to tell friend she's accidentally used my baby scan photo?

[LittleTruffle]

My baby was born last month and one of my friends is currently pregnant. During my pregnancy, I shared some pictures of my scan photos with her.

A few days ago, she posted a photo of a scan picture on social media. I recognised the scan picture immediately as one of mine. I even dug out the actual scan photo to double check - it is definitely mine that she's used.

She has clearly meant to post a picture of one of her own scan photos, but has accidentally posted one of mine and she hasn't realised what she's done.

I didn't see the social media post when she initially posted it a few days ago. I only saw it for the first time today. Already, tons of people have liked the picture and have made comments, which she has replied to.

I think, if I'd have seen her social media post when she initially posted it, I would have let her know.. but a few days have gone by now and I don't know what to do.

Should I let my friend know she's accidentally used an image of my scan photo? Or, should I keep quiet and just let her enjoy the moment as it's not doing anyone any harm?

YABU - Yes, it would be unreasonable to tell her.
YANBU - No, it would not be unreasonable to tell her.

I thought the same tbh 😕

My first scan photos had someone else’s name on them as they’d forgotten to change it. Was upset as it was a long-awaited IVF pregnancy. Thankfully, the later ones had my name on!

Agree with PP. This is odd.

How weird- how could you make that mistake? If you say something make it very light hearted, maybe a message like you’ll never guess what love that’s my scan photo you’ve used 😂 welcome to baby porridge brain... or such like. It’s so odd I think it should be called out.

I would be 100% telling her, mainly as I wouldn't want her sharing my picture. Is it easy enough that she would be able to edit the post by adding her real scan and removing yours?
Also as someone has suggested that she may have done it intentionally I would then be reporting it to have it removed if she refuses to take it down. But I like my privacy and have very few people on social media.

Let it be. Your friend must have her own original copies of her scan and when her baby is born ... scan photos will be long forgotten. In years to come, she’ll have those originals to show her child - if she wants too - and by then social media posts will be a distant memory. Scans can look deceptively similar. I sure wouldn’t like to identify my children from a long a go hazy scan! She made a mistake - pregnant ladies do. We all know that! She will be totally mortified and it will live with her for a very long time. In years to come, maybe ... but let it be for now.

I would tell her and make it a bit like ‘ ha ha I think you may have accidentally used my pic’ . If she didn’t mean to she will probably change it and apologise. And as other posters have mentioned, it’s unlikely anyone will know the difference

Of course there is also a slim chance you could be wrong...

Its quite odd, and made me wonder if she's actually pregnant.

You won’t post a picture of the scans because they’re unusual but not so unusual she didn’t know if wasn’t her scan. Yeah makes sense.

Not the same but my friend accidentally put an old photo of my newborn premature son up in a birthday message to her daughter, no harm done, I didn’t say anything

OP this was a lot of drama over nothing. IMHO nobody is too bothered about scan pics after birth of a healthy baby so unless you think she's gonna be treasuring this pic for years to come let it go. Just be mindful if you don't say anything now, you can't ever mention it.

Completely confused. How did she manage this? I'd tell her for sure. Ask "do you realise, that's my scan pic?" Just to see what she says x

@niugboo

Actually it does make sense. Perfect bloody sense. They are the exact same image. Completely identical. And no, I do not wish to out myself and my friend on MN by bowing to requests to see the pictures.
I have shown the picture that my friend used to a few family members and then showed them my copy of the same scan photo with my details at the top.. they have all responded along the lines of "What the... she's used your scan photo! How did she manage that?!"

If you want to say anything, do it by private message, gently.

Doesn’t it have your details at the top?

Surely your friend would want to know that she’s using your picture, if she has done it by mistake? Just message her and find out!

Maybe she made a duplicate of hers to compare side by side with yours and that’s where the mix up happened?

Most scan photos have the name of the expectant mother at the top and the date. If you do say anything don't do it publicly, just a private message. I probably would say something

I am also confused how she didn’t know it was not her’s. You noticed your’s was being used...baby scans seem the same unless they are of your own baby.

Click “see all OPs posts”

She’s already commented a few times that she cropped her own name and dob out for safeguarding reasons

Cancel the cheque!

You should tell her- she would want to know.

Bloody hell why don't people read the damn thread!

I would say something but keep it lighthearted. I wouldn't want anyone sharing my scan pictures, by mistake or not.

People really should read the thread.

But I don’t think this matters at all OP. It’s just a scan photo. I wouldn’t bother saying anything.

All the conspiracy theories OP's friend has clearly just accidentally selected the wrong photo, no need to go all soap opera plot writing.

Back in the real world, OP how hormonal and emotional is she? Is she likely to get upset about posting the wrong photo? I was an emotional wreck and once cried at a sad looking cow I drove past whilst pregnant so would have probably bawled at making such a mistake . If she's a bit more stable calm, just send her a jokey text saying you think baby brain has hit and she's posted your scan photo instead of her own. Hopefully you can both have a giggle about it.