to tell friend she's accidentally used my baby scan photo?

[LittleTruffle]

My baby was born last month and one of my friends is currently pregnant. During my pregnancy, I shared some pictures of my scan photos with her.

A few days ago, she posted a photo of a scan picture on social media. I recognised the scan picture immediately as one of mine. I even dug out the actual scan photo to double check - it is definitely mine that she's used.

She has clearly meant to post a picture of one of her own scan photos, but has accidentally posted one of mine and she hasn't realised what she's done.

I didn't see the social media post when she initially posted it a few days ago. I only saw it for the first time today. Already, tons of people have liked the picture and have made comments, which she has replied to.

I think, if I'd have seen her social media post when she initially posted it, I would have let her know.. but a few days have gone by now and I don't know what to do.

Should I let my friend know she's accidentally used an image of my scan photo? Or, should I keep quiet and just let her enjoy the moment as it's not doing anyone any harm?

YABU - Yes, it would be unreasonable to tell her.
YANBU - No, it would not be unreasonable to tell her.

Hmmmm

If she’s definitely pregnant then probably she did an image search on her phone for scan to find the best photo and confused hers with yours.

I’d leave it. It really doesn’t matter.

I guess she just loved your photo and thought it was better than hers so she just used it. It does sound a cool photo 😎

Does it matter? In the bigger scheme of things?

It’s just a photo from way back when and you can just enjoy looking at it again and reminiscing about when you were pregnant. And take it as a compliment that she liked it

If she did it on purpose that’s quite strange

However ask yourself, if you do say something what would you like to come of it? Is it worth it?

Do you seriously think people study these scan photos like hawks? No, a quick glance, unless you are the actual parent, and as she hasn't even noticed, what good would it do. Its just a mistake im sure

I'm a conflict averse person but some of the responses on here are nuts! OP, surely just message her privately, saying she's accidentally y

Accidentally uploaded one of your scans. Keep it friendly and light-hearted obviously but you can't not tell her!

Sorry if I missed it but how far along is she? 12 weeks?

Oh that's too weird - surely it can't be an accident? I think she liked your pic better and wanted the attention...?

I'd comment on her post congratulating her with a pic of your scan and ask if they're twins! Nice and lighthearted - it may just be a super similar shot.
Besides it's really easy to edit the original post and swap in a photo if she realises her mistake.
Or, if you're less confident - do the above in a pm to her

Just message her something light-hearted. If my friend did that we would probably have a good laugh over it!

I think I would see my friend rather differently after this episode. Quite strange behaviour - very attention seeking.

Sorry but this is bloody weird. Even though scan photos look alike to other people, any mum would recognise her own! Especially given the unusual nature of it you described! My gut feeling is that there is something a bit suspicious - not necessarily the whole soap opera drama but maybe a bit of attention seeking going on, since your scans had the cute hand gestures?

Can you see the DOB at the top?

Regardless I would definately just say something. "hey friend, I can't believe it but I've just realised your scan photo is actually mine! I think you must have got them muddled up! I realised when I looked closer because of baby's hand position!"

She can't possibly deny it because you have the evidence with your name at the top, and she will know it.

@FilthyforFirth

How have you felt her baby kick at 13 weeks?!? Or did I misread how far along she is?

@FilthyforFirth

? I hadn't mentioned how far gone she is. She is just in her third trimester, I think. Around 29 or 30 weeks. She is definitely pregnant!!

Her post wasn't a "pregnancy reveal" post. It was just a post saying how much she was looking forward to meeting her baby.

Keep quiet.

A friend of mine posted some pictures on Facebook of her daughter on her 18th birthday. One of the pictures was of her holding her daughter as a tiny baby......only I'm 99% sure it's actually my daughter she's holding!

We lived a few hours apart at the time so I remember the first time we visited her after my DD was born and I'm sure this photo was from then.

I've not said anything and there's no way I ever would!

Is this a reverse?

I knew a girl at uni who did something similar. Carried around scan photos in her wallet, big old baby bump, lots of maternity clothes, went to anti natal swimming classes etc. We all fully fully believed she was pregnant. Until the 'father', who lived a couple of hours away, turned up one weekend for a surprise visit.

You've felt the baby kick, so I'm not saying at all that this is the case with your friend. I'm just saying, people are odd!

@Ragwort

If you don't identify your personal info on FB then why use FB at all? Sorry if it's a dense question but I just don't get why people use FB if it's not about them personally .

I've never used FB, I just don't understand why people use it so much when it seems to cause so much anguish. And are people really that interested in a scan photo?

Not really sure how this is relevant to my post.

If you must know.. my exH is a horrible, nasty piece of work! I moved several towns to get as far away from him as possible and I have a non-molestation order in place to prevent him from contacting me. I enjoy FB and will not let him stop me from using it. However, I use a different name on FB and avoid posting my personal information to make it that bit harder for him to track me down. Hope that answers your question?

Id find that weird, I don't really get how she would accidentally do it, I would say something but just keep it light rather than complaining.

@DrManhattan

Is this a reverse?

??? What do you mean?

She has clearly meant to post a picture of one of her own scan photos, but has accidentally posted one of mine and she hasn't realised what she's done.

You seem very certain of this.

??? What do you mean?

God knows. Perhaps she's suggesting that you're actually the foetus in the photo being misidentified.

What is the time difference between you sending the photo to her and the time in which she would have had the scan? How far were you in the scan?
I’d have to agree it sounds like it could be a fake pregnancy, if she didn’t want to post her own photos to family and friends she didn’t need to post at all. No one wants to have a photo of someone else’s baby, surely.
I would bring it up but face to face. I’d be uncomfortable knowing my scan photos were being used and shown to strangers, especially if it is part of a lie. If it’s an innocent mistake she will cross check and find it funny/apologise/explain the mistake to everyone and post the correct one.

Scans all look the same anyway. Who actually cares, no one else will.
Apart from the parents no one actually could give a crap, sorry to burst your bubble.
If you're that upset you shouldn't have shared your scan pics to begin with.

She’s 30 weeks pregnant and has just posted her scan photo announcing her pregnancy?

I’d be checking in that she’s alright, just incase.

If you're that upset you shouldn't have shared your scan pics to begin with.

You can't really predict that a friend is going to use it as their own and share it on social media🤔