To not be appreciative of mil getting baby Christmas day pj's?

[alesha123445]

Okay so this is my babies first Christmas and I've been so excited to pick her Christmas day outfit and pj's. The mil has told me shes giving her some pjs on Christmas eve for her to wake up in and wear through the day.
If the mil got them to be worn for through out December id be very appreciative, some family members already have done that and i LOVE that.
But the fact she's got it for Christmas day feels more like a baby steal, I don't feel appreciative. Album?

Grandma always sends Christmas themed pjs to our house for December (and thereafter) wear, but understands that outfits for THE DAY are always picked by mom and dad.

does everyone get to wear new pyjamas on christmas day, or only babies ?

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants - you're a charmer aren't you?!

Not everyone does or has first-hand experience of the elusive Christmas PJ myth - wind your neck in!

Not a thing I've experienced - will just go back in that darn cave you judgemental f*ck!

I really can’t see why this is an issue in the grand scheme of things does it really matter?

Ds was in babygros for his first Christmas, afaik, but he was only 2 months old - who cares, or even remembers?

While I don’t remember what DS wore on his first Christmas Day, he would definitely have worn a babygro the night before. I always found clothes with waistbands tended to get tucked up with the disposable nappy with said waistband getting decidedly soggy. So the idea that the baby, having been put to bed in the Christmas pyjamas, could wear the same ones throughout Christmas Day is ridiculous. So absolutely no need to pretend there has been a spill or the baby has been sick.

Wow people sure are different! It’s my baby’s first xmas too and we haven’t even thought of such things. Possibly should?!

I wouldn’t go there, Postures! You see so many clothes in the supermarkets with ‘Baby’s first Christmas’ on but as far as I can see, they can only be worn for one day. What a waste!

Not at all. My mil was so overbearing when my son was born. Nearly all his clothes in the first year from her. Still pisses me off when I think about it, particularly as probably won't be having any more kids.
She's had her kids and dressed them,let me do the same for my kids rather than take over.
I hear you sister!x

Just don’t put your bub in them. Put them in whatever you want to put them in.

I’d put her in them on Christmas Eve night, and then change her for the day time. Because I wouldn’t leave a child in overnight PJs all day anyway.

Can you use them earlier anyway? Makes sense to me if you can use them throughout December, get more wear out of them.

Just get a pic of your baby in them to keep her happy then change the baby into the ones you bought. Easy.

I feel a bit sorry for her. Surely shes hardly been able to see the kid at all with lockdown and now even buying the baby some pyjamas is invoking feelings that shes trying to usurp you?

I loved Christmas outfits for my babies but generally wore them all through December to get a bit more wear. There is nothing wrong with wanting to pick what you want especially as you’ll have first Christmas photos for ever. I would put the pjs on for a photo by the tree for Christmas Eve abs wear them that evening and then change into your ones for the morning for Christmas itself/

Well it may be a non-issue for you but it clearly is for the OP 🤔

"Baby steal"

What fresh new MN hell phrase is this?

I feel a bit sorry for her. Surely shes hardly been able to see the kid at all with lockdown and now even buying the baby some pyjamas is invoking feelings that shes trying to usurp you?
Some people on here look for unpleasant intent on everything.
Sure,where there are real issues and a backstory then it's totally reasonable for some mums to have an issue with their mum or MIL regarding boundaries, but others would find a way to create drama over whether their MIL gave their child their first taste of cake, or they should have known not to take duck feed to the park because they've stolen baby's first duck feed.

but others would find a way to create drama over whether their MIL gave their child their first taste of cake

I think it would be reasonable to be annoyed by this. My DM fed my one year old chocolate after being explicitly told not to because we didn't want to introduce it to her at 12 months. I was very cross. No baby needs cake or chocolate.

Hehehehe

I want to say 'Get A Life' - but that would be very rude.

Don't you like your MIL?

Be sneaky as someone else suggested. Put them on - take a pic - then 'oh dear the nappy has leaked '

Golly, you young mums are lucky. When our children were young I was grateful for any gifts that helped me clothe them. Your mil loves your baby and wants to do this. Doesn’t sound as if she wants to steal him. Be happy and enjoy Christmas.

Mil has always brought everyone Christmas eve PJs even before I had kids. Do people really worry about Christmas day outfits?

I have an 11 month old and I’m excited to be buying Christmas Pajamas too. Just tell MIL ‘thanks but I’m already sorted for Christmas pjs but will use yours Boxing Day etc’.

I can’t understand why pp’s are being so nasty about it. You can be an intelligent woman and still get excited about little things like Christmas pajamas for your baby surely?!

others would find a way to create drama over whether their MIL gave their child their first taste of cake, or they should have known not to take duck feed to the park because they've stolen baby's first duck feed.

Exactly. All these OP's come from DIL's who expect grandparents to mind read. It's about communication for goodness' sake. If there are things you want to be your own 'firsts' then say so.

Also throughout this thread, people are totally twisting MIL's words. She didn't demand anything, she didn't insist on anything,

The mil has told me shes giving her some pjs on Christmas eve for her to wake up in and wear through the day.

FOR her to wear... Not that she MUST wear, or HAS to wear. There's no insistence, no assumption of rights. Just that it was her thinking when she bought the pyjamas. I see nothing in that that implies that she'll kick off if OP says, "that's lovely, but actually, I've got an outfit already that I'll change her into after breakfast"

Don't listen to those who want to think the worst of her, OP. There's no reason to be snidey, to lie, or to ruin the pyjamas by deliberately spilling things on them. Just be a normal human being, communicate what your plans are for the pyjamas with a smile and thank her for her gesture.

Baby steal? It's a pair of fucking pyjamas ffs.

I'd let baby sleep in them take pictures in future years when DC looks back at photos granny might be gone or not either way it'll be lovely to say "Granny bought you those she loves you so much" DC can't have enough love.
How does your partner feel about it?
Change into Christmas day clothes and your pyjamas in the evening.

To add I very much doubt MIL expected DC to wear them all day.