To not be appreciative of mil getting baby Christmas day pj's?

[alesha123445]

Okay so this is my babies first Christmas and I've been so excited to pick her Christmas day outfit and pj's. The mil has told me shes giving her some pjs on Christmas eve for her to wake up in and wear through the day.
If the mil got them to be worn for through out December id be very appreciative, some family members already have done that and i LOVE that.
But the fact she's got it for Christmas day feels more like a baby steal, I don't feel appreciative. Album?

Christmas Eve jammies are SO a thing...

@denshort

My sister and I have been in matching Christmas pyjamas since 1994...as teenagers it would be a competition who would wear them longest before showering 🙈

Not to be mega twee but why don’t you get a family set for your DH, yourself and baby? Then you can say baby will wear her outfit after dinner?

@Heyahun

🙄fucking hell

Quite

Yes she sounds absolutely awful, that popular thing of 'stealing' buying a baby Christmas pyjamas , what a nasty woman.

a baby steal

Crikey OP give your head a wobble.

It's normal to feel that way, but it's also really not important. Your MIL is happy to have bought them, just go with it and be gracious. In 15 years you will barely remember what they look like.

Wish my life was this simple, where wearing some clothes or not constitutes a drama

I wouldnt get stressed about it. Given the situation with COVID across the world unless your in MIL bubble you wont be seeing her. SO a photo with PJS on and leave it at that

Just say thank you, she can wear them on Xmas Eve (or beforehand if you've already bought Xmas Eve PJs) and that you have something for them to wear on Xmas Day but it was a nice thought.

Why ever would anyone just do what their in laws tell them to do if they want to do something different?!!!

This is a non-issue.

I hate threads like this. Poor MIL. What does it matter? It’s nice she wants to be involved. I wish my MIL was still alive to buy pyjamas for my kids.

@formerbabe

I never knew Christmas pjs for babies was a thing...dear god.

You sound ridiculous pfb, this isn't some special first moment. It's just pyjamas. What a non issue.

^^ this

Let your baby wear what you like. MIL is overstepping the mark. Make your own decisions on things like this. Does not matter if 100% of people said YABU, you know YANBU and you are the one who counts here.

Obviously as baby gets older you will let them make their own decisions about clothes, and obviously you can receive outfits gracefully and presents with great thanks, but what your baby wear on Christmas eve and Christmas day is up to you (and your dh).

Wildflower219 ut's totally lovely what your dad did. Really great.

Sadly, OP doesn't feel it is great and had her own plans. Which is fine.

@Cloudtraffic

Wtf are Christmas pyjamas?

I could be wrong here but my guess is that they are pyjamas featuring a design which pertains to the traditional midwinter festivities celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ. Don't take my word for it though...

I'd be very surprised if a baby went a whole day in the same clothes, especially on Christmas day when the level of excitement is higher. If your MiL isn't there I'd go with a who suggested you took a photo and then change her clothes. If she's with you I suggest a nappy" accident" and change clothes at the same time.

THE mil?!
YABU for that alone.

Sorry, I sometimes think people have more money than sense.

Couldn't you just enjoy the fact that someone else is taking responsability for dressing your baby and find something else to spend your money on?

First Christmas is a very special time for some mum and some dads so if it is not for others fine.

Don't put the PJs on and take photos as you'll be encouraging more of the same next year and you'll be here with a similar thread getting told yabu/overreacting.
Put them in a drawer for other nights and put your baby in the clothes you choose on Xmas Eve/day.

@nosswith

Single day clothing, just no. Fast fashion for babies, who will not notice or care.

You are allowed to wear them through January as well. They don’t explode on Boxing Day.

All baby clothes have a limited shelf-life - babies grow. They might as well be Christmas-themed as anything else.

There's a major world pandemic and this is what people are worrying about.

Wtf are Christmas pyjamas?

Let me think about that one. Unless you have been living under a rock for the last couple of decades you must know.

I think when your kid gets a bit older you will gain a sense of perspective about what's important, and what isn't, but that clearly hasn't happened yet.

What pjs your baby wears on Christmas Day doesn't matter a bit. They will be sick on it anyway. Put your baby in something that's comfortable and clean and try to relax a bit.

YABU because although she’s being a bit annoying, you don’t HAVE to do something just because she says so. You’re a grown up - aren’t you? You just say thank you, that’s a lovely thought but I’ve already chosen some etc, etc, etc.

She’s also your MIL, not “the” MIL.

@BlueThistles

Christmas Eve jammies are SO a thing...

I doubt that Grandma knew that. This Grandma certainly didn't.

I'm getting pretty paranoid about all the ways I could potentially cause massive offence just by offering a kind gesture or gift.