To think "who the fuck do you think you are?"

[CrotchBurn]

Okay I need to rant its friday and I have done 3 x 10 hour days back to back, I need wine and to release my anger

FYI this isnt for when its friends or family.

It's about people calling you: banks, clients or colleagues, insurance wanting to check something, whatever.

Its 2020. I'm sorry if you dont like it, but when you call me, you are intruding. We have WhatsApp, we have email. I get instant notifications on my phone. When you call me, you drag me out of whatever I'm doing (working usually) to demand my attention.

If it's about my bank account then guess what? Use your fucking fancy messaging system on the platform I'm assuming that's what it's there for and that way you will have a record.

If it's about work, guess what? I'm fucking working right now. On something that doesnt have to do with you. So send me an email and wait your turn. It's not all about you. And again: I would prefer to have what you say in writing.

Ooh and by the way you know voice messages? Yeah I dont listen to those. So you chat away but just FYI I listen to my voice messages except I dont, I just dial in and then hit 3 or whatever it is repeatedly until they are all deleted.

So dont waste my fucking time and stop jostling into my personal space. Seeing the missed call icon on my phone puts me on edge. If you are bored during lock down and need a human voice then I suggest you call a relative or friend. I AM BUSY. Oh and also: please dont email saying "would it be possible to arrange a call to discuss?". It wouldnt actually, see above.

Am I abnormal to hate this this much??

Not only are you unreasonable but you are a petulant child who needs to learn how to use the technology at your fingertips at a grown up and competent level.

It’s a myth that 2020 time is more pressured or more important that the 1980s or 1990s in fact overall technology has made it easier,

Either answer the phone or don’t just don’t cry and pretend you have it harder than anyone ever crybaby

Im with you OP. But the notification bit, doesn’t bother me 😉

Wow you sound like a very very angry perso n

@Spaceshiphaslanded

Im with you OP. But the notification bit, doesn’t bother me 😉

Me neither!

My 'phone messages' is disabled so I don't even get them. Anyone who knows me sends a text if I don't pick up immediately. I agree, uanbu.

If you don’t want anyone to phone you ... don’t have a phone. Or at least don’t give anyone your number.

@GreenlandTheMovie

I am so with you! Those patronising messages from your bank, wanting to tell you how to "manage your money better" - sorry, buy if you were a billionaire, I might take advice from you then! Or your mobile phone provider, right in the middle of the working day.

"your bank, wanting to tell you how to "manage your money better"

i.e. mis-sell you their shonky products for plenty of commission.

I had this with Alliance & Leicester once. Depositing a cheque, I was asked if I wanted a "financial review" which I declined. Much pushing later, I agreed an appointment, but only for products with zero risk (i.e. remortgaging or savings accounts). I was mortified to see from the invite letter the appointment was from 12 to 1.30pm. Come the day, I lasted 20 minutes, and the woman was furious that I had "completely wasted her time" - the above message was obviously not passed on, but she presumably got her bonus for referring me.

Can't help you with the phone problems but I do think "Who the fuck do you think you are?" would make for a much more interesting BBC ancestry programme.

I agree! Don’t bother me on the phone; I unplugged my work phone, it went into a box in the shed during lockdown! It is much easier to manage my day now

YANBU I’ve become like this. Recently turned my voicemail system off and will leave phone on DND if working. Emails are best for people that aren’t family or friends and then there’s always the bonus of having a paper trail not a phone conversation! Lol

You need rest wine and you must start blocking callers as they sure are winding you up .....

I can see that phone calls make sense for some jobs and purposes. But I'm an email person.

A phone call never takes less time for me to deal with than an email.

For work requiring deep concentration, a 30 second phone call can take 20 minutes out of your working day, because that's the time it takes to get you mental state back to what it was before you were interrupted.

One major reason for pushing all communications to text is so that you can deal with them at the time that suits you. (Another is having a written record of everything.)

There are times when it is necessary to phone someone, but anyone who communicates by phoning (or walking up to someone's desk) when an email would have been good enough is rude.

Instant messaging is the devils work: all the downsides of phoning without the alleged advantage of quicker communication. People can talk quicker than they can type, if you're going to interupt someone at least do so efficiently, by phoning them. Whoever thought it was a good idea to add instant messaging to the list of company apps should be shot.

YABU but so am I because I fully agree with everything you said.

I don’t like talking on the phone, however at work arranging a phone call rather than discussing a complex matter over hundreds of e-mails is so much more convenient. So yes, even someone like me that hates phone calls would try to arrange one.

This is mildly infuriating for anyone that works in a hospital. We're not allowed to email you unless we have a signed consent form (and even then it's frowned upon unless patients email you first where I work). We also have to have private/withheld numbers. If you don't have a voicemail then we have to waste so much time having to repeatedly call people at various times of the day trying to get them to call us.

Test positive for covid and see how many times a day PHE intrude on your fever.

Also, my grown up children will message me first to ask if I am free for a phone call, this had tomhappennduring lockdown as my DD was safely stuck travelling in New Zealand and with the time difference we arranged ahead when to face time. I have removed Internet from my mobile so get no emails on it, my land land has a monitoring system which stops all cold callers and my email box on my iPad had over 86,000 unopened emails. I understand where you are but like someone said, it's for you to control how you respond.

I tend to call people if I need to convey something that will take more than 2 lines of email.

Email is such a pointless waste of time - if you’re busy doing something else then you’ll end up with 10 reply alls to deal with a small problem that could be solved with a quick call.

Answering emails may be work but isn’t productive work.

I never answer my personal phone unless I recognise the number or if I am expecting a delivery/tradesman to arrive or something like that.

I started getting too many calls from salespeople, scam calls and so on. I also had some dodgy calls after the end of a brief relationship and started to get silent calls/weird calls after that...

I always think that if it is a genuine call they will leave a voicemail and I can get back to them.

Work is a tricky one too. My office, although I work from home, does not provide me with a work mobile, so again I don't feel obliged to respond to random calls from them. I prefer that people email me. I don't have a public facing role so there is no need for me to give my number out to customers or anything.

I think you sound really stressed and might need to step away from tings for a bit.

You are what most men imagine MNetters to be. Angry, unreasonable and entitled.

@SurreyHillsGirl

You are what most men imagine MNetters to be. Angry, unreasonable and entitled.

Why should OP, or anyone else here, give a flying fuck what 'most men' think? 😆

Surely you can opt out of calls from the bank? YABU about work calls though and seem to have a pretty bad attitude. Personally I hate going back and forth on email or text. Much quicker to call.

If we get a call back from the GP they use the ‘No Caller ID’ thing. So occasionally do the school or nursery. If it’s a scam/pre-recorded message I hang up and move on with my day.

I’ve also had a few admin roles where I’ve needed responses to emails/calls to do my own job, so people who are JuSt ToO bUsY they can’t acknowledge those just end up making things harder for other people.