it saved us money, we could spend on something else! MIL knitted DS loads of baby cardigans, matinee jackets, and hats. I couldn't knit to that standard, so I was grateful, as he looked so lovely in them! I passed them onto somebody else, who was also very grateful for them!

Talk about first world problems!

I think it would be reasonable to be annoyed by this. My DM fed my one year old chocolate after being explicitly told not to because we didn't want to introduce it to her at 12 months. I was very cross. No baby needs cake or chocolate
Your DM was wrong because you explicitly said not to do something and she did it.

Change cake for any other food and you've got the same principle: some parents get precious about any tiny event that could possibly be a first and are likely to be pissed off if grandparents bought their child a magazine, or a pair of slippers because the grandparents should have known that they are stealing the precious memory of buying a first magazine, or any other mundane life thing that some parents need to turn into a big event.

Can those who are team 'have a go at the op' honestly say they would not find it annoying that someone, anyone, would want to dictate what baby wore on their first Christmas?

I can honestly say that I was in the fortunate position of not having to buy my dd a stitch of clothing until she was four. I honestly cannot understand why shopping is so sacred to so many people.

I can honestly say that I was in the fortunate position of not having to buy my dd a stitch of clothing until she was four. I honestly cannot understand why shopping is so sacred to so many people.

Because advertising and the media tell us it's important and we buy into it on a massive scale. Also because of Facebook/Instagram/whatever.

You aren't being unreasonable, although lots seem to think so. These people probably don't have overbearing mother in laws. She is your baby, it's her first Christmas. Put her in what you want. She is being generous and she is excited but she doesn't get to trump your excitement.

Picture the scene
OP puts her choice of PJ's on baby but before she can even whip out the phone to get it on Facebook... baby throws up or has nappy related explosion ... PJ's straight off and in the wash.
What a great big fuss over fuck all.

This has given me a good giggle. Thank you!

Your poor MIL, send her over here. My children need a Granny.

What a load of old miserable posters on this thread!
People making out like Christmas pjs cost the earth and you can only wear them for one day 🤣

But the fact she's got it for Christmas day feels more like a baby steal, I don't feel appreciative. Album?

What does any of this mean? I’m guessing album is autocorrect but the rest of it? Baby steal?

These people probably don't have overbearing mother in laws.

No, DH was the youngest of three, so by the time our DC came along, MIL had learned not to interfere!

I did have an overbearing mother though, who offered to look after DS for a few hours, so we gave her the car seat - we then saw them driving round, and DM was in the front passenger seat with baby DS in her arms; or she used to slip him sweets behind our backs, when we asked her not to!

"Can those who are team 'have a go at the op' honestly say they would not find it annoying that someone, anyone, would want to dictate what baby wore on their first Christmas?"

I don't suppose it was a dictate exactly and many of us have said the baby will be changing her clothes at least once anyway.

What I think is that all this is more important to the adults than the baby girl who won't give a hoot what she is wearing but just enjoying the attention, banging her new toys around and getting over excited.

"Can those who are team 'have a go at the op' honestly say they would not find it annoying that someone, anyone, would want to dictate what baby wore on their first Christmas?"
Unless they were insisting on something truly hideous or impractical then I wouldn't care because I don't go through life convinced people are trying to 'baby steal'.

Relatives bought us all kinds of things for DC first Christmas. They wore some before Christmas, some over christmas day and boxing day and others until they grew out of them. No drama and everything went fine. I didn't even take photos of DC in said outfits to appease family because we were having a nice time and they aren't the drama llama types who get stroppy over what a baby has on.

A lot depends on what your priorities and outlook are as a parent. If you're someone who is very focused on having a mental list of all the firsts and think people are itching to steal them from you then your response is going to be very different from someone who goes with the flow.

Oh shut the eff up with PFB comments. They're actually rude and you think you are on some sort of high horse when you say it. Get a grip!

Just don't put your baby in them OP. You don't have to.
Oh and 'give your head a wobble' and 'PFB' always get said on threads with first babies. Yawn.

I had to google 'PFB' and all I came up with was 'Pseudofolliculitis barbae' and 'Please Find Below'.

@jessstan1 PFB = precious first born

In future, google 'Mumsnet acronyms' and you'll be more successful.

Can those who are team 'have a go at the op' honestly say they would not find it annoying that someone, anyone, would want to dictate what baby wore on their first Christmas

I must be failing at motherhood as I never even considered what my dc would wear on their first Christmas...I just put them in clothes. Never knew it was meant to be some sort of special first moment.

I hate posts where people moan about all the love and attention showered on their dc. My parents are dead and my mil doesn't give a shit. I'd happily swap and stick my kid in the Christmas pyjamas.

@Wearywithteens

...or picture the scene...OP doesn’t play into this ridiculous nonsense of non important ‘milestones’ like whose credit card pays for Christmas themed clothing to be worn for one day for a child who is not conscious nor will have no memory of it.

This. The obsession with utterly inconsequential "firsts" is ludicrous. Nobody cares - and certainly not your baby.

And if your baby did remember and care (they won't) I think a better memory would be knowing they have a wider family around them who think of them and want to provide for them, too. if I show my DS a picture of him when he was younger and said "I bought you that outfit", he wouldn't give a shit because I buy most of his stuff. If I said "your godmother bought you that bib" or "grandma knitted you that jumper" or whatever, it means something to him because they are presents from other people that love him.

@thegcatsmother

About a million years ago, welcome out of your cave 🥂🍾

witches Christmas pjs are something I have only ever seen mentioned on MN. It wasn't a thing when I was growing up in the 60s/70s and 80s; and it never came across my radar when I had ds in 95.

It's evidently a thing for some people, but it seems I am not alone in being unaware of it.

No, you're not alone at all, and my last child was born in 2000. Never heard of it until now, tbh. Is it a similar to christmas jumpers? We never had them either.