To not be appreciative of mil getting baby Christmas day pj's?

[alesha123445]

Okay so this is my babies first Christmas and I've been so excited to pick her Christmas day outfit and pj's. The mil has told me shes giving her some pjs on Christmas eve for her to wake up in and wear through the day.
If the mil got them to be worn for through out December id be very appreciative, some family members already have done that and i LOVE that.
But the fact she's got it for Christmas day feels more like a baby steal, I don't feel appreciative. Album?

First Christmas is a very special time for some mum and some dads so if it is not for others fine.

I think it is generally special for all mums and dads, but Christmas pyjamas are not a necessary ingredient for that specialness. And getting her up about who buys these Christmas pyjamas is just ridiculous.

Any other Christmas apart from first I would say yabu but first Christmases ARE special, and choosing the outfits is part of that, so ya definitely nbu.

It's lovely that she's interested etc but it wouldn't have hurt to drop a text 'have seen some lovely pj's for baby, can buy them for Christmas if you like?' to which you could reply either yes thank you or no thanks already have them sorted.

It's the presumptions that rub.

@MrsHound @Heyahun
Also team 'fucking hell'.

I am baffled that relatives kindly buying clothes for your baby can be labelled "presumptious". This is seriously insane.

If OP had told her MIL that she was buying special Christmas pyjamas for her DC, and MIL still went ahead and bought some and insisted the child wore hers, THEN OP would NBU.

But jeeze, expecting MIL to read her mind and guess exactly what OP was doing for her PFB's first Christmas and getting pissed off when MIL doesn't have this special ability is BVVVU.

CecilyP different things are important to different people. And in different ways. One of the very few things I remember about having a new baby at Christmas is what she wore.

I think it's easy to sneer at people for things that they think are important but as a mum (or dad) we need to make those choices ourselves.

One friend let another person sit with her son on his first birthday for presents. I mean who cares who opens his presents with him etc! But my friend did care and her friend kind of took over. How long do you think that bothered her for?

Being bothered about everything would be a bad sign but having something you feel is important seems fine to me.

^It's lovely that she's interested etc but it wouldn't have hurt to drop a text 'have seen some lovely pj's for baby, can buy them for Christmas if you like?' to which you could reply either yes thank you or no thanks already have them sorted.

It's the presumptions that rub.^

As Christmas pyjamas weren’t around when she had her kids, she probably wasn’t aware of the etiquette. She probably just saw them, thought they were cute and bought them. I doubt if she realised what massive offence she was causing!

Think I’ll be joining team ‘fucking hell’!

Put baby in pyjamas, take cute pic. Send it to MIL so she can show all her friends then do what you want with them. Its even ok to wear xmas pyjamas on other days, so now shes got another pair.

OP it's kind if MIL to buy something, annoying that she wants to dictate when they are worn. Just ignore that bit.

Team 'fucking hell' here

Can those who are team 'have a go at the op' honestly say they would not find it annoying that someone, anyone, would want to dictate what baby wore on their first Christmas? If you honestly don't find it important then why would you presume to understand how the OP feels?

And if you just want to reassure her and encourage her not to take it so seriously, which is, of course, fine; why be offensive about it.

@Heyahun

🙄fucking hell

Seconded.

@alesha123445 I don’t understand the hate you’re getting, of course you want to pick what your baby wears for it’s first Christmas, she can’t dictate they wear them all day!

Buying PJs is very kind. Insisting that they can only be worn on a very specific day is different.

I have seriously failed as a grandmother having never bought any of my grandchildren Christmas pyjamas.

What happens if both grandmothers buy Christmas pyjamas?

" I don’t understand the hate you’re getting"

people might be board and a bit sad about lockdown. It's easy to take pot shots at someone on the internet. OP put your baby in whatever you want and hide this thread, because SunShinesStill is right a bit of hate going on here, very sad.

Here’s an idea.
You put your wain in your Pyjamas on Christmas Eve at bedtime.
On Christmas morning, first nappy change you put on MILs - photo op.
Breakfast - photo etc. Oops, spillage.
Change for the day again.
Easy.

Good Lord, I don’t recall what any of my kids wore for their first Christmas, probably tinsel.

I remember DS’s first Christmas but don’t have the faintest clue what he was wearing that day. If Mil bought Christmas pyjamas to wear on Christmas Eve, couldn’t OP get her a nice outfit to wear for the actual day.

@Wildflower219

Okay I am going to be biased here and say YABU only because my dad's thing was to buy the grandkids pj's for Christmas every year he did the full set matching Slippers dressing gowns etc and they always got to open them Xmas eve and wear them and they rly looked forward to it and always knew what Granda got them and got to say which character they wanted that year. He never really knew what to get them so was just his thing. We lost my lovely dad two years ago and now there is no one to buy the Christmas pj's. We of course buy our own kids now but for the kids it was such a tradition and something theyl always remember of their Granda. Maybe this will be the same for yoy and embrace it? You get to pick the outfit

How lovely, he sounds like an amazing grandad

It is PFB a little OTT. I'd understand if she bought babies favourite toy or maybe Christmas day outfit but pyjamas.

MILs get such a battering on here. Only the other week they were being berated for not doing enough. They can’t win.

I can't even remember what my dc wore for their first Christmas...think yourself lucky op that your baby has people around who love them..my mil couldn't give a shit

Team ‘fucking hell’ here - what a drama about nothing