To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

@Sparklingbrook I'm getting at the MN calling people idiots, selfish etc from behind a key board.

They're called "key board warriors"!

Look it up?

[quote Bookworming]@Sparklingbrook I'm getting at the MN calling people idiots, selfish etc from behind a key board.

They're called "key board warriors"!

Look it up?[/quote]
Why are you having a go at me personally? I have heard the expression 'keyboard warrior' so why would I look it up?. Is it 'the MN' that you are annoyed with?

@D4rwin

Got some woman tutting at my daughter being with me yesterday. It's a big supermarket, the opticians is at the back. Her new (necessary) glasses were in the post, they got lost so we had to attend for a refit. Apparently it's parents like me that keep the pandemic going.

How do you know she was tutting "at you"?

Presumably you couldn't see that much of her face under her mask.

Did she actually day "it's parents like you...." etc?

I think maybe you misunderstood what was happening here.

@Rhine

Why does a couple need to go shopping together? It’s clingy, controlling and weird, Don’t get me started on whole families who do it. Just why?

How is it clingy and controlling to do the shopping together? Admittedly I usually go alone when DP is at work, but actually, when he's off he'll come with me (usually because we'll go on our way back from somewhere else) and I find it quite nice to choose things together for our meals etc. To say it's 'clingy, controlling and weird' is really really odd.

i remember during the first lock down, pre mask, but there were letting people in one at a time, one of my first shops, i tend to shop online, there was a couple, they met a friend in the supermarket, all chats and happiness, and then the wife was saying they didnt really know if they actually needed anything since they had so much in the cupboards.

people have forgotten and it is up to the supermarkets to be more proactive. imo
i think people wear masks and think they are SAfe

I shop with my partner but we do not live together and bubbled up. I don't drive so we food shop together, getting our separate bits. As a single parent sometimes I even take my child with me/us. Shock horror.

We went shopping yesterday and I actually worried people might look at us like this, even though I had a trolley and him a basket. We obviously go round together.

It pissed me off during the first lockdown where it was one in one out and people were there as a family of 4. I absolutely loathed the wait to get in. Doesn’t really bother me this time when you can walk straight in 🤷🏻‍♀️

@SpectralPlot

YANBU at all OP. I'm sure if we had IQ tests at the point of entry we'd soon perceive the reason.

Exactly. And many more could do better but prefer willful ignorance and short-term gratification of their own whims and wants.

I don’t take my older boys to the shops with me at the best of times let alone lockdown. But we are doing a Big Shop tomorrow and it needs two of us** which means going while the kids are at school & bringing DD(1) with us. It’s annoying and against guidance but I can’t do much else.

*Because DH doesn’t know what he’s doing and I can’t lift things off the shelf due to disability

I'm agog at the number of DH/Ps who seem incapable of adulting. Fuck my life.

I'm agog at the number of DH/Ps who seem incapable of adulting. Fuck my life.

I disagree, if you read those posts, it’s the woman who are saying ‘he doesn’t do it right’

It’s definitely the female who isn’t happy with the shopping produced rather than no shopping produced.

Because what on earth else can we do?! Get a grip and order shopping to your home.

God forbid that two people from the same household should be in a supermarket at the same time; even if they go around the shop separately and only meet up again at the till. And God forbid a shopper would be in that same supermarket and see a familiar face and cheerfully exchange greetings (whilst standing apart), because we're not allowed to be grateful for a tiny glimpse of our old lives.

After the schools/colleges opened up again I did my usual weekly visit to the supermarket. I went up the escalator behind a group of five or six girls (12-ish). They were crammed together and one said to another, 'Don't put your hand on there!' [escalator rail]. 'Why not?'. 'Covid'. I stood well behind them on the escalator. Once we were up there I heard them chatting and laughing (lovely to hear that from children normally) ... but one said 'Ooh look, there's a lift, shall we use that?' Then, 'Shall we all go in together? We'll say we're from one household; we don't look alike, but we're from the same household.'

Now this really irritated me at the time (and later they were flying around the grocery section together), because everybody else in the store on that occasion we're following all the guidelines that came after lock-down. But this was before the statistics came out that so many cases we're happening in this age+ range.

Why are we so quick to judge individuals/strangers, and ready to believe that our experience/opinion is the 'truth'? In England (can't speak for other parts of the UK, as I haven't experienced them) we seem to be just as divided as the various states of America are.

The 'we're' should have been a 'were'

@MaxNormal

Tbh I'll carry on shopping with DH whenever I feel like it because I don't really care about the frothing sanctimony on from some quarters on MN.

Me neither.

MaxNormal
Tbh I'll carry on shopping with DH whenever I feel like it because I don't really care about other people.

Fixed that for you.

@Thepilotlightsgoneout

Probably because it’s the only thing people can do at the moment?

This

@Mrsmorton

MaxNormal Tbh I'll carry on shopping with DH whenever I feel like it because I don't really care about other people.

Fixed that for you.

agree!

*Mrsmorton
MaxNormal
Tbh I'll carry on shopping with DH whenever I feel like it because I don't really care about other people.

Fixed that for you.*

agree!

Yep that's another agree!

As for the PP calling it weird and controlling, could you explain assuming both parties are happy to go, just who is controlling who? Or do they take it in turns to control each other?

@HokeyWokey

I don't even bloody notice who else is in the supermarket. I just get on with what I'm doing.

I expect the OP is the type to judge what's in other peoples shopping trolleys too.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@Artus I also love shopping with my OH. It was our "norm" before Covid. We always used to grab a coffee and cake together afterwards and it was lovely.

However, due to Covid we shop alone currently. Yes it's nice to shop together and all of that, but it's a small sacrifice for protecting others and keeping the NHS functional. My coffee is not as important as keeping safe those who are more vulnerable than us.[/quote]
Why when your in the same bubble?

@Mrsmorton

If anyone wonders why we have a second lockdown, direct them to this thread. I've rarely seen such self centred excuse making.

Thanks for all playing your small part in the efforts against the virus

A second wave is highly likely anyway. Hello from and

Hello from Nz

@nomdeplume2019 oh well If it's going to happen anyway, what's the point of trying.