To not be appreciative of mil getting baby Christmas day pj's?

[alesha123445]

Okay so this is my babies first Christmas and I've been so excited to pick her Christmas day outfit and pj's. The mil has told me shes giving her some pjs on Christmas eve for her to wake up in and wear through the day.
If the mil got them to be worn for through out December id be very appreciative, some family members already have done that and i LOVE that.
But the fact she's got it for Christmas day feels more like a baby steal, I don't feel appreciative. Album?

Oh FFS let the child wear the pjs on Christmas Eve and get them dressed in Christmas Day outfit in the morning.

I have seriously failed as a grandmother having never bought any of my grandchildren Christmas pyjamas.

No, according to this thread you have succeeded as a grandmother, having realised it is not your place to buy Christmas pyjamas.

What happens if both grandmothers buy Christmas pyjamas?

Well that’s just a double level of presumptuous was!

@Italiangreyhound

" I don’t understand the hate you’re getting"

people might be board and a bit sad about lockdown. It's easy to take pot shots at someone on the internet. OP put your baby in whatever you want and hide this thread, because SunShinesStill is right a bit of hate going on here, very sad.

Don't be so bloody ridiculous! There is no hate. I can only speak for myself. but in agreeing with the fucking hell comment, I was thinking some people have charmed lives if a child's pjs are all they have to worry about.

Let DC wear them a bit and the they can easily be changed into something else. It's really not worth stressing over.

FWIW, if you're viewing this as a 'baby steal' and there's no horrendous back story, then you might need to chill out a bit otherwise you're setting yourself up to view everything as a competition with your family/in laws. It sounds exhausting.

"Don't be so bloody ridiculous! There is no hate"

No I think you will find that a lot of people telling you that you are being ridiculous and behaving in a very unpleasant way is exactly that. Posting for their own benefit to feel superior. Very fucking sad.

" I was thinking some people have charmed lives if a child's pjs are all they have to worry about."

What makes you think that is all the OP has to worry about.

She has posted about that to ask for opinions. Other people will post about very important issues elsewhere. If you are not interested in this situation, why are you posting on this topic?

It's called a pile on.

OP I am hiding this thread as it is just making me mad!

Hope you have a fabulous first Christmas with baby.

I can’t believe people care what a baby wears for xmas day, or any other day for that matter !
It’s a baby !
The world’s gone mad

My mother always bought the children their Christmas PJS and it was a lovely tradition for many years. Be thankful that your MIL is so interested and caring.

We always got new dressing gowns for Christmas, it was the norm at the time. Perhaps it’s an old fashioned northern thing? My Mum used to make them for us when we were small

I would have loved it if someone had bought my little one pjs. Count your blessings.

@Italiangreyhound

"Don't be so bloody ridiculous! There is no hate"

No I think you will find that a lot of people telling you that you are being ridiculous and behaving in a very unpleasant way is exactly that. Posting for their own benefit to feel superior. Very fucking sad.

" I was thinking some people have charmed lives if a child's pjs are all they have to worry about."

What makes you think that is all the OP has to worry about.

She has posted about that to ask for opinions. Other people will post about very important issues elsewhere. If you are not interested in this situation, why are you posting on this topic?

It's called a pile on.

Feel better now? You have your opinion. I have mine, but then opinions are like arseholes, everybody has one. If OP had other things to worry about Im sure she will post them

firstly, Christmas Day outfits are a bit mad! secondly, mil is giving pjs on xmas eve - your baby can wear them and then change into something fresh on the day. But Christ alive (excuse pun) your baby will have no clue and it's not what the day is about. Nip all thIS shit in the bud right now. Focus on wha the day means.

My mum did the same... so he wore the ones I bought Christmas Eve/ Christmas Day morning then I put him in her ones for bed on Christmas night. She didn’t comment or care, a friend Also got him Christmas pyjamas as a gift.

If someone wants to buy my kids Christmas pjs,... I say thank you very much.
I am lucky my mil enjoys buying kids first shoes, coats etc etc and I have let her, she enjoys it and we save the money.... win win situation

I've put yabu- mostly because you even care.

Just put them in whatever clothes you feel will be most comfortable to them. They aren't a doll to dress up.

Why don’t you just ask her to buy the pair of your choice. I dare say you’ll be changing the baby anyway into another outfit ( I’m guessing there’s an ensemble planned ) so you have the style you like and she gets the pleasure of buying the PJs. Win win

There was another post the same about 2 weeks ago ....must be the time of year !

Nah it is not a “northern” thing - buying pjs or dressing gown as a Christmas present is universally normal. Worrying about what your DC wears for their first Christmas Day is different - and taking offence that someone has pipped them to an outfit without considering easy logistics that makes everyone happy - is ridiculous. I’m from north and would just be grateful that MIL was interested - festive seasons are about making own traditions not being slavish to what others think. Be nice and considerate to all - it’s not hard - and will make next 18 years+ a hell of a lot easier

I doubt any baby will wake up and wear what they slept in for the entire day so I wouldn't worry about it. They will be worn. I think it was a really nice, thoughtful gift so please take it in the spirit in which it was given.

no one should wear pjs in the daytime unless they're ill (or perhaps a newborn.

your MIL cannont dictate what your DC wears, she can buy all the PJs she likes but cannot force you to dress you child in them

agree this seems a non-issue although having had a difficult ex-mother in law i can see that there is probably more to this than meets the eye - backstory?

No disrespect but I do think YBU.

I haven't RTFT so don't know if there's some big backstory but to me it just seems like a thoughtful thing to do.

I'll admit I do roll my eyes at these types of threads where MIL's are vilified for total non events.

I wouldn't have an issue with my MIL buying my DD Christmas pyjamas, I would thank her for the thoughtful gift and be grateful that my child has people around her who love her.

Sweet idea! But really annoying to give dictates about where and when they will be worn?

That's not her decision. Id have said oh that's lovely but he may not wear them on Xmas day actually because I've already brought some.

Fuck me. We live in a world where children are trafficked, forced down mines, working in sweat shops, being abused, starved, killed... And people are fucking whinging that their childs nana had bought them some nice appropriate pyjamas. Sometimes im disgusted by things people try and make issues out of.

Did you tell your mil you were excited to be buying your baby’s Xmas pj’s? If not, then yabvvu. She probably did it thinking it was a lovely thing to do. Get a grip.

I really couldn't see this as an issue at all.

I'm another who has no Idea what any of my three wore for their first Christmases. It never occurred to me that anyone could have considered but some sort of a milestone.