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Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

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CoronaOneSoz · 08/11/2020 13:36

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

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PurpleDaisies · 09/11/2020 18:49

@PIPSUE

Do you think so many people would be this unreasonable, if they were personally involved with, or even came face to face with, some of the medical staff who are facing death every day?
Some of the people not following the rules to the letter are medical staff.
Her1mum · 09/11/2020 18:54

My DH and I have followed the rules strictly. It pisses me off that so many people think it’s nobody else’s business when they don’t follow the rules. Actually it is my effing business if you help spread the pandemic because I will be affected by it so grow up and get some sense of responsibility!

BugCatcher879 · 09/11/2020 18:57

Yes following to the letter.

cherubtastic · 09/11/2020 18:59

I am. I’m with felicis. We are not laughing.
Personally still struggling 7 months post covid and working front line. Anyone who hasn’t had it or doesn’t witness it and wants to flout the rules are well within their rights to. Please sign a dnacpr/respect form!

Plunger · 09/11/2020 19:01

Following the rules - as we understand them! As grandparents we look after grandkids once a week Other grandparents opted out due to high health risk. We are both 70+. Will be looking after grandkids as forming a bubble with their parents so they can work. Think that's okay.

CuppaZa · 09/11/2020 19:14

Following the rules here

Abouttimemum · 09/11/2020 19:21

Yes we’re following the rules. Have done throughout. Currently isolating at home with DS 18 months as his nursery has closed due to covid and he’s been in contact with many positives!
It’s the third time this has happened since August.
I’ve taken the fortnight off work this time as I can’t bear the terrible feeling of being a shit parent and shit colleague again....sorting my Xmas shopping online and playing with 350 toys per nanosecond. Magnificent!

I understand to some degree some small breaches of guidance ref childcare etc but I’ve got no time for people meeting up in big groups, having people in their homes, house parties, massive groups of up to 100 at a local fireworks display. It’s stupidity.

Northernsoulgirl45 · 09/11/2020 19:25

Following rules here.

Abouttimemum · 09/11/2020 19:25

The current rules are on gov.uk and are very clear. You literally just have to google coronavirus rules. To not know them is absolutely laziness.
I’ve been clear on the rules throughout tbh. I’ve not found it particularly complicated 🤷‍♀️

LakieLady · 09/11/2020 19:26

@riotlady, I'm sure it's fine to bubble with a dog. After all, there have been no reports of canine Covid. Grin

I broke the rules today. I have an ongoing saga involving a disappearing builder and have had to find someone to complete the job he started (my house currently has no gutters!). A builder came to look at the job and has given me a fantastic price to overhaul the flat roof on the bay window, and he was so utterly lovely and kind we ended up having a hug.

We both held our breath though, so it doesn't count, and I sanitised my hands afterwards. Grin And the nervous breakdown I'd be having without his help would be worse than Covid.

clarehhh · 09/11/2020 19:34

Yes following rules here .

annabel85 · 09/11/2020 19:40

@Creatingausername

I dont know anyone following the rules. Hard to feel like we are on lockdown with almost everything open. When starbucks is essential you know its not a proper lockdown. It feels like a bit of a joke really
It's a farce and a sham, but it's a social virus and people need to cut all non-essential social interactions as much as they can where they can't at least reasonably distance from anyone else.
Ddot · 09/11/2020 19:41

I followed rules religiously first time, Made boyfriend some lunch and ate it on separate tables in alley. Must have only saw him once a fortnight. Dropped food off for old mam once a week. Now we have to do it all again because people are too selfish to wear a mask and keep distance. It's not fair, so I'm seeing my fella when I want.

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Doyouknowwhat · 09/11/2020 19:51

Abouttimemum, I have to disagree.

Rules say that DC can travel between 2 houses if parents are separated. My XH doesn't have a suitable home to host them in, so he comes here to see the DC. Is that allowed?

Or he could be counted as their informal childcare bubble, as he comes here when I'm working. But he lives in a flat share, and I have no idea if his flatmates have formed childcare bubbles with others. If they have then ours is against the rules, I think.

Or is he my support bubble, as I'm a single parent?

And once my eldest turns 18, can XH continue to come to see/provide childcare for the younger DC? Or does having a 18 year old in the house mean I can no longer make a childcare bubble?
And does the eldest suddenly have to stop seeing her dad on the date of her 18th birthday?

So many questions that I cant find answers to.

NaughtipussMaximus · 09/11/2020 19:55

We are. We both WFH, but DS is at school. We have no intention of breaking the lockdown, though we are the support bubble of a single parent friend who is mum to our DS’s best friend, which makes life slightly easier on all of us this time.

NaughtipussMaximus · 09/11/2020 19:56

@annabel85 Wow, really? You’re really going to go there?

VinylDetective · 09/11/2020 19:58

[quote NaughtipussMaximus]@annabel85 Wow, really? You’re really going to go there?[/quote]
So it seems. Unbelievable, isn’t it?

Arielsgift · 09/11/2020 19:59

@annabel85

Hah, what a twat.

Did you forget about Dominic Cummings?

Shewhomustbeobeyed1 · 09/11/2020 20:00

I now live in Sydney. The government went in Quickly and hard.

It’s Been proven here that you’re on a fools errand to flout sensible guidelines. The sooner everyone knuckles down, the sooner things will get back to normal.
Come on Britain 🇬🇧 you’ve got this. Good luck

Carpedimum · 09/11/2020 20:00

@annabel85 - you are joking aren’t you?!

peboh · 09/11/2020 20:01

Nobodies business what anybody else is doing quite frankly. I'm not putting my nose into peoples lives, if people want to follow the rules great, if people don't great. Stay in your own lane and let everyone else be.
I'm tired of this covid police dictatorship that people seem to be jumping on.

annabel85 · 09/11/2020 20:01

[quote Carpedimum]@annabel85 - you are joking aren’t you?![/quote]
Was an easy bite.

Barney60 · 09/11/2020 20:06

Yes. It totally p*** me off those that dont. 4 weeks possibly more is not a massive hard ship. I can only think those that dont have not been affected by this.

Belladonna12 · 09/11/2020 20:10

@peboh

Nobodies business what anybody else is doing quite frankly. I'm not putting my nose into peoples lives, if people want to follow the rules great, if people don't great. Stay in your own lane and let everyone else be. I'm tired of this covid police dictatorship that people seem to be jumping on.
Of course it's other people's business if what they do affects others!