AIBU to think we don’t NEED to move house.

[Whattheactual20201]

Me and DP are talking through logistics of the children’s bedrooms. We are not arguing but debating about long term.
I live in a nice area, good schools and our family live here.
i have a 3 bedroom terraced house with 2 DC
13 DS and 7 DD
I have just found out that I am 30 weeks pregnant but likely to be induced like previous 2 a few weeks early. Now this is not an immediate issue as we haven’t had much time to sort things as baby will be in with us for the first year.
The age gaps are obviously quite big which is what DP thinks the issue will be.
We could get a bigger house moving further out and 100 percent more for our money but I like my house and location.
Baby is a girl so I’m thinking she could share with DD1 who would be 8 or we use the dining room as a room if she needs her own space. By the time youngest is 10
The elder 2 would be 23 and 17.
He thinks due to age gaps we need to move to a 4 bedroom, I feel like it isn’t worth giving up locations and schools for.

Do you have children with large age gaps sharing a room ?

Can you extend your current house?

I'd stay and let the kids share

You only just found out you were pregnant? 😱

Sorry I can't help, but bumping for you.

If you can afford it, which it sounds like you can, and you say you would get more for your money too, I would move.
Expecting an 8 year old to share with a baby is a bit much really. Baby will be crying and awake in the night and that’s unfair on an 8 year old. Plus when DD1 is 14, DD2 is 6 and that’s not going to work well for a teenage girl who needs their space and privacy.

Can you go into the loft?

We built a loft conversion when we went from two to three children. It was the perfect solution

@BrokenBrit I suppose I was sort of thinking DS might not need his room by then but that might be a bit optimistic 🤣

Wait for now. Moving the teen could cause a lot of issues if he’s against it. Look into loft conversions or other ways to adapt the accommodation you have.

8 and 1 might work for a while but I don't think 13 and 6, 16 and 9 etc will work. Your older DD will need privacy in her teens.

Using the dining room may be an option but it depends on your house layout I suppose.

I think you need to be thinking of other options long term.

By the time the youngest is 10 the eldest may have left home and the middle one could be off to university. ....

@BrokenBrit we could afford to move but not afford a bigger house where we live so would have to move in to the surrounding areas further out of London.

You just found out you are 30 weeks?!

But anyway, I would move if I could afford it. Is he going to be contributing?

@MrsMoastyToasty that’s my thoughts exactly ! how long will we really need a 4 bed for.

No, it isn’t feasible and it isn’t fair on any of the children. You should move to a house that suits your family.

As an aside, how do you only just find out you’re pregnant at 30 weeks?

@emilyfrost is moving a 13 maybe 14 year old at the time in to a new school fair also though.

I haven’t said no we have just been discussing it.

@Whattheactual20201 at least it wasn't twins

@readysaltedplease haha must the one thankfully ! That was enough shock for one week 2 I think I would of just left the country 🤣

Any chance of a loft conversion or small extension?

Is the garden very big? If yes, could you build a granny annexe for the oldest child?

I wouldn’t move if you don’t want to move area tbh. You’ll probably want to downsize soon after you do and the kids likely go uninor move out.
Like you say, the dining room is also an option. My dds shared with a ( year gap and it’s not been a massive deal. Mums net is so weird about kids NEEDING a bedroom each like it’s an essential organ

You didn’t know you were pregnant until 30 weeks!!? How?

@Nikhedonia that’s a good point I could look at size etc of that !!
I’m sure DS would agree to that 🤣
Garden is a decent size.

@Whattheactual20201 post the link to your other thread, will save a lot of questions! And it's the best thread theres been for ages!

Yes I didn’t know and the answer to how ... don’t ask me I still don’t know how !

@readysaltedplease I’m still on my name change name for that reason 🤣
I still need to get around to telling friends !

One of our children had a bedroom in the dining room next to the living room. Was never a problem.