To find that “I’m an empath” actually means I’m a complete attention seeker

[Covidchameleon]

Ok I’m being bitchy. And grumpy. But have seen this twice today used by completely people to completely justify being a drama queen.

To be fair in general - I tend to find that anyone who self proclaims them self as any personality type then tends to proceed to be irritating.

I'm an empath!!!!!!!

Bloody nightmare. All the time dealing with everybody else's feelings versus my bloody own.
I'm bloody good at reading a person though.
Ive learned to ignore all that nonsense as I've got older and I'm a far better person for it.

Anyone that assigns a personality trait to themselves publicly is usually self absorbed and/or none too bright. It’s not your call anyway - others get to judge whether you are kind / quirky / sympathetic you can’t say it yourself and make it so.

I of course am hugely sympathetic an empath very entertaining and stunningly attractive

I've always thought the same. Anyone I know personally who describe themselves as such is either

(a) Shacked up with a lazy shit man who they're 'rescuing' as, 'being an empath is sooo draining, those who need help are drawn to me in a way they're not, to others' (ie I love him even though he's useless, so I need to have an excuse). Or

(b)

Turning conversations around to them being an empath, cue others 'oh yes, me too' when you know at least 2 if them are shallow af & don't particularly display emphatic tendencies, but it's fashionable to be an empath..

I can't listen to it. Empaths, twin flames, soulmates, and someone was talking about having 'soul ties' with a man the other day🙄

It's the world we live in, encourages people to be unique and those who crave that, will find descriptive ways to present as some kind of higher being

It’s an excuse for bad behaviour and self importance, they aren’t that special.

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It’s shorthand for ‘I can’t regulate my own emotions and have decided to pride myself on it’.

My dsis to a T. She's so "crazy, weird and different". There's nobody like her and nobody gets her because she's such an individual who walks her own path and fuck everyone. She also self diagnosed with adhd, autism and disbraxia. In reality she has none of these things. She is narcissistic and selfish and borderline sociopathic. I feel better for typing that

What’s almost ironic is that those who declare themselves as whatever it is must really lack any understanding of what it is to be someone else.

Yes other people feel like that too
“Oh but not like meeee”

Ah well the irony here is that most truly empathetic people would probably run a mile from this kind of conversation anyway, for fear of ridicule and a desire not to be sucked into toxicity.

IME, genuinely empathetic people don't usually broadcast it all over social media!

I thought empaths were a Star Trek species

Along the same lines are those who have adopted the “I’m sooooo socially awkward” line.

Some people are socially awkward definitely.
But it’s not those people who say it but then you see them out, chatting away, telling jokes, flirting.... I have few friends and acquaintances who claim to be this type yet in person they are like a fabulous Diana Ross in a fox fur strutting across the dance floor.

One guy I dated had this whole “I’m so awkward and quirky and different” vibe that for a moment I liked but then I realised, no you’re not quirky and different you’re just the same as all the rest of us but with old man taste in music.

People need to stop trying to be “different” and realise we are all different naturally. But mostly we’re all the same boring fuckers.

People need to stop trying to be “different” and realise we are all different naturally. But mostly we’re all the same boring fuckers.

Spot on.

'I have a horror of war'.
Clearly everyone else loves it.

I'm well past caring about what strangers on the interweb think of me. Like I said, I'm not so bad anymore and I don't doubt that some people use it as an excuse, but a lot don't. I couldn't handle my emotions because I was abused, I'm a different person now, but I still remember how awful it was to be a walking conductor for emotions. It's fucking horrendous to live like that, but I also get how annoying it can be if you don't understand why.

@GrandUnion

It’s shorthand for ‘I can’t regulate my own emotions and have decided to pride myself on it’.

Exactly this!

My brother claims to be an empath. In reality, a total pain in the arse whose emotions are all over the place. Only believes his own feelings are valid and totally disregards others’ views.

Hmm.. I consider myself an empath, but I've never felt that it had something to do with wanting to help people. Mainly, being keenly aware of other people's feelings or 'feeling' those feelings makes me uncomfortable, anxious and keen to get away from them.

It's similar to sensory overload. I could do without it. The thing is that for me, being sensitive to especially other people's negative feelings just makes me an intruder.

'Nothing I say is going to help or make them feel any better', 'I'm gonna trample all over someone's emotions.' 'I need to get the hell away from here.'

That's more commonly what it's like for me than 'omg I understand you babes, now let's talk about me'.

@Frenchtrench

Hmm.. I consider myself an empath, but I've never felt that it had something to do with wanting to help people. Mainly, being keenly aware of other people's feelings or 'feeling' those feelings makes me uncomfortable, anxious and keen to get away from them.

It's similar to sensory overload. I could do without it. The thing is that for me, being sensitive to especially other people's negative feelings just makes me an intruder.

'Nothing I say is going to help or make them feel any better', 'I'm gonna trample all over someone's emotions.' 'I need to get the hell away from here.'

That's more commonly what it's like for me than 'omg I understand you babes, now let's talk about me'.

Yep. My experience too!

Well I'm pretty sure I am an empath and have felt this way for about a decade. Do I tell other people this? Nope...

Definitely not much empathy for anyone on this thread....perhaps read it back to yourselves....@amusedtodeath1 hope you're doing okay.

I am an empath sounds like a line from horror film, said by some mysterious woman before she conducts a seance.

Anyone declaring themselves to be an empath, a good person, a comedian etc is obviously being self involved.

Presumably what they mean is that they are too empathetic, which can be dealt with in a variety of ways.

@Frenchtrench

Hmm.. I consider myself an empath, but I've never felt that it had something to do with wanting to help people. Mainly, being keenly aware of other people's feelings or 'feeling' those feelings makes me uncomfortable, anxious and keen to get away from them.

It's similar to sensory overload. I could do without it. The thing is that for me, being sensitive to especially other people's negative feelings just makes me an intruder.

'Nothing I say is going to help or make them feel any better', 'I'm gonna trample all over someone's emotions.' 'I need to get the hell away from here.'

That's more commonly what it's like for me than 'omg I understand you babes, now let's talk about me'.

Lots of truth in this.

I know someone who declared herself an empath on Facebook. How life was so much more painful for her due to her empathy and sensitivity. She is also big on virtue signalling. It's all a bit tedious.

YANBU - it's not a real thing; pop psychology at best and utter bullshit at worst.

The word is 'empathetic'. Nobody is 'an empath'. Empaths are from Star Trek.

Do you remember people who were ‘Emos’ and used to paint a tear on the side of their face?