to tell friend she's accidentally used my baby scan photo?

[LittleTruffle]

My baby was born last month and one of my friends is currently pregnant. During my pregnancy, I shared some pictures of my scan photos with her.

A few days ago, she posted a photo of a scan picture on social media. I recognised the scan picture immediately as one of mine. I even dug out the actual scan photo to double check - it is definitely mine that she's used.

She has clearly meant to post a picture of one of her own scan photos, but has accidentally posted one of mine and she hasn't realised what she's done.

I didn't see the social media post when she initially posted it a few days ago. I only saw it for the first time today. Already, tons of people have liked the picture and have made comments, which she has replied to.

I think, if I'd have seen her social media post when she initially posted it, I would have let her know.. but a few days have gone by now and I don't know what to do.

Should I let my friend know she's accidentally used an image of my scan photo? Or, should I keep quiet and just let her enjoy the moment as it's not doing anyone any harm?

YABU - Yes, it would be unreasonable to tell her.
YANBU - No, it would not be unreasonable to tell her.

When I open photos that other people have sent me (either by text or messenger, or WhatsApp) they might subsequently appear on my phone - under 'all images' rather than 'camera'.

Maybe your friend was scrolling through images to attach the scan and clicked on your one rather than hers? Or some genuine mistake like that... If that is a likely explanation then I'd ignore it, smile, and put it down to baby-brain...

I'd just leave it to be honest.

It doesn't sound like you're upset about it and she's probably accidentally clicked yours when scrolling back through her gallery for a scan photo since she was posting it was after the fact.

I can see how this could happen as I often search through my Whatsapp gallery rather than camera for pics I know I have sent to people so can usually find it easier since I have way more photos in my camera roll.

Most I would do is next time you see her say "OMG I think that was my scan photo you posted btw!" I'm sure she'll be fine with it, it's just a mix up.

If it’s on Facebook tell her and she can change the picture without deleting her post as you can edit it. I personally would leave it as scan pics are all so very very similar.

I really wouldn't worry about it. Literally nobody ever actually looks at other peoples scan photos.

Is this still going?!

@satnighttakeaway. It’s strange though because my mum was the complete opposite. She’d be able to go into a room full of adults and match them up to their photos of them as new borns.

I would let her know before she frames it or adds it to a baby album.

Watching my baby grow and having those scan photos was a very special time for me and my husband. Regardless of whether the pictures were unique or "normal" they're personal to your journey so I would feel a little upset if someone used my scan pictures. She may not realise at all that she's used yours so I would let her know esp if like me she takes pride in putting her pictures in a book/album for precious memories.

I think she used it on purpose. Call her out.

In reality I know that no one else would have cared about my scan pictures but I loved them. I genuinely don't see a situation where she could have gotten muddled up and confused yours for her own especially if it's unique/comical. It's all very strange. I honestly think she's done it on purpose. Regardless I think you need to tell her because it's weird having your insides on her Facebook page 😂

Just make a joke of it. That way it tells her without being accusatory. If I was her then I'd want to know....

Sorry alarm bells are ringing here!

Firstly just from a time point of view there is no way she would mix them up by mistake - she would have really needed to hunt back through months of stuff to find yours over her just done pic... Very odd.

Secondly - ive had scans and would recognise mine and which pregnancy it was without checking the personal info in the corner. So not knowing it is her just taken photo is weird - i looked at my pics so much when I got them.

Did she not notice the personal details around the edge!? If she has cropped them out on purpose that is freaky weird and I smell a huge hoax.

Also why does she have a pic of your scan? Because I've seen friends scans but never taken a pic or copied from Facebook or anything so I wouldnt have a copy to get mixed up....

I would have to tell her mainly because it creeps me out and I don't want my picture to be a part of what ever the hell she's doing.

@bemusedmoose I don’t think it was a just done scan as she is 30 weeks she presumably scrolled through her phone to find a 20 week or 12 week scan did it quickly and as images sent via whats app often end up in your own camera scroll clicked on the first one she saw (and given the speed you can flick through it seems easy enough to not notice it wasn’t hers)

I would say something tbh, as it is rather an odd mistake to make. Why would she even have your scan photo?

@Mittens030869 - if OP sent the photo to her friend via WhatsApp or a similar app - it will automatically save into her friend’s photo album on her phone

@Sydney88 Yes of course, I do use WhatsApp. I personally wouldn't save such photos. But then, I regularly delete photos that I don't need to save space on my phone.

I suppose the OP's baby was born recently enough for it to be a mistake tbf.

Either way, the OP should mention it, but casually. If the friend did it by mistake then she'll apologise and that will be the end of it.

Not sure if this was mentioned in the previous 15 pages, but a (potentially passive-agressive) response could be to comment publicly with your scan pic saying "snap", or "wow ours look so similar" and hope she works it out for herself. I'd always rather give a hint, than tell someone they're wrong, but others may see that as manipulation.

Can I ask what you chose to do in the end?