To think he's being dramatic?

[DramaInPyjama]

H is sulking because apparently I 'dont care about his kids'

I have had a horrible week of no sleep, not sure why but I can't sleep at the moment. I am so tired.

It got to about 4pm today and I said I had to go and lie down. I asked him not to wake me.

His DC were coming round at around 5:30. He came upstairs at 6, woke me up by turning the light on and started asking me to come downstairs, telling me the kids were here, come say hello, spend time with us and so on...

I was so mad, I was finally asleep and now I was being pestered to get up so when he said 'the kids are here now' I snapped and just replied 'And? I don't care!' and turned the light of to go back to sleep.

I am usually very involved but I just needed this rest and no, I didn't care that the kids had turned up, they are well old enough to be told I'm not feeling great so was asleep (and couldn't give less of a shit if I go and say hello).

Apparently now I don't care about the kids, am rude for not saying hello, don't want to see them etc...

@Flutter12 - where does OP say that she is a parent?

If OP had made a post saying that her DP had been up most of the night and then slept in all morning and she woke up him up because her parents were there and he shouted “he doesn’t care” - would posters be on his side saying they’re not his parents, he was tired and needed his sleep etc

@Ohtherewearethen I don’t know what you mean? I’ve not said she has.

@Flutter12 good grief. You're a teacher you say? Because you appear to have real difficulty with basic comprehension and reasoning.

would posters be on his side saying they’re not his parents, he was tired and needed his sleep etc

I would.

@Flutter12

Apart from he has a penis and your mother, I'm assuming, doesn't.

The amount of posters who are anti-men on Mumsnet is ridiculous.

It doesn’t matter what the OP does as long as she’s a female she’ll be right and her DP will be wrong. I see it on the majority of threads.

Oh dear. You really are dim, aren't you?

You appear to be the anti-men one considering you don't think their own father is enough of a greeting for them, not me. :)

@Ohtherewearethen yes I am a teacher but I am human still and I am confused as I’ve not said OP is a parent. I have said she is a step parent which OP has said herself.

@Flutter12 she has insomnia, that WAS her bedtime. Just because it's not a conventional time for adults doesn't mean that wasn't what was going on. When someone is tired and they go to bed, they are in bed, whatever their age

Op is not a lone parent where you have to suck it up even if ill. She is a lovely step mum with a delinquent dh who needs a reality check (and waking up at random times when op is suffering from insomnia and then being left with his own children as op goes to a hotel to sleep)

Oh dear. You really are dim, aren't you?

You appear to be the anti-men one considering you don't think their own father is enough of a greeting for them, not me.

How does that make me dim?

From what I’ve read a large majority of Mumsnet is anti-men. I know I’m not the only one to have noticed that.

where does OP say that she is a parent?

She's attempting a pop at me, not the OP

@Flutter12:
Being a parent= lack of sleep and time. Even if you’re poorly or tired you’re still expected to be a parent unfortunately.

Ah, so this comment wasn't in fact a thinly-veiled dig at the OP being too tired or poorly to 'parent'? Sure.
You've made many remarks throughout referring to OP as though she is the children's actual parent and placing parental expectations upon her so please let's not embarrass yourself further by being obtuse.

This is so much bigger than the OP’s DP waking her because HIS kids had arrived. This smacks of him thinking she should be the default parent/care-giver, up, smiling, making tea. Even if they were her own dc, her DP should have left her to sleep, which is what any considerate partner would have done, whilst entertaining the dc or making food or grabbing a take-out. To wake her up when she’d been in tears about being unable to sleep is plain cruel. There’s a reason it was used as a torture technique by some soldiers.

@Flutter12 it makes you dim because you quoted my post as an example of anti-men sentiment on Mumsnet but it is you who seems to think that the OP's partner wasn't enough for the poor darling children who needed a greeting when they came through the door.

