to tell friend she's accidentally used my baby scan photo?

[LittleTruffle]

My baby was born last month and one of my friends is currently pregnant. During my pregnancy, I shared some pictures of my scan photos with her.

A few days ago, she posted a photo of a scan picture on social media. I recognised the scan picture immediately as one of mine. I even dug out the actual scan photo to double check - it is definitely mine that she's used.

She has clearly meant to post a picture of one of her own scan photos, but has accidentally posted one of mine and she hasn't realised what she's done.

I didn't see the social media post when she initially posted it a few days ago. I only saw it for the first time today. Already, tons of people have liked the picture and have made comments, which she has replied to.

I think, if I'd have seen her social media post when she initially posted it, I would have let her know.. but a few days have gone by now and I don't know what to do.

Should I let my friend know she's accidentally used an image of my scan photo? Or, should I keep quiet and just let her enjoy the moment as it's not doing anyone any harm?

YABU - Yes, it would be unreasonable to tell her.
YANBU - No, it would not be unreasonable to tell her.

Post yours underneath in the comments: “oh my goodness just like my baby scan do you remember?!”

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

I've always suspected that these Ultrasound Scan machines have a library of about 100 different images and it just spits one out at random - if you have paid some money.

They should offer to take a picture / video of the screen with your phone. (maybe they do!)

I always thought this too! ....just a whole reel of pre prepared pics to save on actual photo printing tech

Not that I can see them unless they are very late on....it all just looks like outer space at warp speed to me.

And the truth could easily come out. These children may go to the same school, turn 18 the same year and I’ve seen scan pictures used in Show and Tell and on photo walls at 18th, 21st and even weddings. Best result, everyone has a laugh. Worst result, it comes out at a big moment, OP admits she knew all along and friend feels lied to.

There was a humdinger at DN’s 21st when her male cousin’s Christening picture was used on a photo wall set up by my SIL’s S (so DN’s and the other Cousin’s Auntie). Family Christening gown and shawl was used at both Christenings but DN was 2 months old at the time (and a girl), and her cousin was an especially stunning 6 month old boy with lots of hair, big eyes that little DN just didn’t have etc plus he was on a very distinctive sofa that we all remembered from the other house. The two SILs didn’t get on and there was an argument and the boy cousins mum snatched it off the wall. She was furious that everyone was saying what a beautiful baby DN was and how like a little Angel she looked at the Christening when it wasn’t DN (and as much as I love her and thought she was a gorgeous baby, she puked all over her Christening gown 5 minutes before we left that morning and her little face was covered in scratches as her scratch mitts had come off a couple of nights before the Christening. SIL’s S quietly told me she’d known all along but DN didn’t have any nice Christening pictures and she genuinely hoped no one would notice. It was really embarrassing and none of us knew where to look!

My friend’s kids are between 11 and 3 days old and most of them still have their scan pics on the fridge (lots of scan fridge magnets ). It’s clearly a big deal to some folks!

Here's a radical idea @LittleTruffle

Have you thought about sending her a message or calling her and asking?

I just do not understand why this wouldn't be your first port of call?

@Crunchymum

Not really a radical idea though, is it 🙄

Of course I have thought about texting/calling her to point out the mistake she has made. That's one option. It hasn't been my first point of call because I've also considered not saying anything at all for the reasons I have outlined in all my other posts.

this seems a lot of drama over something easily solved. I would have just commented on it "you've posted mine by accident mate!"
No need for pages and pages of drama.

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

Yeah, I could have publically outed my mate on social media and potentially caused her some upset and embarrassment 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

If I decide to tell my friend, I will do it privately.

Wasn't intending on causing drama, was just trying to be a good friend and work out what would be in my friend's best interests.

@Fouroclockonamarblemorning

Surely it will have your name on it in the top corner? Is she pretending to be pregnant and using your pic pretending it’s hers.

Not all trusts have your name and personal details on the images. I certainly had no personal details on any of the pictures I was given.

She’s clearly a close friend if you’ve felt her baby kick. So surely it’s not that hard to contact her and say something. Bit too much drama here.

Id have to say something, Id want to know.

Hey X
Just logged into FB and saw #insert baby in scans name# scan photo at the top of my feed 😍 then I noticed it was posted by you 😂 just thought id mention it incase you wasn't aware, so excited X amount of days left, have you seen X on Netflix? Or want to meet up for a SD walk next week?

No big deal, she can edit photo on her post if she wants to.

What about ‘hi love random qun! I’m just thinking have you mixed up my scan photo with yours? Look at mine and look at yours they’re identical!!’

Does the scan picture have your name at the top? I wouldn't like that if so and i'd have to ask her to take it down.

Nvm, I read the updates..

Leave it. It’s almost certainly just a silly mistake (and one I could totally make - am definitely in the “didn’t study my scan pics that carefully” club. She will feel all awkward and yuck if you point it out. If she puts it in a huge poster in her house later then maybe intervene but honestly in my experience scan pictures are a lot less exciting once actual newborn ones arrive...

This is a classic case for Let It Go.

What a lot of drama about nothing. If you don't care, just stay quiet. What's the point in raising g it with her if you are sure it was a mistake.

I would not bother.

Check her photo. Scan pictures have the mothers name and date of birth on. Surely if this was yours someone would notice unless she cropped that info out in which case I would be questioning if she is expecting.

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@Mybobowler

Trust me.. the picture is definitely 100% my scan photo.
I know most scan photos are very samey and generic looking, but not this one. Baby is laying in a very comical way.. he looks like he is making a certain gesture on his forehead with one hand, and he is holding the ankle of one of his legs up with his other hand, which makes it kind of look like a microphone. Also, his other foot looks like a particular item.

I distinctly remember this scan photo because it's so different and funny and it attracted some comments from friends. One of the comments in particular was about his foot looking like a particular item.
One of my friend's friend had made the exact same comment about the foot on my friend's social media post.[/quote]
That's cemented it for me. You have to alert her

When my son was a few days old I posted a pic of him on Facebook - gorgeous pic of me cuddling him, gazed at it constantly. Sent it to friends, in laws, colleagues (including my male boss).

Six months later I noticed that in the picture my boob is extremely obviously visible next to my DS’s head. I still get full body cringes about it now, 7 years later.

My point being is that sometimes when you’re excited about a picture you don’t necessarily notice everything about the picture - you’re too focussed on what it represents.

And now I’m cringing again.

I’d tell her btw. Along the lines of ‘hey you daft mare, you uploaded the wrong picture’ so it becomes something you giggle about rather than tiptoe around

Your friend should be able to laugh at her mistake and if you tell her she can repost her own baby and get more likes and attention and a laugh if she admits her mistake. Would be bizarre of you to keep mum about this or for her to mind if you told her.

I'm confused to how she accidently used yours? I could understand if you were both pregnant at the same time but surely to use yours she would of had to of gone back a but to find the pic. Sorry but either she's not exactly telling the truth of she's extremely dumb, so much so I'd not trust her to look after a goldfish let alone a kid (I'm really rubbish with tec and even I know that this isn't a easy mistake to make). So I'd definitely say something and make sure you have the pic to hand as if she isnt telling the truth she will probably say you are the liar. Good luck which ever way you decide to go 🐱

Heechul I thought you were going to say that your boob turned out to be your baby's 'head' ...it could definitely have been worse!

if your friend is definitely pregnant i would just let it go and enjoy your bundle and she can enjoy her bump . Both events are joyful and stressful enough

YANBU just drop her a text and say "Hi X, lovely FB post, did you realise you accidentally used my scan pic instead of yours? Lol, love you baby brain. Xx

Hopefully she will take it in the spirit it's meant.