To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

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So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

@BluebellsGreenbells the supermarkets count the people in and out, I gave 500 as an example!

So do you think that if I go to the supermarket and I'm with my partner, brother, sister, aunt, uncle and godmother that they only count it as one person?

Of course they bloody don't!

No, what I’m say is there are 500 more people than necessary

Shopper plus one or shopper plus 3 - huge increase in risk

If you shopping with a partner doesn’t negate the need of the others to shop

31 pages based on one noseache 😀

Oh tell me @Feministicon ! Followed by "they weren't buying essentials"!

To me wine and magnums are essential!

It’s like some people have been in training their whole lives for this opportunity 😂

What's a 'noseache'?

I guess the only thing that would be frustrating is that if the shop is only allowed a certain number of people in then it means others would have to wait longer in the queue

Yep - that's why some busier supermarkets have this rule at this time😉

@Sparklingbrook

What's a 'noseache'?

My mum used to say it's a variation of nosey parker, as in 'oi mind your own business noseache'

@Feministicon I couldn't agree more.

And I wonder if those who are being vociferous about who should be shopping and what they should be buying are the same people who abused a blind lady who I have just seen on our local news. She has a guide dog but due to extremely limited vision in one eye and none in the other she cannot judge distance. She said she's had n no problem with shops or staff, it has been members of the public who have been so rude and abusive to her she's now afraid to do her shopping. DH and I were incensed.

Oh right @NeedWineNow, I have never heard that expression, ever. In these parts it would probably be 'sticky beak'.

I think this thread is getting to the stage where people are just commenting on the OP and not reading the rest maybe.

That's awful about the blind lady. I know some shops do a 'guided shop' for people with sight loss but I wonder if that has been abandoned due to the social distancing thing.

Awful to read of how the blind person was treated.

Such genuine cases out there, but I just can't see the seven hanging off a trolley as they 'enjoy it' ....or the useless Dp who doesn't get the right things right so can't possibly go alone....or the 'kids like to pick their treats' as valid reasons at the moment to fill up the numbers in the shops hence keep possibly very vulnerable shoppers waiting.

Just shop alone when you can.

🙄

Drives me mad too! I'm a single parent and don't drive so what I do is... Go to the shop when kids are at school, do shopping for me, kids and other lone adult in my bubble. That adult then picks me up with shopping. That way only I go shopping. If I can't do that lone adult looks after kids and picks me up when I'm done.

There is mostly no reason other than not wanting to be told what to do. (I'm not saying people don't have reasons, just most people are just ignoring it.)

Some people are at work when their kids are at school.

@BashfulClam

We go together. I have specific dietary needs, DH can’t fathom what to get for me and he drives as I get anxious driving.

But he could wait in the car.

@Glassythighs

I don’t drive and DP is hopeless at choosing the shopping even with a list so we go together whether op likes it or not.

Why can't your spouse wait outside the store, though? To minimize exposure for yourselves and others.

@Hopdathelf

Why does a couple need to go shopping together? It’s clingy, controlling and weird,

What a sad view to take. It’s perfectly normal for one person to help their partner or to run errands together. As you say, there’s no law against it.

Yes, but we aren't in "perfectly normal " times. There's a global pandemic on but many of you seem determined to do as you please, regardless.

@bemusedmoose one of the reasons could be that sone single parents are working whilst their children are at school?

So what's your next suggestion for them?

It's unbelievable that people on here can't see any reason why others can't do exactly what they do! No concept that some will be working etc!

@bemusedmoose er, I'm at work when DS is at school, I can't go shopping then.

Actually it has been said lots of times that there will be times when people do need to go together. However no one needs to go with their partner and children.
I also can't believe the amount of posters claiming their partners can't shop. How old are these partners? 7? Also as has been said one person can wait outside.
It's strange enough to do a family outing to a supermarket in normal times but at the moment, show a bit of common sense.
Single parents with children is understandable, but most reasons are just excuses because people want to do what they want.
This so called lockdown is a joke.

I dont bring my kids food shopping as i wouldnt inflict on the public.

But they did go to the supermarket the other day cause they had money to spend and wanted a choice.

In and out within 20 minutes.

I was in a shop the other day and someone reached across me,rather than going round the other way or asking meto move.

@sst1234

Why are people making excuses for why couples or families may need to go shopping together. No one needs an excuse, they should be able to do just because they want to. The pathetic COVID police need to quit with the monitoring of what people are doing. GROW UP.

This!!

Just why do people care if a family goes shopping together? I shop on my own as I find it easier, however I fully accept others think different to me. I'm too busy trying to remember everything to be bothered if there is a family in front of me. Honestly probably wouldn't notice

Grow up?
yes and be sensible and realise that a crowd of you shopping makes you harder to avoid.
we are meant to be keeping our distance, or is that too grown up and sensible?

YABU. The shops are still open so everyone should do their shopping as usual. I don't drive and our shopping is usually fairly big as cook for my family+brother in law. In the spring and during the summer my husband had to stay in the car with 2 children 3 and 1.5 for hours while i stayed aprox 1 to 1.5 hours at Asda and Sainsbury's( as that was closer to us )in the queue despite having a huge bump(baby due in Aug), but he never do the right shopping when goes alone so I prefer to do it myself. That's said, i would not wish anyone to go through this pain for the little ones so just do your shopping and don't care about who comes to shop?

Is it that people don't understand that every contact increases transmission risk? Because ultimately it does.

my husband had to stay in the car with 2 children 3 and 1.5 for hours while i stayed aprox 1 to 1.5 hours at Asda and Sainsbury's

He could take them for a walk or back home - his choice to sit in the car