To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

Yabu

Gosh - its only a few weeks. And obviously with some exceptions, its logically safer and more efficient to try to limit shopping to one person during this mini lockdown. Our local supermarket had queues on Saturday made longer by couples and a few families. Surely if we are making such sacrifices in other areas of our lives, the vast majority of people can organise their shopping for four weeks?

I'm not unaware of the guidance but I generally am unaware of others around me because there's no point wasting my time concerning myself with something I can't do anything about.

This is why people say 'mind your own' etc... Because it's the only thing you can control. I don't want to end up some judgemental, hateful person always clocking what everyone else is doing and tut tutting about it. Just get on with your own shit.

*BashfulClam
We go together. I have specific dietary needs, DH can’t fathom what to get for me and he drives as I get anxious driving.

That is a rubbish excuse! Just write him a list.....*

Or easier still, leave him in the car while you’re in the shop.

There's no government guidelines now (there was in March) but dome supermarkets are enforcing one adult only eg Tesco. Go there and leave us who desire to shop together for our personal reasons to shop in the stores that have no such rules eg Asda

@DrManhattan

Same here. He might want "men things," fruit and alcohol, I pay for the main shop as I don't pay rent, him for his bits that always cost more. We don't have shared finances. We wander into different bits of the store

I was shopping yesterday morning and there was a woman with 5 children all under probably 7/8 2 holding her hand and the other 3 running around picking up toys/magazines and her telling them to put them back. No trolley or basket with her so was obvious she wasn't doing her weekly shop. I think it just makes the social distancing aspect so much harder when your trying to be as vigilant as you possibly can when others have blatant disregard.

Why can’t you just assume the people are doing their best?

Because this thread shows they aren't. People are selfish and unwilling to suffer even minor inconvenience to protect others.

Everybody has an excuse to shop with others, not wear a mask, not get tested, lie to track and trace, etc. We need to start thinking about other people and fucking stop it.

@Oneeata

I was shopping yesterday morning and there was a woman with 5 children all under probably 7/8 2 holding her hand and the other 3 running around picking up toys/magazines and her telling them to put them back. No trolley or basket with her so was obvious she wasn't doing her weekly shop. I think it just makes the social distancing aspect so much harder when your trying to be as vigilant as you possibly can when others have blatant disregard.

And where would you have liked this woman, who could well be a single parent for all you know, to have left her 5 children none of whom are old enough to be alone?

YANBU. Even before covid, I could never understand the need for the entire family to do the supermarket shop together. So much more efficient for just one adult to go and do everything (unless they have specific needs which mean they need someone to be there to help them, of course). I much prefer doing it by myself without DH and DS there to slow me down!

I completely understand she may well be a single parent but she should not be allowing her kids to be running riot around 2 aisles of the supermarket not allowing for social distancing to be adhered to. She didn't seem to be phased or stressed out in anyway with them, which to me shows disregard for others or do children not count when it comes to social distancing?

I don't mind people who shop in groups because they don't have a choice like single woman with children, but I don't understand why two or more adult people shopping and talking together. If you can stay home, please do.

If they want to shop together, they can go to a mall or whatever is out there but I really hope people give other people space at stores where people can buy food and supplies.

@Nicknamegoeshere

It's surprising how so many people are apparently unaware of the "Shop alone whenever possible" guidance.

I thought i read upthread that there is no government guidance

I may have missed a link though

I'm pretty sure it's not guidance and they don't ask you to do it in every store.

lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc
How do you know they were couple fgs.

I'm pretty sure it's not guidance and they don't ask you to do it in every store

Well thats what i thought...

I do try and follow the rules and guidelines and wouldnt join a big queue with dh in tow, but we do go to a local quiet supermarket in the evening...masked and distanced obviously

This has been said umpteen times on this thread but it is the stores themselves implementing guidelines to try and ensure the safety of staff and customers.
They are doing what they can to appeal to people’s better nature in helping things to run smoothly and get people in and out so they can buy what they need.
It’s not government guidelines and it’s not law. Some shops are trying harder than others todo this though.

How do you know they were couple fgs

You do know one definition of couple is two? Fgs.

@Glassythighs

I don’t drive and DP is hopeless at choosing the shopping even with a list so we go together whether op likes it or not.

How does he function in his working life?

Probably has a PA to organise his work life for him, and wifey at home.

@Sparklingbrook

This has been said umpteen times on this thread but it is the stores themselves implementing guidelines to try and ensure the safety of staff and customers. They are doing what they can to appeal to people’s better nature in helping things to run smoothly and get people in and out so they can buy what they need. It’s not government guidelines and it’s not law. Some shops are trying harder than others todo this though.

Thats what i thought 😀

Good to have it confirmed that I haven’t missed a link to government policy

All these people with husbands who are useless shoppers - what will you do if it does become law that only one person can shop (except in exceptional circumstances-single parent etc)

Also - were you expert shoppers the first time you ever went or did it take time to improve? Your men folk will sharp learn to shop better when they're having beans for dinner 4 days running!

Actually I bet most of the husbands aren't useless shoppers, I'd put money on some of the wives being overly fussy and moaning. A bit like not "being able" to leave dad with the kids because they might wear odd socks.

I'd be embarrassed if my husband couldn't do a shop on his own. We need to stop babying men for goodness sake.

@Waxonwaxoff0

I'd be embarrassed if my husband couldn't do a shop on his own. We need to stop babying men for goodness sake.

Absolutely. Although there are probably also lots of women who infantilise themselves but pretending they can't drive on motorways or mow lawns and so forth.