to tell friend she's accidentally used my baby scan photo?

[LittleTruffle]

My baby was born last month and one of my friends is currently pregnant. During my pregnancy, I shared some pictures of my scan photos with her.

A few days ago, she posted a photo of a scan picture on social media. I recognised the scan picture immediately as one of mine. I even dug out the actual scan photo to double check - it is definitely mine that she's used.

She has clearly meant to post a picture of one of her own scan photos, but has accidentally posted one of mine and she hasn't realised what she's done.

I didn't see the social media post when she initially posted it a few days ago. I only saw it for the first time today. Already, tons of people have liked the picture and have made comments, which she has replied to.

I think, if I'd have seen her social media post when she initially posted it, I would have let her know.. but a few days have gone by now and I don't know what to do.

Should I let my friend know she's accidentally used an image of my scan photo? Or, should I keep quiet and just let her enjoy the moment as it's not doing anyone any harm?

YABU - Yes, it would be unreasonable to tell her.
YANBU - No, it would not be unreasonable to tell her.

@LittleTruffle no. It doesn’t make sense. You said you won’t show them because they’re unique and easy to identify because of position of hand on head or something. But it’s clearly not that unique or she wouldn’t have mistaken this particularly unusual scan picture for one of her own.

That’s weird!! I’d say something. I’d suspect her of not being pregnant at all...?

From your updates, it seems like your friend has made an honest mistake. If I was your friend I'd be really embarrassed but I'd want to know, now that you've realised. I think tell her in private, say you think it's funny, then let her decide whether to take it down or just leave it.

Least said soonest mended I’d say.

A friend of mine put the wrong information on her wedding website for “how we met”. I haven’t said a word. Admittedly it is particularly awkward with that one as her husband is my ex boyfriend and I know exactly where he was and what he and I were doing that day. For the first time.

I do wonder if he knows though....

You said your scan was very distinctive abs people commented on it. Did your friend comment on it? Are people saying the same comments on "her" photo? Surely that would make her realise. I don't understand how this could happen accidentally

How on earth are you so definite that it's yours if there's no identifying details? You do realise they're all fairly identical, don't you?!!

Stay away from it no good can come off telling her what ever her reasons

@JuliaJohnston

How on earth are you so definite that it's yours if there's no identifying details? You do realise they're all fairly identical, don't you?!!

Read my updates

I would have to say something. Seems strange how she could do this. Is she even pregnant? Don’t all scans have your name at the top and DOB? I’m sure mine did.

She won't be the only one who didn't notice.

Your scan photo would have your name, Date of birth, date of scan, hospital number, and the hospitals ID code along the edge. Is this how you know she has definitely used your scan photo?

Apologies if this has already been said but if the scan photo is that unusual and amusing then I would assume it’s entirely deliberate and posted for ‘likes’.

Money on it being on Instagram too

@LittleTruffle why do you think she has done it accidentally when people have commented on the comical nature of the scan. She would surely have had another look and realised it wasn't hers?

I would probably mention it casually, as someone mentioned before, saying baby brain.
Say your happy for her to leave the photo so she doesn't lose the nice comments, but you thought she should know.

That's said if she was gonna do something with the scan pics, I am sure she would use her originals, so doubt it will be an issue if you choose not to say anything.

Surprised at those saying they wouldn't recognize their own scan pics, I got some lovely clear ones that I am pretty sure I would recognise!

I would ignore. You are curious and that's understandable, but there are no worrying signs about her or the pregnancy. What good can come of it?

I'm surprised how many women found their scan pictures so unique. I did of course look at mine a lot, but they obviously looked v similar to any others I've been shown!

OP, just ask her.

I’m pregnant and don’t understand this “oh don’t upset the pregnant lady shit” people are coming out with.

If she’s such good friends with you, to me it’s more alarming that you think you can’t ask her.

You have to tell her because a) as you say she might print it out or something and always think it's her baby in the pic and b) since you've shown them to other family members I think you owe it to her to tell her too. If it was me and one of my best friends I would send her a screenshot if her fb post, my scan photo, and a 🤣 - privately officials course!

Can’t believe people think they all look so similar that you couldn’t spot identical ones. They’re like fingerprints for fucks sake, the pattern of light and dark is unique to each one. If you Google “baby scan images” and get a load of results up on the page you can easily spot if any 2 of them are identical or not if you have them both in front of you.

I’d have to say something.

She’s a good friend of yours so I wouldn’t be worried about her being offended I’m sure you know how to talk about things nicely without it being a drama x
I’d tell her privately either in a phone call or text just because she may not have noticed and she can just update her post quietly before mutual friends realise and start thinking she’s a weirdo when in fact it’s baby brain and all scans look the same 😅

No one accidentally posts a friends scan of their baby rather than theirs !

@scarlywarlyx

I would have to say something. Seems strange how she could do this. Is she even pregnant? Don’t all scans have your name at the top and DOB? I’m sure mine did.

RTFT!!!!

This happened to me, it was an honest mistake as my friend had already sent me her photo in excitement. I told her, it was fine. An honest mistake. It was in a presentation card from the hospital and the card had cut off the name from the top

Your friend might have compared scans with the aim guessing the sex and then click the wrong pic.

Are you going to tell her ?