He's a man. He's the parent. That doesn't seem to be enough for you. Why not? Are you so anti-man, anti-father that you think a woman needs to be there for the full, loving, nurturing greeting?

That's very anti-man. Shame on you.

@Flutter12

If OP had made a post saying that her DP had been up most of the night and then slept in all morning and she woke up him up because her parents were there and he shouted “he doesn’t care” - would posters be on his side saying they’re not his parents, he was tired and needed his sleep etc

If my husband had been suffering with insomnia for a week, was absolutely exhausted, had been in tears to me the previous day because of it and my parents had already been round 4 times that week, no I wouldn't be arsed if he wanted to go to bed. And neither would my parents. Because he would be ill... In bed... Wild thought I know.

@Flutter12 when I was a kid my mum was pretty ill, we would quite often be picked up by our stepdad and spend the evening just with him as mum was asleep. I'm sure to people like you, who seem to think a parents entire existence should revolve around their child, that's practically child abuse.

@Flutter12:
Being a parent= lack of sleep and time. Even if you’re poorly or tired you’re still expected to be a parent unfortunately.

But not if there’s another fully functioning adult there who is their actual parent. He can let his unwell DP sleep while he deals with the dc, be they his or theirs.

I'm sure to people like you, who seem to think a parents entire existence should revolve around their child, that's practically child abuse.

I don’t think we should be bringing in child abuse just to win a debate on Mumsnet.

it makes you dim because you quoted my post as an example of anti-men sentiment on Mumsnet but it is you who seems to think that the OP's partner wasn't enough for the poor darling children who needed a greeting when they came through the door.

I didn’t say he wasn’t good enough. It’s just basic manners to greet people when they come into your house.

Even as an adult if I went over to my sisters house and my BIL was home I would expect him to come and say hi else I’d think he was rude and I’d feel unwelcome. He doesn’t have to stay there all day with me.

@Flutter12

stop, you're embarrassing yourself! I have no young kiddiewinkles to a) gaze lovingly at or b) acknowledge, so dont worry about me, I've got all night!

I can tell.
Being a parent = lack of sleep and time. Even if you’re poorly or tired you’re still expected to be a parent unfortunately.

Not when there's another functioning grownup that's perfectly capable to parent on their own.

There was no need at all for OP to be woken up. No one was bleeding,dying or on fire.

Being a parent= lack of sleep and time. Even if you’re poorly or tired you’re still expected to be a parent unfortunately

To other peoples children? fuck that

@Flutter12

it makes you dim because you quoted my post as an example of anti-men sentiment on Mumsnet but it is you who seems to think that the OP's partner wasn't enough for the poor darling children who needed a greeting when they came through the door.

I didn’t say he wasn’t good enough. It’s just basic manners to greet people when they come into your house.

Even as an adult if I went over to my sisters house and my BIL was home I would expect him to come and say hi else I’d think he was rude and I’d feel unwelcome. He doesn’t have to stay there all day with me.

You have issues. You'd expect someone who hasn't slept for a week, exhausted to the point of crying and struggling at work to wake up when they finally managed to sleep just to say hi?

You're not the queen of England!

@Flutter12

it makes you dim because you quoted my post as an example of anti-men sentiment on Mumsnet but it is you who seems to think that the OP's partner wasn't enough for the poor darling children who needed a greeting when they came through the door.

I didn’t say he wasn’t good enough. It’s just basic manners to greet people when they come into your house.

Even as an adult if I went over to my sisters house and my BIL was home I would expect him to come and say hi else I’d think he was rude and I’d feel unwelcome. He doesn’t have to stay there all day with me.

Try telling that to my stepkids. They walk through the door and straight up to their rooms, only emerging for food. And yes, I do nap when they're here.

Even as an adult if I went over to my sisters house and my BIL was home I would expect him to come and say hi else I’d think he was rude and I’d feel unwelcome. He doesn’t have to stay there all day with me.

Even if he was unwell and sleeping?

@Flutter12 are you a real person? You just sound bizarre