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To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

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Nicknamegoeshere · 08/11/2020 16:37

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

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Sparklingbrook · 09/11/2020 08:44

@timeforanewstart

All those saying its guidance not the law , maybe they are expecting people to act like adults and follow the bloody guidance. Yes for exceptions people need to take kids or go together etc but it is quite clear some are using as a family day out. Why should others be stood out waiting in the rain when a family of 6 is strolling round , thats 5 other people that could go in . Also i get some don't drive so partner takes them, but they can also stay in the car and wait . Its supermarket its not fun So poor single mum with couple kids who has no choice is stood outside in a que for ages whilst a family or couple who don't have to shop together have an afternoon out
Everything you said-I agree entirely. The guidance (yes-not the law, we have established that) is to help the majority of customers get in and out as quickly as possible.

There will be exceptions obviously, but if everyone is sensible it's all good.

waterthedog · 09/11/2020 09:03

All I'm seeing is bunch of excuses for why the rules don't apply to them. 99% could go alone if they needed to but choose not. They are the reason why the spread is so bad.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 09/11/2020 09:06

I'm a "poor single mum" who has no choice but to take DS shopping and I don't give a fuck what other people are doing.

liveitwell · 09/11/2020 09:08

Because shop workers lives don't matter enough seemingly.

YANBU.

drumst1ck · 09/11/2020 09:12

This thread has opened my eyes to how many people apparently hated couples or people with kids shopping together even BEFORE covid. I shop with my baby as I can't leave a 1 year old at home on their own but honestly life is much nicer when you try to assume everyone has their own good reasons for doing what they do and stop worrying about it. The amount of petty threads that covid has brought out is so sad.

ZoeTurtle · 09/11/2020 09:12

Everyone has an excuse, just like for mask wearing. If only we could stop whining and make sacrifices to our convenience for a while, this could all be over much sooner.

ReadySteadyBed · 09/11/2020 09:17

@BrummyMum1

The lockdown vigilante are out in full force again I see.
That they are. They exhaust me more than the rule flouters
lovelovelove2020 · 09/11/2020 09:20

@BashfulClam

We go together. I have specific dietary needs, DH can’t fathom what to get for me and he drives as I get anxious driving.
That is a rubbish excuse! Just write him a list.....
lovelovelove2020 · 09/11/2020 09:22

[quote DrManhattan]@Rhine
We go shopping as a couple because there is stuff we both want and its easier[/quote]
🙄🙄🙄

Fischliweiss · 09/11/2020 09:22

Guidance from who? This post is fucking redic. Alll the people commenting are probably the fucking bonkers one who insisted you couldn't pop out for milk as you could have black tea/coffee an water on cereal. Just looking for something to be hysterical about. It's fucking sad.

Fischliweiss · 09/11/2020 09:23

@waterthedog

All I'm seeing is bunch of excuses for why the rules don't apply to them. 99% could go alone if they needed to but choose not. They are the reason why the spread is so bad.
Do you seriously think the spread is bad because people are getting it in supermarkets? Really?
lovelovelove2020 · 09/11/2020 09:24

@Comefromaway

My husband put himself at risk every day to teach your kids who refuse to social distance and are always being caught without masks. If he needs to take me shopping with him he jolly well can.
😂😂😂 Seriously? He can't go on his own?
ReadySteadyBed · 09/11/2020 09:26

@drumst1ck

This thread has opened my eyes to how many people apparently hated couples or people with kids shopping together even BEFORE covid. I shop with my baby as I can't leave a 1 year old at home on their own but honestly life is much nicer when you try to assume everyone has their own good reasons for doing what they do and stop worrying about it. The amount of petty threads that covid has brought out is so sad.
This ^^
itsafig · 09/11/2020 09:27

It's not guidance from the government, don't peddle lies. Let people do what they want, provided masks are worn. 🤨

Kcar · 09/11/2020 09:28

I am so so so upset by this judgemental post I can’t even describe.

I’m angry that someone who has no idea of my circumstances has taken upon themselves to judge me when I HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG.

There’s always the mealy mouthed “I know there are exceptions but they can’t apply to all those people” which is reductive.

People are being othered and judged for complying with the law.

Why can’t you just assume the people are doing their best?

This thread will change nothing. If someone is enough of a dick to want to flout the guidance they are going to do it anyway.

But if someone is having a bad day, a thread like this can make it worse for them. It has really affected my mental health. I’m already coping with a lot and this is just enough to make me feel completely worthless.

I won’t take my daughter or anyone with me again. So the op achieved her objective. With no thought to how much harder that is going to make my life.

waterthedog · 09/11/2020 09:31

@Fischliweiss sure do! People spread the virus in all number of ways, but most easily in enclosed places with a high volume of people, supermarkets included.

MarthasGinYard · 09/11/2020 09:36

Is it not all just common senseConfused

canigooutyet · 09/11/2020 09:37

If we still lived without online shopping, my kids were young and I was with ex, we’d be that family people despise 🤣

I wasn’t being denied the pleasure of supermarket shopping just because I don’t drive. If that’s all people have to be bothered about, lucky you

waterthedog · 09/11/2020 09:39

And for those who don't believe lockdown works, take a look at the Melbourne case study. And yes lockdown was "law" not guidance. They now have almost 0 community transmission.

DarkMintChocolate · 09/11/2020 09:43

DD works in a pharmacy. She said it was significantly busier on Saturday - as if people are looking for an excuse to get out of the house!

We were going for a walk in the country for exercise on Sunday. We drove past a McDonalds. The queue for the drive through was right out to the main road. A McDonalds employee was standing on the road with a sign, saying they were full and to come back later. The only other time we have seen it so full, was the day after lockdown was lifted!

It defeats the object of a lockdown, if people use any excuse to go out more, to the places left open and they are more crowded!

borntohula · 09/11/2020 09:48

I have to go shopping with bf because we buy so many non essentials that it's impossible to manage alone.

sst1234 · 09/11/2020 09:52

I see the bat shot thread is still running. So now we have 19 pages of debate on whether people. An out shopping with their own family. Because some hysterical curtain twitcher is afraid of a virus that has a death rate of less than 1%, and even that’s if you are not social distancing.
Oh well, at least it gives these people something to moan about.....

Sparklingbrook · 09/11/2020 09:56

This thread is indeed ‘bat shot’. 😂

PatriciaPerch · 09/11/2020 10:10

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Nicknamegoeshere · 09/11/2020 10:14

It's surprising how so many people are apparently unaware of the "Shop alone whenever possible" guidance.

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