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Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

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CoronaOneSoz · 08/11/2020 13:36

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

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notanothertakeaway · 09/11/2020 14:42

For people who say they don't know what the rules are, this may be helpful

Scroll down to find out what the rules are in your area by entering your postcode

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-54373904

Lolwhat · 09/11/2020 15:41

Following the rules, except my nans going to take me to the vets on Wednesday because I can’t see how it’s any different to getting an Uber

FilthyforFirth · 09/11/2020 15:43

Yes following the rules, but cannot get het up at people who arent.

GrumblyMumblyisnotJumbly · 09/11/2020 15:56

I've got the main jist - schools open, hospitality/leisure shut, cleaner still allowed in, rule of 6 now defunct- but the fine detail is getting harder to follow e.g. different types of bubble (childcare / support) In Leeds my aunty was moving to Tier 3 had just got their head around the rules for that and it was replaced with national lockdown before it started. The Gov need to stop chopping and changing so much!

munchkinman · 09/11/2020 17:26

Yes I am following them. Not met anyone socially and not even seeing my partner x

Ilovechocolatetoomuch · 09/11/2020 17:32

We are following the rules as is everybody I know.
You will always find irresponsible selfish people in the world unfortunately, it is sad.

pommedeterre · 09/11/2020 17:32

Felt like everything was open in our town on Saturday. I think people are not mixing inside others houses but lots of meetings outside. Im trying to stick to the rules but its feel a bit weird at the moment. Can't workout f its lockdown or not.

mumoftinyterrors · 09/11/2020 17:55

No. I’m not.

It’s BS. All of it.

megletthesecond · 09/11/2020 17:57

Yes. I'm a lone parent and lucky enough to WFH. No one to bubble with either.

tinks69 · 09/11/2020 17:59

Following them here - kids old enough to walk themselves to school - husband is a key worker I'm working from home - have a support bubble with my mum and stepdad only and my stepdad drives me to Aldi on a Saturday and I go do the shopping for both of us and that's it

iglpgl · 09/11/2020 18:02

I'm following the rules in place in my area, which is not in lockdown at the moment (tier 3).

Owl55 · 09/11/2020 18:03

I honestly feel that if you have elderly parents you should see them , hug them and show them your love but strictly follow safety measures . My mum was diagnosed with cancer in Late February and died early April . We all cared for her during the first lockdown despite the rules and we are so grateful for that time with her, even the Mc Millan nurse would hardly step over the doorstep! None of us became ill ourselves with covid .

calamityjam · 09/11/2020 18:03

I am yes. However my little town has been so heaving this weekend it looked like a festival. Everyone from miles around seemed to visit our woodlands, park and mostly closed town centre I couldn't move in the park to take the dog out

Julie269 · 09/11/2020 18:07

I am following all the rules, keep going. It annoys me when people can't be bothered. It is for 4 weeks. Every little helps.

keffie12 · 09/11/2020 18:08

Yes following it as best as. It does peeve me off when friends are still seeing there grandchildren.

We arent seeing them. Now I agree that we are doing the right thing. I wouldn't want to be a carrier

Others not doing it is keeping this going so for people like us who are following the rules it is extremely irritating and upsetting

cherish123 · 09/11/2020 18:09

Yes. I used to be regular cafe/restaurant visitor and have not been since March. I am not seeing anyone inside. I am a bit annoyed others aren't doing the same.

riotlady · 09/11/2020 18:10

I am mostly but I’m still going to my friend’s house to look after her dog when she’s on a long shift and I’ve got no idea if that’s against the rules! I think it would be ok if I’m getting paid but I’m not? Can you form a childcare bubble for a dog? Regardless, the chances of us spreading covid between the two of us via her household surfaces or dog seem slim and the dogs welfare takes priority imo.

FelicisNox · 09/11/2020 18:16

I'm following the rules.

It might feel like a joke to some but us NHS workers aren't laughing.

We're bloody exhausted: patients are filling up our wards again, 2 of my colleagues have caught it and are off sick and scores more are struggling with their mental health and after effects of having caught Covid during the 1st wave.

It's relentless.

starsparkle08 · 09/11/2020 18:17

I’m not

DameFanny · 09/11/2020 18:23

Still following the rules here, bubbled with widowed mother.

Thinking that anyone who thinks things should be normal in a pandemic - especially MPs - must be a bit of a fuckwit.

Looking forward to the vaccine rollout.

BogRollBOGOF · 09/11/2020 18:24

I illegally used my friend's toilet today at the start of our legal walk together.
It seemed a better option than urinating in a bush 5 minutes up the road.

I have rarely been in another house since March. Once in June because I'd reached the point of random sobbing and needed human contact with someone beyond my household and sitting legally in a garden for a few hours in torrential rain was more hazardous (hypothermia) than the risks of people WFM/ SAHP being together. And being in DM's house despite it allegedly being safer to sit in a cafe at the same table, and staff serving us, than to sit over 2m apart in a large room in a house.

Under rule of six, I find that it's better to bring both children out with me for a walk with another family/ their friends than to less illegally select one to leave at home unattended for a few hours.

I follow rules that are purposeful and do more good than harm.

jenkel · 09/11/2020 18:28

We are following the rules, pretty much religiously. But I know people that aren’t it does annoy me but there is nothing I can do. I am typically a law follower anyway, I want to avoid getting covid if I can, dh is vulnerable and I want to help get the country out of the mess we are in, I am desperate for life to get back to normal. I need to know that I have done as much as I can do to end this situation. I am a a bit of a control freak and obviously I have no control over this so I need it to end as soon as possible, if that means that I follow the rules so be it.

nokidshere · 09/11/2020 18:33

Yes we are. I dont really know anyone who isn't, although since I don't go out I probably wouldn't know anyway.

Fortyandfabulous · 09/11/2020 18:34

Not fully ie. allowing one friend in the house but this is because my 14 year old with ASD tried to commit suicide several times since the lockdown started in April. My GP and CAMHS advised us to keep things normal as much as possible as the risk of death for him is too high otherwise.

In the last lockdown we didn’t stick to the going out once a day rule and saw one friend at a time outside.

PIPSUE · 09/11/2020 18:47

Do you think so many people would be this unreasonable, if they were personally involved with, or even came face to face with, some of the medical staff who are facing death every day?